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1
Wonderful story, adorable picture. He's got the same gorgeous grin as always, eh?
2
That picture makes me cry.
3
That is so precious and heartwarming. Thanks for sharing that story.
4
what a happy, good-looking kid! the only part of this story that isn't heartwarming is that terry needed donna summer so much in the first place, just to feel ok about himself. but since he did, unfortunately, thank goodness she was there!
5
Beautiful picture and story.
6
wonder how he would have turned out listening to sabbath
7
That's a cute picture of Schmader. And it does seem out of place for a seemingly typical straight boy to be so happily holding a Donna Summer album. Straight boys simply aren't known to idolize disco. If I saw this photo without knowing anything about the boy in it, I would wonder if he's gay - and I'd be right.

(Nothing wrong with any of this, so don't jump on me. I just think there's a little bit of truth in some stereotypes.)
8
I remember that story! Thanks for reposting it. @6, maybe more Rob Halford-y?
9
Oh, Terry, not Schmader. Pay attention, I know. I was too busy thinking about how stereotypically gay that is.

Cute picture, still!
10
@2: Me too! He looks so thrilled!
11
Such a sweet photo. Yeah for Donna Summer!
12
@7, I'll jump on you for thinking that's a picture of Schmader, for sure. Read the post again, but slooooowly.
13
Good story! Great Diva. You both.
14
Love it.
15
<3 Aww Terry, that is lovely.
16
Greatest picture ever.
17
For good fun, go to the original 2007 article, click on the link to Terry's blog, and see what comes up.
18
Hey @7...I'll challenge the notion of straight boys and disco. This very straight, if ever so metro (hate the term) straight boy loves disco. And Donna.

…and I'd say that the gay boys simply have no ability to truly appreciate the full Donna Summers. Just looking at the album cover and art for Bad Girls catapulted me into a better understanding of my own sexuality. :-)
19
I think the album Bad Girls was when I started appreciating Donna the most. I was a serious devotee to just about everything after that. "I Feel Love" was music to 'lude up and screw to. This album was made for people who loved to dance - and it wasn't just more silly/fun disco. When the album started getting airplay, I can't tell you how excited nearly everyone was about it.

Does anyone remember Donna doing "Poppa Can You Hear Me?" at the Oscars. It was the same year Jennifer Holliday sang "The Way He Makes Me Feel." Two exquisite moments in Oscar history.

Thanks for everything, Ms. Donna. Little Terry. Happy at last.
20
P.S. My mom had that couch too, the sofabed model. Many many naugas gave up their hyde in its construction....
21
D'awwwww!
22
I also loved Summers' "She Works Hard for the Money" -- not many (or any other) pop tunes (or videos) celebrate women's work.
23
My wife, the same age as Terry, is also huge Donna Summer fan. At eight she used to shamelessly roller-dance to Hot Stuff in her parents Florida driveway.

So today in our office we are in mourning.

MOURNING WITH AN ALL-DAY SEXY DANCE PARTY!
24
So glad Terry found the lifeline he needed to escape the crap he had to deal with every day. My hope for everyone is that someday we won't be so shitty to each other that those kinds of lifelines are needed.

Adorable pic BTW. RIP Donna.
25
god that's the cutest picture...
26
I love this story, and someday Dan will have to admit that at heart, he's really a sweet, nice, caring guy...
27
Outstanding story!
28
Wow, look at that plastic on the couch. It seems super uncomfortable.
29
Oh, and... Terry still has that album, the very one in the picture. When I get home from work today I expect to find Terry sprawled out on the floor, headphones on, listening to it over and over again.
30
@17 I wish I could read spanish. Google translate is only helping so much today.
31
That really is the sweetest picture ever.
32
Thank you for reposting. The picture is adorable.
33
This was so touching. I remember thinking that when I first read it, too.

The listening to pop music while hiding under the sheets at night resonated so much with me (mine were Raggedy Ann, by the way). My parents weren't evangelical, but they were older (when I was born, my dad was 45 and my mom was 36, and I was the first child for both of them), and 70s and 80s music kind of scared them, so I wasn't allowed to listen to it.

But then I got an AM/FM radio for my birthday. It was from Radio Shack, and it was stuck into the stomach of a stuffed racoon. The racooon provided just enough muffling that, if I laid my head on it, I could keep the volume low enough that my dad wouldn't hear it when he walked by my room on the way to the bathroom at night.
34
Great picture of a beautiful boy. His sweet face defines joy.

Thanks for sharing!

And, good to know that someone else performs their own musicals. The world could use more people like us.
35
@29 Dammit, Dan. Stop talking about Terry being sprawled out on the floor when you get home. You're making even the straight guys jealous, you lucky fucker.

"At my Evangelical Christian middle school we were forced to attend lectures on "Rock 'n' Roll and Satanism"."
I remember those. It led my older brother to shoot up dad's KISS album with a BB gun. It led me to collecting records and musicology, and much laughter later in life over the paranoia about AC/DC. (Turns out they were a bad-ass rock band, not a bisexual conspiracy!)
36
@30, dat ain't Spanish. Looks more Italian or Portuguese.
37
Aww, teh sweetest, ya'all made me cry with that.
38
@30 ok, I obviously have no idea what I'm talking about. The internet says it's Romanian.
39
@20, we never had that couch but my relatives did. Oh, the creaking! Oh, the ripping flesh when you stood up after sitting down wearing shorts!
40
Ahh, "Rock 'n' Roll and Satanism". Those were the days when an Evangelical but not quite normal kid could be induced into a vision of evil so entrancing that it warps him for life...
41
I love this picture and story so much.
42
Thanks Dan & Terry. I love stories about the power of music!
43
I love that Donna began Terry's It Gets Better project. I think many, many people would like to thank her for being their own early personal saviour.

