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5:06 PM yesterday DAVIDinKENAI commented on SL Letter of the Day: Settle or Divorce?.
@26: I would take @21's "damaged goods" as not meeting Dan's criteria of not perfect, but "in good working order" before entering a relationship.

This LW isn't in good working order. And, lo and behold, not satisfied in her third marriage.
6:19 AM yesterday DAVIDinKENAI commented on SL Letter of the Day: Settle or Divorce?.
"asexual" and a long list of how hard she's tried means H is the low libido one (at least low libido for her). But that's not the case here.

She says "asexual" marriage and only that he won't wear lingerie. So she isn't attracted to him. It's possible but unlikely that he's fine with that. More likely that he's frustrated or getting some on the side. She's all kind of messed up and comes across as pretty self centered, so her staying doesn't guarantee the marriage. He may be one affair away from finding something better for himself.

And, yeah, therapy could help. She couldn't find the right romantic partner for herself in scores of hookups and 3 marriages (who does on the first try?), why should trying one or two therapists be the limits of one efforts? Try a few with the longest waiting lists in town and, with the right person, you'll know in the first session.
Dec 14 DAVIDinKENAI commented on SL Letter of the Day: Flat Footed.
Maps of the US and of the World currently making their way around the inter webs show regions where more men are excited by boobs or butts.

While a fair fraction of women might like their butt caressed or massaged for 10-20 minutes, most wouldn't be keen on having their breasts man-handled for very long. So one way to roll it out is that a "foot man" is easier to accommodate than a "breast man".
Dec 14 DAVIDinKENAI commented on SL Letter of the Day: Flat Footed.
My dog frequently licks my bare feet as I'm reading in an easy chair. I don't find it any big deal - the actual physical sensation. I think the problem arises because the pedi-fetishist's partner knows he's being turned on by something "weird", not that she is being put out hugely by it.

Remove her skwickiness from it, and it is a mild inconvenience at most and then she can ask for and get whatever sexual or massage services she desires.

But the LW hasn't even laid his cards on the table, so he doesn't know if she'd step up and oblige, once she knows what it means to him.
Dec 11 DAVIDinKENAI commented on SL Letter of the Day: Some Ladies Hate Their Labia—And That's Okay—Plus ALL CAPS Oral Rage!.
@9: "The longer this letter went on, the more sorry I felt for her."

Yeah, that. But more so,

The longer this letter went on, the more happiness I felt for being married to her.
Dec 1 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Classy GOP Staffer Fired After Slamming Obama Girls for Their Lack of "Class".
@14: You're not going to slam a certain someone for wearing a T-shirt to the White House?
Nov 29 DAVIDinKENAI commented on SL Letter of the Day: An End-of-Semester Public Service Announcement for Hot Professors and Horny Students.
@22: I wasn't arguing for teacher-student dating, only giving one datapoint. I agree the power imbalance is so problematic that teacher-student dating should be prohibited just as chain-of-command dating is in the military or supervisor-supervised dating is prohibited in most companies now.

Which then creates a whole other reason not to date your students - because it is a "CLeM" ("Career Limiting Move"), the student has extraordinary power to maintain the relationship, extort special treatment, etc.
Nov 29 DAVIDinKENAI commented on The Mainstreaming of Kink.
I had an engineering manager who believed our engineering clients didn't get as much sex as they'd like (arguably true) and were susceptible to subliminal suggestions.

Therefore if a budget item was, say, $7,050; he'd tweak it to $6900. And when we developed a new piece of equipment, there were always lots of "S"s and "X"s in the model number.

So this BDSM ploy wasn't necessarily an underling at Old Navy putting one over on a superior. Although I suspect it was.
Nov 26 DAVIDinKENAI commented on SL Letter of the Day: An End-of-Semester Public Service Announcement for Hot Professors and Horny Students.
I wouldn't be here if assistant profs couldn't date their students in the 1950's.
 

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