It's also possible that he was just personalizing the pregnancy, showing that he does care?

Now, not to be one of those people who get all up in arms about one of your statements... but I don't think closed adoption should be blanketed under the phrase "cruel, unfair, and unnecessary." I was adopted in such an adoption and have a relationship (now that i'm older) with my birth mom and my adoptive family. I know not all biological parents are interested in being involved, in which case an open adoptions is almost pointless, but for those who care but can't handle facing a family raising their kid, closed could still be better. I'm not saying either is better or right. However, I am saying neither is inherently wrong. I'm so thankful for the way I was raised.

As someone who has exercised her right to choose on more than one occasion & being very interested in preserving that right, I have quite a different take on Somewhat Suspicious' problem. He & his girlfriend may have gone to an anti-abortion clinic that was posing as a pro-choice clinic. A friend of mine did that in 1990, when we were 22.I didn't even know she was pregnant,as I hadn't seen her in months, & when she visited me one day at work, she was 5 mos pregnant & I couldn't even tell. The place she had gone to stalled her on getting an abortion (I don't remember how) until she was in her 2nd trimester & then told her it was too late (it wasn't, but I probably wouldn't have done it at 5 mos either). She had it & put it up for (open) adoption. However, for any whiny, Bible-beating pro-lifer out there who read this & is thinking, "YAY! Score one for my side!" Umm, no: she drank, like, everyday that she was pregnant & let's just say, didn't take care of herself the way an expectant mother should.