Columns Nov 23, 2000 at 4:00 am

Family Matters

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A long-overdue note on the Asian guy watching porn with his brother. I don't know if he's first-generation or not, but he (and anyone else like him) should know that interpersonal relations can be strangely (to Westerns) more intimate in Asia, where same-sex (non-homosexual) bonds can be much tighter.

For example, it used to be common (not so sure these days, with Internet porn and greater Westernization) for younger guys to get together and beat off to the same magazine, or beat off together while spying on girls. Lots of Asian adolescent comedies feature scenes like this. Of course, they grow out of this once they get the real version, but still.... Also, non-sexual friends often scrub each others' backs and hang around naked together in public bath houses. Friends frequently screw girls together in the same room, and sometimes share or switch partners (I think this is partly to save on motel fees, but still...).

Porn and masturbation, and sex, in Western society are decidedly more private endeavors, which leaves some gray area for Asian-Americans to get lost in, but as long as everyone involved is fine with it, rest assured, whatever perversions you're watching with your siblings, a billion Asians are too.
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Don't say "Asians" unless you mean all Asians. I'm sure that wouldn't fly where I live (in Asia!) or with any of my friends where they're from.
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yikes! I hope you're not just speculating all of this from asian comedies, Bkoo.

I'm from asia too and I don't think same-sex relations are tighter...(but I do think opposite-sex relations are, um, "looser" but that might just be entirely me).

Anyway, my point is, it doesn't matter where you are, doing anything remotely sexual (or just doing anything) with your sibling is uncommon.
Strange? Creepy? Sure, they can be all those things too.

Now I can say some stuff about fucking while drunk, Asia's overpopulation and China's porn regulation... but I won't.
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In high school, my geeky boyfriend and his pals had no problem casually watching porn together when they had LAN parties. I found it pretty damn unsettling, especially in the presence of us girlfriends.

Maybe gay guys have the courtesy to keep their porn viewing private, but straight dudes watching porn together seems like classic, all-American dick waving to me, a la going to the strip club. SPL should feel right at home. Now, if they're wanking it together is a different story.

At the same time, I wonder if said LAN partiers ever gained a sense of class. Boys'll be boys *gag*.

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