Blogs Jan 5, 2009 at 3:40 pm

Saddlebacking

Dan Savage
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Wait, if "bareback" is condomless anal sex, what do you call penile-vaginal intercourse without a condom? I always thought "bareback" was orientation/orifice agnostic.
on January 5, 2009 at 3:58 PM Report this
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Saddlebacking: talking out of both sides of your mouth while being rimmed.
on January 5, 2009 at 4:05 PM Report this
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"...And while saddles take away some of the thrill of riding bareback they do come equipped with stirrups, straps, and ropes."

So "saddlebacking" is safe kinky sex?

Hmm, I had originally thought of "saddlebacking" as riding a sex partner around the room like a polo pony during an orgy. I mean used in a sentence you could say: "During the last chukker, I remounted a Theta Chi and put the losers lead by scoring a field goal while I was rolling the Trojan."

So "saddlebacking" is stirrups, bridles, straps, ropes with condoms. Okay, I'll vote for Stuck In Boston.
on January 5, 2009 at 4:16 PM Report this
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My only problem with this definition is that it's a really positive activity, and should Warren be associated with something positive?
on January 5, 2009 at 4:43 PM Report this
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Wow. I am so out of touch.
on January 5, 2009 at 5:23 PM Report this
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Saddlebacking is ANAL sex with a condom. Fundies will still hate it because it's in the no-no, and the definition still fits.
on January 5, 2009 at 5:29 PM Report this
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Anthony H or Amy Kate Horn, emeritus: Please explain how this week's Savage Love is "online only in Seattle." I couldn't get passed that first sentence. Am I having a senior moment or is there something about the internet I don't know? Putting a sub domain of /seattle after your website does not mean your web browser knows to block a page if you live in outside of Seattle. Or does it?!

on January 5, 2009 at 5:56 PM Report this
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@7 The column is in print in other cities, but online-only in Seattle because the Stranger didn't publish a print edition this week.

(will copy edit for snacks)
on January 5, 2009 at 6:01 PM Report this
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In Seattle, I believe, it is online-only due to there being no new Stranger this week. In, say, Denver, you can find the column in print, but in Seattle you can only find it online.
on January 5, 2009 at 6:02 PM Report this
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of course. i forgot about dan's syndication. thank you everyone.
on January 5, 2009 at 6:55 PM Report this
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josh: is "online only" a split infinitive? because "only" can be read two ways, and the meaning changes between "in Seattle you will only find this online" and this is only online in Seattle and no where else."
on January 5, 2009 at 6:58 PM Report this
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oops, forgot a set of quotation marks. should be:

"this is only online in Seattle and no where else." I wasn't kidding about going back to school.
on January 5, 2009 at 7:00 PM Report this
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"the implicit assuption that sex without a condom is somehow more fun and more exciting."

That assumption is implicit because it is true.
on January 5, 2009 at 7:05 PM Report this
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Isn't Rick Warren always going on about how he loves the gays because he looks after people who are dying from AIDS? Naming a safe-sex activity after him will only stroke his ego.
on January 5, 2009 at 7:17 PM Report this
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yep. buttsecks with a condom = saddlebacking.
on January 5, 2009 at 7:47 PM Report this
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"Online-only" should have a hyphen, as it is two adjectives used together to describe a noun.

It is not a split infinitive (where a word comes between a "to" and its verb: "to boldly go where no one has gone before") and there are arguments in academic circles as to whether split infinitives matter at all. I mean, seriously, do we really want to hear, "to go boldly where no one has gone before?"

It's a bit like the ending-a-sentence-with-a-preposition issue.



Saddlebacking: anal sex with condoms? Works for me.
on January 5, 2009 at 10:19 PM Report this
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"LESS THAN A QUARTER of men who have sex with men surveyed in San Francisco used condoms"

As a heterosexual I feel so guilty that we haven't devoted the resources to curing AIDS.
Must Do More!!!
on January 6, 2009 at 6:23 AM Report this
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I think that "saddlebacking" as a term for protected, safe sex, of any kind is anti-warren because dogmatically, the only sex allowed in the saddleback world is that of procreative sex within the confines of heterosexual marriage. So, if a condom is used, particularly in an act of premarital, extramarital, or post-marital, or can't marital sex, it is thumbing your nose at warren, et al.
on January 6, 2009 at 8:35 AM Report this
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@1
I've heard barebacking refer to both anal and vaginal sex without a condom. So saddlebacking should be vaginal OR anal sex with a condom.
Plus women are more derelict in condom use than gay men and could use a fun word for safe sex as badly as the gays.
After all, wouldn't you rather tell a partner who wants to have sex without a condom (gay/straight/anal/vaginal) "No way I'm a saddleback guy/girl/MTF/FTM/ETC" than "I only play safe" or the clinical "I only use condoms"?
on January 6, 2009 at 10:23 AM Report this
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@1

Yeah, I've heard/used the term in reference to vaginal unprotected sex as well.

While I'd like to see "saddlebacking" refer to something negative a la Santorum, it does seem like an obviously great term for protected sex, which does need a term. So.
on January 6, 2009 at 3:12 PM Report this
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I would think that saddleback is when you lose your condom in your partner's ass. I want my saddle back.
on January 6, 2009 at 7:25 PM Report this
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Sometimes, the obvious answer is the way to go. While some of these definitions are quite funny, they just don't have the staying power we're looking for.

Saddlebacking is the opposite of barebacking. It's still funny, when a guy's got a megachurch named after condom sex (or vice-versa). Even a mildly naughty definition will eventually force him to change the name of his church. But only if it sticks!
on January 19, 2009 at 11:34 AM Report this
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The Saddleback church is some evangelistic church somewhere. Their young female members preserve their (vaginal) virginity for their wedding night by engaging in Gomorrahian acts with their boyfriends. Hence: saddlebacking
on February 17, 2009 at 10:22 AM Report this
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"If "barebacking" is unprotected sex, "saddlebacking" is sex with a condom"
I myself do like the "barebacking" term much more and also the "barebacking" as an act too!
Even the newest and thinnest condoms can't compare with the "barebacking" sex
BUT! Of course, there are certain rules - it's possible only with the "approved" partner =)
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