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As in "my wife is very understanding."
Seriously, do we really expect that the "whittols" of decades back were indifferent? Or did they experience unexplained mysterious boners in a time when there was no place for discussion of the fact?
There's only one way a man could be completely indifferent to the fact that his wife's pussy has been recently occupied. And that's if the man had completely quite said pussy and moved on to fresh pastures.
(And if the expense of raising kids was off the table as a risk-- either she was post-childbearing or he was obscenely rich).
Rotanocular (adding rota- turn): turning a blind eye
Both from the idea that the guy is "turning a blind eye to his wife's infidelities." Both fairly easy to say. Either one spark any interest?
That, in itself, explains the necessity for such a term (and attitude) in earlier times, and the fact that the word is falling out of use nowadays.
(note: the "or" in my first sentence is non-exclusive [those who participated in the linguistics discussion on another thread will understand])
I think wittols were considerably more tolerant than the average guy, who would have DONE SOMETHING ABOUT THIS OMG TERRIBLE SITUATION (as per eclexia @6).
"cuckold" refers to someone who gets off on his wife fucking someone else when DAN USES IT or when talking specifically about cuckold fantasies/fetishes. The word doesn't actually mean that if we're talking origin, dictionary definition, and predominant usage.
A cuckold is someone whose wife is fucking around, but the true definition in no way requires or means the cuckold likes it. It's an older term and if you look at literature from or set in the period when it was in more popular usage, it is extremely obvious that the cuckold did not enjoy he was a cuckold, could be a cuckold without knowing it (secret affairs), and it had nothing to do with the fetish that often comes up in Savage Love columns. This is the importance (or the former importance) of the word wittol—a wittol doesn’t mind his wife sleeping around; a cuckold minds it very much (if he knows). Cuckoldry is/was associated with humiliation, and possibly that is part of the fantasy/fetish, hence the use of cuckold vs. wittol or some other word for that sexual practice.
There, fixed that for ya.
(Side note: as some French and Italian friends explained to me, the reason why they don't get divorced over an affair has nothing to do with them being more open-minded, but rather with the difficulty and length of divorce proceedings until about a generation ago).
Even then, if you needed to invoke adultery as a motive for divorce (or as a defense for murder), you might have been treated with ridicule as a cuckhold (which is still one of the worst insults that can be directed at a man in many cultures... some Western cultures, too). That would have been worse to many than tolerating a discreet infidelity. If said infidelity was discreet, obviously. It would have been a different matter if the whole town knew...
Depending on the lover, I can be a wittol or a cuckold (though I guess I'm always a cuckold by the original meaning). Some lovers I simply don't care to know about my wife having her way with, others I find it terribly exciting...and no I have not "quit" her nor has she "quit" me.
And if so, who's the more tolerant of the other's "infidelities"?
But canceling aerodrome? No way! I love that word. Bring back Aerodrome!!!
As in he is pussy whipped.
this particular term has great utility as metaphor, or analogy. As someone who tolerates "infidelities," wittol could be a great name for all sorts of conservatives who look right past moral discretions when they are done by other conservatives. Hate the stimulus but don't mind that your ally Michelle Bachmann is hot-and-heavy in pursuit of stimulus money? You're a wittol. Think Anthony Weiner should have been thrown out of Congress but look the other way when big shitter is waxing hypocrisy. You're a wittol.
Get Andrew Sullivan and Markos and Keith Olbermann in on this.
I don't see why the similarity to "whittle" is a problem: there is no context where one could confuse the two words, and it's not like English has no homophones already. Words don't die out just cause they sound like other words.
http://www.dailykos.com/story/2011/08/23…
"Beta"
However, I question the definition of 'cuckold' in Dan's post. I don't think it has widespread understanding as described there. Cuckold to me means a guy who doesn't know his wife is off fucking someone else and who would blow his top if he did; it also refers to how other people -- all of whom know about it but he doesn't -- view him. I had no idea there was a fetishized definition of it, and I'm not sure that can be taken to be cuckold's dominant definition, really.
To me, a guy who gets off seeing / knowing about his wife with others is a type of poly. I'd actually think you'd want to come up with a neologism for this, rather than re-use a word with perfectly solid meaning that tends to confuse things.
There's an old bull and a young bull standing on a hill overlooking a heard of cows.
The young bull says to the old bull, "I've got a great idea, let's run down there and fuck one of those cows!"
The old bull thinks for a moment and says, "I have a better idea. Let's walk down there and fuck 'em all."
So, go ahead, spend all your energy controlling things and being an "alpha." Some of us who aren't so uptight will be over here, being beats who get more ass than the proverbial toilet seat.
from the Miller's tale (Chaucer) is a cuckold.
The cuckold fetish is not about the enjoyment your derive from your wife being fucked by another man, but about the enjoyment you derive from the HUMILIATION brought about by knowing your wife is being fucked by another man.
As for the teabaggers, I find it so amusingly ironic. I always picture them with a scrotum on their forehead.
@49: In fairness, it was mostly people making fun of the tea partiers who called them 'teabaggers.'
As far as neologisms go, poly people sometimes use the word 'compersion' to mean the enjoyment they get from their partner's pleasure (the opposite of sexual jealousy).