Columns Jul 1, 2010 at 4:00 am

Turning Dominatrix Ain't Easy

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Maybe the giant multi-room dungeon concept would have worked better if they'd offered classes or something community oriented? I don't think I would paint my dungeon aquamarine, though.
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Oh well, sounds like she's got the attitude right, at least.
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so where in New York are they?
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"Tight-lipped, Norwegian tizzy" is the best descriptor ever.
5
Well, they CAN work in places other than New York. California has 3 very successful ones I can think of off the top of my head, all of which have been around for years, if not decades in some instances. They do web marketing and scheduling like any other pro-domme, as well as run public events. I suspect most of their business is NOT walk-in off the street, in fact. A Seattle house that started small with 2 or 3 women working out of the same dungeon would probably not run into many problems or have the neighbors carrying pitchforks and torches.....
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But in this case... what DOES a woman who wants to work as a domme do in order to start? Work at home? Place ads in magazines? Start a website? Is that how it works?
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Mistress Matisse,

A dominatrix needs to be kinda hot. When I called mistress Danielle she sounded husky. When you dominatrixs start doing outcalls then call me and we'll have some fun together. I'm not going to your home court and having you secretly filming me for your personal gain.

Need more hot dominatrixs!
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That sounds ghastly. Sitting in a metal folding chair during a support group meeting is hardcore punishment.
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@#7: I assume by your context that "sound husky" means "sounds fat". How the hell does someone sound fat?

Oh, and film you for personal gain? Really? That's the behavior of a vindictive ex, not a professional dominatrix.
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@7--lol, paranoia will destroy ya.

And, for the record, I'm not a big fan of those bikini espresso stands either. They're just weird to me. I'm looking for hot milk, not hot milf.
11
steven.b is a pro-douche!
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@2: touché!
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In all fairness though, bikini espresso stands are really stupid.
14
I am not sure why, but walking into an aquamarine colored BDSM factory filled with irritated wage-workers sounds really indimidating. Plus, living in an alley off interbay myself the neighborhood is all wrong. You would probably have to dodge stray golf balls from the driving range just to get through the parking lot. Add in a collosal failure of marketing and what do you have? Epic business failure. Probably would have happened in any American city, Scandinavian puritanicalism or not.
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Steven B, don't flatter yourself. Why would a pro-domme film you, or any other client? Cause that's what you are - a client - not a fantasy that a professional wants to re-live after the session is over.
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Funny, I'm having the opposite experience having moved to the LA area.
Clients expect that I will be working in a Professional Dungeon! Coming from the comforts of My own dungeon in the NW, this is inconceivable to Me.

And to the poster wishing for out calls from Pro Dommes..........highly unlikely darlin...........and so is the idea that any of us would be remotely interested in secretly taping our sessions with you. Better check that ego at the door of My dungeon or I will beat it out of you ..........consensually of course!
If I had a dollar for every request I have had to be filmed........well, I would be richer!

The point being, no Domme is interested in "secretly" taping any sessions for use later on......don't need to, nor are you going to be so spectacular that we would want to review the tape again and again for our personal collection!
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@16 "The point being, no Domme is interested in "secretly" taping any sessions for use later on......don't need to, nor are you going to be so spectacular that we would want to review the tape again and again for our personal collection!"

Narcissistic subs? Whoodathunkit!

Though TBQH, I could see some more "well-respected members of the community" being paranoid about their proclivities getting out.
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@7 sounds like a classic case of projection (as iot were). *You* would like tapes of your session to jerk off over, so of course the pro domme would as well. I've never been a pro domme, but I have worked in other aspects of the sex industry and believe me, viewing film of my clients (even the nicer ones) would be very, very low on my fun ways to spend the weekend, right after cleaning the gutters and scrubbing the toilet.
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Are you people ullitterate (I'm not sure how to spell that word- it's the one describing not being able to read)?

@7 referred to doms secretly filming him "for [their] personal gain." As in blackmail. And that sort of thing happens. Didn't you read East of Eden?
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Anyone else see the irony of stating you can't spell illiterate in a post using said word? chuckles
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Not really. What they meant was obvious.
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"Are you people ullitterate (I'm not sure how to spell that word- it's the one describing not being able to read)?"

I thought that was hilarious, kungfujew, as is your alias.

Yes, his point was obvious, but that makes it no less stupid. "Pro" sex workers who engage in blackmail don't remain viable businesses for long. And anyone who hires a sex worker, with the intention of having them inflict pain, is an idiot if they don't check the person's reputation thoroughly first.

A bad domme is more likely to do you damage than to blackmail you; after all, they risk exposing their own often-underreported source of income as well. But if you don't check reputations, you might find yourself in the hands of someone who thinks "anything goes" or who simply doesn't have enough experience to know how to engage in kink safely and effectively.

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