Rest In Peace, Donna Summer

Hugs to Terry today.
44
I'd forgotten about Terry's old blog. I got some great stuff off there. I think one was the twenty minute long Patrick Cowley remix of "I Feel Love."
45
Thank you for sharing that, Terry.
46
"My parents had no idea what an impact that album would have on me. I memorized all the lyrics. I made up dance moves to every song—even the slow ones. I came up with a story for the album as if it were a musical. (I even wrote a script!) And I came home from school every day and performed my Donna Summer musical alone in my basement."

This makes me cry. The thought that anyone would have all this joy, and no one to share it with. I'm glad Terry's not alone now.
47
Cute kid, great little story. "I feel love" and the various remixes remains one of my all time favorites dance songs, that can still bring a tingle to my spine. And I recall, State of Independance, last song on this album blew me away when I heard it from my friend, Benoit. I was more into punk, back then, but Ms. Summer's music transcended all music types and made friend of us all on the dance floor. May her strong spirit move on and continue to carry light....
48
Just a little dust in my eyes... nothing to worry about. Sniffling must be because of the dust, too.

Such a wonderful photo and story. Thanks.
49
Love the photo, love the story. I've got a kid that age now... just starting to develop her own taste in music...and in other things, I guess. The look on Terry's face - it just gets right in you.
50
Great story. Love disco... still not gay (@7). ")
51
I can't believe you are rehabilitating this person. She was utterly hateful to gay people -- who made her career. Another homophobe bites the dust. Enjoy Hell.
52
Dan, correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't Summers, during the 80s, denounce gays after she became all jesusy? I remember reading an interview with her back then saying she also didn't like singing Bad Girls anymore because it dealt with prostitution. She may have later recanted those statements but I remember thinking it was still a slap to a community that made her a star.
53
Nice story. Hope you and Terry keep diaries. Such interesting lives.

RIP Donna.
54
Great story.......and Terry, what a doll!
55
Donna Summer saved my life many times. It was her music and voice that kept me going in my darkest days. Amazing how a performer and their music can be so powerful. My Mom bought me a Donna Summer album once too for my birthday. It was On The Radio, Greatest Hits. I was in shear joy and was totally floored when it also came with that amazing poster of Donna sitting on the radio.
56
I will ALWAYS love Donna Summer's music !!! Her story is not black and white, rarely are things so. But I recently came across this interview with Giorgio Moroder ;
"Divergent personal beliefs turned that professional fissure into a fault. "Donna became quite religious," says Moroder, as he strides past a wall of gold and platinum records. "She made me record a dance song about Jesus, dear God. And she really did not like gays — her attitude was sometimes difficult in the '80s." (Summer has denied ever making anti-gay statements.) "We were never 'estranged,' but for a long time we did not have the relationship we once did." I'm very sorry she passed away way too soon.
I got the chance to see her in concert three times and when she sang "Heaven's Just A Whisper Away", I felt like she was singing to me, there was no one else but us. It's the only time that's ever happened to me at a concert. I'm extremely grateful she graced the world with her BEAUTIFUL music.
P.S. People, please, it's "Donna Summer", not Donna Summers". I'm just saying is all.
Peace to all.
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I will ALWAYS love Donna Summer's music !!! Her story is not black and white, rarely are things so. But I recently came across this interview with Giorgio Moroder ;
"Divergent personal beliefs turned that professional fissure into a fault. "Donna became quite religious," says Moroder, as he strides past a wall of gold and platinum records. "She made me record a dance song about Jesus, dear God. And she really did not like gays — her attitude was sometimes difficult in the '80s." (Summer has denied ever making anti-gay statements.) "We were never 'estranged,' but for a long time we did not have the relationship we once did." I'm very sorry she passed away way too soon.
I got the chance to see her in concert three times and when she sang "Heaven's Just A Whisper Away", I felt like she was singing to me, there was no one else but us. It's the only time that's ever happened to me at a concert. I'm extremely grateful she graced the world with her BEAUTIFUL music.
P.S. People, please, it's "Donna Summer", not Donna Summers". I'm just saying is all.
Peace to all.
58
I first heard her singing when I was next door, visiting my neighbors, who had just moved in, from Jamaica. She really moved me, with the power of her big voice, which she held out in those iconic, famous notes. But she was also vulnerable. I think she really knew how to work those qualities, but they were genuinely hers. As I became a fan, and read more about her, I think, as a ten year old, I felt her maternal quality, I wasn't sure what the hell LTLYB was all about, but her essence, that her performances were this vulnerable person, who was really very shy and awkward, at heart, but she engaged herself in her art, and created, what I believe to be, a transcendence of self-doubt, ordinariness, the mundane, when she sang. I guess to her, it was a religious transcendence, but to me her performance was very cathartic, and gave me hope, as I had experienced, and felt, the abuse that my own sweet mother experienced daily. My mother, who was a year older than Donna, and an artist, stayed in a bad situation, and ultimately lost her life for it. Unnoticed by many, but unforgettable by myself. Donna really showed us the art in the make-up and the fake up, and with the inseparable theme of love, that just saturates all the colors of her work, she showed us love, and just how beautiful she could make life be. She saved me too. I feel for her.

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