As a man of course the desire is there at times to wander. But if you love your companion and you have other interests in life besides television and sex it need not be an obsessive distraction. My companion is more than my sex object she is my friend, companion, co worker, and we have common interests. And we have our own interests that we sometimes share but not always. I love her have no plan for straying and have avoided advances from other females. The best thing is we have our own space even when we are together. Some couples live right up each others asses.
I do not mean to judge but I trust her and she me. Could it happen both being in our late 50's not likely. Would it be the end of the world for either of us not likely but it would be painful and leave a scar.

Nearly 11 years later... I think that people are having a hissy fit over a lack of clarity of words.

Do all men actively think about going out and fucking other women? No. Sure they think about sex. Sure they see sexy women and consider how good of a fuck they'd be. Sure they get hard when they see hot women. and of course they still get excited about boobies that don't belong to their significant others...

But come on... Just cause I started a relationship with my boyfriend doesn't mean someone I've viewed as sexy forever (say Jensen Ackles) suddenly ceases to be sexy. Of course not, that's absurd... and It'd ludicrous for us to expect that to be any different for men.

Now, if they are in a committed monogamous relationship that means that Okay, she's hot, and she'd make a nice fuck... but I'm not gonna do it. It's a choice. Just as any other aspect of a relationship or commitment is.

I'd even be considered the Naive type. I'm a 23 yo virgin who has a boyfriend who is about to explode... (and yes, i 100% trust him)... but i also make sure he's getting often release... Does that mean he no longer thinks hot girls are hot? no. he just doesn't go fuck em because of it. it's not rocket science, i don't know why all these women got so upset!

Is the curse of the All Italics still active?

can it be broken???

I'd just like to say that I definitely agree that most straight men in relationships think about or want to fuck other women. However, I'm sure there are a lot of straight women who also want to fuck other men, myself included. Women just seem to be unable to admit that they have a lot of the same impulses and desires as men. I know I would enjoy going to a strip club and watching hot men take off their clothes.

*raises hand* Taking Limber Lesbian's advice. (Just saying... I'm sure I don't represent the majority.) We're still at step 4, which is so cute. I don't mind taking my time to get to and enjoy the hell out of 9 : P

There! Got it!

Watching a woman have sex does not make you think that all women are just pieces of meat or sex objects. That's like saying that watching a woman sing a song makes you think that all women are nothing but singers who have no purpose but to entertain you.

What porn does do is contradict the shame that religious authoritarians want you to feel about sex. That's the real reason they hate porn. It helps the victims of a religious upbringing heal themselves of the self-hating psychological damage that can otherwise rob them of the full enjoyment of sex for their entire lives.