Columns Nov 13, 2003 at 4:00 am

Low Blows

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WOE, your girlfriend might have TMJ (tempomandibular joint) syndrome. It's very common. It makes it painful to open too wide and it can feel like one's jaw is clicking out of joint. Forcing the jaw open too far can actually dislocate it and send you to the emergency room. I love giving head, but on a bad day my problem would make it pretty impossible. To remedy the TMJ syndrome, my dentist made a bite plate that I wear while I sleep (similar to, but smaller and less obtrusive than, the orthodontic retainer I wore when I was a kid.)Problem solved!

If this is in fact the problem, don't ignore it/put off treatment as the symptoms will likely get worse. Good luck!
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Advice for WOE and his gf. In contrast to Dan's advice, which seems to imply a blow-job of the face-fucking variety, I suggest WOE's gf tries some more 'feminine' blow-job technique. Your mouth isn't just a hole in your face, you've got lips, teeth, tongue and suction as well to stimulate a penis, as well as hand, hair, eyelashes, breasts and the rest of your face in close proximity. You don't have to have your mouth wide open, or even his penis that much inside it to give a mind-blowing orgasm.

If your gf is put off by the idea of vigorous fucking with her jaw, suggest interspersing that with other kind of touching - licking, sucking, nibbling, etc. And you can keep up with the fucking experience for him by using a well-lubed hand (loads of spit will do, coz you've got a lot of that going on already), while using your mouth to give extra stimulation round the head of his penis, or get some tongue action just inside your hand to give him some focused touching a vagina or arse can't.

I think lots of straight women get freaked out by the myth that men only get off on these face-fuck-style blow jobs. I have always loved giving head (just as I love licking ice-creams, and find a lot of inspiration in that) and get loads of compliments from both receivers and onlookers.
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I don't know what your problem is, PADU -- my boyfriend has a "gonzo" penis, and it's fan-fucking-tastic! It (a) is easier to give him BJs, (b) hits my G-spot in a lot of positions, and (c) makes it feel wider. The only complaint I have is that it makes sideway-facing-each-other or standing-facing-each-other sex harder to manage.

Just sayin'.
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Best ever BJ position: Lie on your sides on bed or couch facing each other, heck even do a little kissing. Then the giver slides down, puts one hand on the receiver's dick and the other on his balls and takes his dick into his-her mouth. Everybody's comfy, receiver can thrust a little but not a crazy amount, and when the giver needs a break s-he can just lay and play with receivers dick for a few minutes and rest up.

Speaking as a gal, if you want a great intercourse position, start with this BJ position for a while, then roll over on your back perpendicular to him and replace your mouth with your pussy.


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