If Collins does play in the NBA next year, I’m sure certain teammates might feel threatened by his presence in the locker room. I’ll be the straight boy who’d love to have a fraction of his physical near-perfection.
Mark Kaufman
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2. never heard of this dude.
3. don't envy him anything, thanks.
Excellent. My first thought it "I hope he doesn't rape me." My second is, "Why do we have to deal with this all the time?"
Unless he's cute and polite. Then I'm just flattered.
Why can't Sherman just be in charge?
I googled Sherman Alexie, I'll say he's good looking in more ways than one!
As for basketball uniforms, can we please go back to the 70's? Those b-ball uniforms were much tighter and shorter. I think they made the shorts baggier and bigger because of Wilt. Thanks Wilt.
But I wonder about how the language about beauty and attraction being connected to sexual abuse might present a substantial problem. The point you made was a good one: being a gay man does not mean being unable to control wild sexual appetites every time another naked man is in view. A parallel point might be made from the "the way she was dressed...she was asking for it" thinking. It assumes that the normal inclination of a man is to be of the verge of raping people all the time and are set off by too much skin showing.
The bit about plain looking folks needing love too - agreed. But there are some assumptions made about attraction that I think are a bit general when talking about beauty and perfection. More importantly, though, people along the entire spectrum of beauty are subject to sexual victimization. A better link, and I could be wrong, is between abuse and vulnerability - especially when considering that certain kinds of sexual abuse have more to do with power than they do with attraction.
Thank you for such a good piece, and for your kind attention in reading my response.
But I wonder about how the language about beauty and attraction being connected to sexual abuse might present a substantial problem. The point you made was a good one: being a gay man does not mean being unable to control wild sexual appetites every time another naked man is in view. A parallel point might be made from the "the way she was dressed...she was asking for it" thinking. It assumes that the normal inclination of a man is to be of the verge of raping people all the time and are set off by too much skin showing.
The bit about plain looking folks needing love too - agreed. But there are some assumptions made about attraction that I think are a bit general when talking about beauty and perfection. More importantly, though, people along the entire spectrum of beauty are subject to sexual victimization. A better link, and I could be wrong, is between abuse and vulnerability - especially when considering that certain kinds of sexual abuse have more to do with power than they do with attraction.
Thank you for such a good piece, and for your kind attention in reading my response.
Bravo, Mr. Alexie, you are Seattle's greatest treasure (possibly tied with Mr. Raban).
ROFL
http://www.thenation.com/blog/174128/why…
I have friends, gay friends, that I thoroughly enjoy hanging around with but truth be told, at one time or another, they have all hit on me overtly or sometimes not so overtly. I have awesome and attractive female friends as well and I can count on one hand how many times I have tried to wreck our friendship by hitting on them, unless it was obvious the desire ran both ways. That said, I guess better to man up and give it a shot than never take the chance. Nothing ventured nothing gained although if you feel that strongly about taking a shot, you gotta know that the chance of losing a friend is in the bargain.
My fifth thought however, or first, would have been "Why cant this be a hot chick and not some horny dude?"
And - this article is one of the reasons why.
Thanks!!!
Sincerely,
A Very Good Looking Masculine Legally Married Gay Man Who Gets Hit On All The Time By Straight Men
1.Why would a person DECIDE to be GAY?
2.Why would a person CHOOSE to be picked on or casted away by their family, so called friends or church members?
3.Who would want to pick a lifestyle to where you are hated by people who really do not know you completely? GAY people do not CHOOSE to be GAY, they are born this way. If you are a straight person ask yourself these questions:
4.How old you were when you DECIDED to come out of the closet and be straight?
5.When did you DECIDED to become heterosexual?
6.Who molested or rapped you that caused you to become a straight person?
7.Are you confused about who you are?
8.When you have sex with the opposite sex is this just a sex act?
9.Do you believe that STRAIGH people cannot fall in love?
Sammoto Yomosa, Independent NEWS
1.Why would a person DECIDE to be GAY?
2.Why would a person CHOOSE to be picked on or casted away by their family, so called friends or church members?
3.Who would want to pick a lifestyle to where you are hated by people who really do not know you completely? GAY people do not CHOOSE to be GAY, they are born this way. If you are a straight person ask yourself these questions:
4.How old you were when you DECIDED to come out of the closet and be straight?
5.When did you DECIDED to become heterosexual?
6.Who molested or rapped you that caused you to become a straight person?
7.Are you confused about who you are?
8.When you have sex with the opposite sex is this just a sex act?
9.Do you believe that STRAIGH people cannot fall in love?
Sammoto Yomosa, Independent NEWS
1.Why would a person DECIDE to be GAY?
2.Why would a person CHOOSE to be picked on or casted away by their family, so called friends or church members?
3.Who would want to pick a lifestyle to where you are hated by people who really do not know you completely? GAY people do not CHOOSE to be GAY, they are born this way. If you are a straight person ask yourself these questions:
4.How old you were when you DECIDED to come out of the closet and be straight?
5.When did you DECIDED to become heterosexual?
6.Who molested or rapped you that caused you to become a straight person?
7.Are you confused about who you are?
