AWESOME! you may get flak for the Christian bit, but I agree 100%. I don't understand religion in general. I understand WHY some people feel they need it, but I don't understand the illusion they place on themselves that is all real. Religion is man made and archaic. Created to explain how the world worked the way it does and why things happened.

That is until something known as SCIENCE came along and showed people that can know things beyond a reasonable doubt, and if something is currently uncertain, doesn't mean it can't be researched under the same scrutiny as the rest of science and has to be the result of a deity.

ANYWAYS, away from the scientific and religious tangent.

For me, coming out (which I admit I haven't) in that I have friends that no I am gay and if confronted I admit I am, I just don't go around saying it to everyone I meet. I'm a dude that likes dudes. Its that simple. I don't need to be flowery (i'd have to agree with the 2nd guy about disliking feminine men, if girlyness were my thing I'd like women lol)

Enough rambling though, PEACE!

AWESOME! you may get flak for the Christian bit, but I agree 100%. I don't understand religion in general. I understand WHY some people feel they need it, but I don't understand the illusion they place on themselves that is all real. Religion is man made and archaic. Created to explain how the world worked the way it does and why things happened.

That is until something known as SCIENCE came along and showed people that can know things beyond a reasonable doubt, and if something is currently uncertain, doesn't mean it can't be researched under the same scrutiny as the rest of science and has to be the result of a deity.

ANYWAYS, away from the scientific and religious tangent.

For me, coming out (which I admit I haven't) in that I have friends that no I am gay and if confronted I admit I am, I just don't go around saying it to everyone I meet. I'm a dude that likes dudes. Its that simple. I don't need to be flowery (i'd have to agree with the 2nd guy about disliking feminine men, if girlyness were my thing I'd like women lol)

Enough rambling though, PEACE!

CIO's boyfriend may be allowing his shame about his cheating and his being gay to bleed into his feelings of friendship. Once it became sexual, the shame spoiled the friendship.

The shame about cheating could perhaps be reduced by realizing that it's not entirely his fault. The society that pressured him to conform to heterosexuality to the point of getting married bears much of the responsibility.

It would be best for him to be honest with his wife and come to some sort of agreement, stay together for the kids perhaps. Or, who knows, perhaps she'd like an occasional hot MMF threesome!