1.I have answered ads for guys who just wanted to have a receptive audience, and it was FUN to just watch! I recommend it. 2. Pat Califia wrote a lot about gay male sex while identifying as a lesbian, then switched from being a woman to being male. 'Nuff said. 3. Stupid! Just dumb. 4. This letter made me sad, and Dan's response was perfect. I do hear from women (I work in the sex industry, and not in prostitution or porn) that old lie "if only he would ____ then maybe I'd want him more" TOO often. And I call them on it, too! As an educator, I say this to people who "can't" talk about sex : "Don't try to talk about sex unless you're in an emotionally neutral space, and you aren't about to start begging for it! If you can't talk about sex with your partner in a rational way, you have NO BUSINESS actually ENGAGING in it!" Plus, anyone who will DATE someone who won't talk about it is playing dumb, and therefore is ACTING dumbly. Sheesh! Grow UP! (dumpthegirl!!!)

1.I have answered ads for guys who just wanted to have a receptive audience, and it was FUN to just watch! I recommend it. 2. Pat Califia wrote a lot about gay male sex while identifying as a lesbian, then switched from being a woman to being male. 'Nuff said. 3. Stupid! Just dumb. 4. This letter made me sad, and Dan's response was perfect. I do hear from women (I work in the sex industry, and not in prostitution or porn) that old lie "if only he would ____ then maybe I'd want him more" TOO often. And I call them on it, too! As an educator, I say this to people who "can't" talk about sex : "Don't try to talk about sex unless you're in an emotionally neutral space, and you aren't about to start begging for it! If you can't talk about sex with your partner in a rational way, you have NO BUSINESS actually ENGAGING in it!" Plus, anyone who will DATE someone who won't talk about it is playing dumb, and therefore is ACTING dumbly. Sheesh! Grow UP! (dumpthegirl!!!)

What about "consensual exhibitionist"? There is, after all, a difference between the subway flasher and a woman consenting to watch him get off in the privacy of someone's apartment.

@3, 5, and 6: Dan was asking dykes why THEY like gay male porn. You are all straight women. We have no problem understanding your interest.