Wait, if "bareback" is condomless anal sex, what do you call penile-vaginal intercourse without a condom? I always thought "bareback" was orientation/orifice agnostic.
"...And while saddles take away some of the thrill of riding bareback they do come equipped with stirrups, straps, and ropes."
So "saddlebacking" is safe kinky sex?
Hmm, I had originally thought of "saddlebacking" as riding a sex partner around the room like a polo pony during an orgy. I mean used in a sentence you could say: "During the last chukker, I remounted a Theta Chi and put the losers lead by scoring a field goal while I was rolling the Trojan."
So "saddlebacking" is stirrups, bridles, straps, ropes with condoms. Okay, I'll vote for Stuck In Boston.
Anthony H or Amy Kate Horn, emeritus: Please explain how this week's Savage Love is "online only in Seattle." I couldn't get passed that first sentence. Am I having a senior moment or is there something about the internet I don't know? Putting a sub domain of /seattle after your website does not mean your web browser knows to block a page if you live in outside of Seattle. Or does it?!
In Seattle, I believe, it is online-only due to there being no new Stranger this week. In, say, Denver, you can find the column in print, but in Seattle you can only find it online.
josh: is "online only" a split infinitive? because "only" can be read two ways, and the meaning changes between "in Seattle you will only find this online" and this is only online in Seattle and no where else."
Isn't Rick Warren always going on about how he loves the gays because he looks after people who are dying from AIDS? Naming a safe-sex activity after him will only stroke his ego.
"Online-only" should have a hyphen, as it is two adjectives used together to describe a noun.
It is not a split infinitive (where a word comes between a "to" and its verb: "to boldly go where no one has gone before") and there are arguments in academic circles as to whether split infinitives matter at all. I mean, seriously, do we really want to hear, "to go boldly where no one has gone before?"
It's a bit like the ending-a-sentence-with-a-preposition issue.
Saddlebacking: anal sex with condoms? Works for me.
I think that "saddlebacking" as a term for protected, safe sex, of any kind is anti-warren because dogmatically, the only sex allowed in the saddleback world is that of procreative sex within the confines of heterosexual marriage. So, if a condom is used, particularly in an act of premarital, extramarital, or post-marital, or can't marital sex, it is thumbing your nose at warren, et al.
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I've heard barebacking refer to both anal and vaginal sex without a condom. So saddlebacking should be vaginal OR anal sex with a condom.
Plus women are more derelict in condom use than gay men and could use a fun word for safe sex as badly as the gays.
After all, wouldn't you rather tell a partner who wants to have sex without a condom (gay/straight/anal/vaginal) "No way I'm a saddleback guy/girl/MTF/FTM/ETC" than "I only play safe" or the clinical "I only use condoms"?
Yeah, I've heard/used the term in reference to vaginal unprotected sex as well.
While I'd like to see "saddlebacking" refer to something negative a la Santorum, it does seem like an obviously great term for protected sex, which does need a term. So.
Sometimes, the obvious answer is the way to go. While some of these definitions are quite funny, they just don't have the staying power we're looking for.
Saddlebacking is the opposite of barebacking. It's still funny, when a guy's got a megachurch named after condom sex (or vice-versa). Even a mildly naughty definition will eventually force him to change the name of his church. But only if it sticks!
The Saddleback church is some evangelistic church somewhere. Their young female members preserve their (vaginal) virginity for their wedding night by engaging in Gomorrahian acts with their boyfriends. Hence: saddlebacking
"If "barebacking" is unprotected sex, "saddlebacking" is sex with a condom"
I myself do like the "barebacking" term much more and also the "barebacking" as an act too!
Even the newest and thinnest condoms can't compare with the "barebacking" sex
BUT! Of course, there are certain rules - it's possible only with the "approved" partner =)
So "saddlebacking" is safe kinky sex?
Hmm, I had originally thought of "saddlebacking" as riding a sex partner around the room like a polo pony during an orgy. I mean used in a sentence you could say: "During the last chukker, I remounted a Theta Chi and put the losers lead by scoring a field goal while I was rolling the Trojan."
So "saddlebacking" is stirrups, bridles, straps, ropes with condoms. Okay, I'll vote for Stuck In Boston.
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"this is only online in Seattle and no where else." I wasn't kidding about going back to school.
That assumption is implicit because it is true.
It is not a split infinitive (where a word comes between a "to" and its verb: "to boldly go where no one has gone before") and there are arguments in academic circles as to whether split infinitives matter at all. I mean, seriously, do we really want to hear, "to go boldly where no one has gone before?"
It's a bit like the ending-a-sentence-with-a-preposition issue.
Saddlebacking: anal sex with condoms? Works for me.
As a heterosexual I feel so guilty that we haven't devoted the resources to curing AIDS.
Must Do More!!!
I've heard barebacking refer to both anal and vaginal sex without a condom. So saddlebacking should be vaginal OR anal sex with a condom.
Plus women are more derelict in condom use than gay men and could use a fun word for safe sex as badly as the gays.
After all, wouldn't you rather tell a partner who wants to have sex without a condom (gay/straight/anal/vaginal) "No way I'm a saddleback guy/girl/MTF/FTM/ETC" than "I only play safe" or the clinical "I only use condoms"?
Yeah, I've heard/used the term in reference to vaginal unprotected sex as well.
While I'd like to see "saddlebacking" refer to something negative a la Santorum, it does seem like an obviously great term for protected sex, which does need a term. So.
Saddlebacking is the opposite of barebacking. It's still funny, when a guy's got a megachurch named after condom sex (or vice-versa). Even a mildly naughty definition will eventually force him to change the name of his church. But only if it sticks!
I myself do like the "barebacking" term much more and also the "barebacking" as an act too!
Even the newest and thinnest condoms can't compare with the "barebacking" sex
BUT! Of course, there are certain rules - it's possible only with the "approved" partner =)