8.When you have sex with the opposite sex is this just a sex act?
9Do you believe that STRAIGH people cannot fall in love?
Sammoto Yomosa, Independent NEWS
We are all sexual beings. I'm just glad folks are starting to admit it!
But just one comment on this: "After all, aside from swimming, diving, and water polo—the Holy Trinity of Way Gay Sports—basketball is the sport where men wear the least clothes." —Seriously? Have you watched rugby? Wrestling? Over the past 15 years basketball and soccer uniforms have become so blousey and long that I'm certain I saw more leg on the nuns that taught me in grade school than what I see on the basketball court. And what's with the t-shirts under some of the tank tops? When basketball players have the balls to wear rugby short-shorts or wrestling singlets, come back for my gay thoughts on your uniforms.
Anyway, that's just my personal gay opinionated aside. I loved this article. And am grateful for it. I'd send it back in a time capsule to my teenage self if I could, just to let him know that so much will get better in his lifetime, (even if basketball uniforms will cover way too much skin in his nearer future).
As both personally and professionally gay, when the International Olympic Committee said they were eliminating wrestling, of all things, from the Olympics, I sent out word to wrestlers aged 18 to 26 in the 145- to 185-pound weight classes who needed consoling that I am available. Oh, and don't even get me started on male gymnasts.. Or college football players who wear white football pants in a steady downpour... Where was I going with this? Not sure, but I'm thinking happy thoughts now.
Great job, as always, Sherman!
AS YOU "POLITICOS" SAY, "You drunk too much of the Kool-Aid."
YOU TYPE, "People, who speak negatively about gay people, do not understand gay people." WELL SIR, YOUR STATEMENT MEANS gays FIT THE DEFINITION OF, "cult." THIS "cult" STARTED WHEN CAUCASIAN MALES BEGAN TO CONTRACT STRANGE CANCERS CIRCA 1981. SINCE THAT TIME, Y'ALL "cult members" HAVE BEEN TRYING TO TELL OTHERS HOW TO FUCK, AS WELL AS, THINK.
SIR, I AM HOMOSEXUAL - NOT, A CULT MEMBER.
CHRISTOPHER ALLEN HORTON
The reason I love sports, is Seattle has fun teams, and timeless stadiums. And my team's nicknames are awesome.
collins since the news break, even after seeing
headlines splashed across espn. i'd be curious
to know why he chose to do it at the end of his
career, but i think we can guess. as for the
comments from mr. horton, i think what he is
trying to say is that homosexuality, and the
current trend of fascination, objectification,
and saturation everywhere you turn, almost
does seem to border on 'cult'. in the end, i'm
sure many gay people aren't looking for this,
and just want a simple and low-key lifestyle.
p.s. who's the white guy in the pink towel?
NO SIR. I WAS TYPING AS AN ATHEIST WHO IS DISAPPOINTED THAT gays FROM THE 1980s ONWARD HAVE CONVINCED YOUNGER HOMOSEXUALS THAT LONGEVITY OF LIFE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN SEMEN SWALLOWING AND SEMEN IN THE ANAL CAVITY. THE EXCHANGE OF BODY FLUIDS IS A NATURAL PART OF HOMOSEX.
IN ADDITION, IT BOTHERS ME THAT gays BELIEVE HOMOSEXUALS SHOULD BE EMPATHETIC TO OPPOSITE-GENDER HOMOSEXUALS, SO-CALLED bisexuals, TRANSVESTITES AND PRE-/POST-OPERATIVE TRANSSEXUALS. I HAVE TRADITIONAL VALUES.
CHRISTOPHER ALLEN HORTON
To "Christopher Horton": Dude, you are shouting. It is very rude. Turn your caps lock off.
Around that time I got drunk on my stoop one night w/ two straight neighbors. One asked if I though the was attractive. I effusely reassured him that, no, I wasn't. Then he got agitated and said "why the fuck not?"
Come to think of it, that was also the first night I learned the difference between red and white wine. My, I had to do a lot of catching up.
And people like Chris, what can we say? Ill-informed or closeted homophobic. Gay people have been around since the dawn of man, not just since the 1980s when AIDS became the scourge of the pretty boys who liked to fuck. Oh well, bravo to your article. It really hit the nail right on the head! Loved it! And you are cute, btw!
So, Um.
What the fuck are you talking about.
YOU MISUNDERSTOOD MY COMMENTS. MY POINT IS, BEFORE THE 1980s MALE HOMOSEXUALS ENJOYED THE TASTE OF SEMEN, MALE URINE AND FOR SOME, MALE FECES. NOW, CAUCASIAN MALE HOMOSEXUALS ARE TOO AFRAID TO EXCHANGE BODY FLUIDS. NEGRO MALE HOMOSEXUALS OF MY GENERATION (AND, OLDER) STILL DO. IT IS CRAZY TO FEAR DEATH FROM AIDS WHEN black-on-black CRIME, HEART ATTACK/STROKE AND PROSTATE CANCER ARE MORE PROBABLE CAUSES FOR NEGRO-MALE DEATH. AS A SCATOLOGIST, I AM NOT AFRAID.
CHRISTOPHER ALLEN HORTON