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Apr 5 DAVIDinKENAI commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Hunger.
>" into a Japanese-sounding word"

Or a Pokemon character.
Apr 5 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: After 15 Years, Her Husband Still Looks Like A Child & She's Not Into It.
Corey @73: "I have to wonder if the husband isn't running marathons as a way to bury his own feelings under a heap of exhaustion and endorphins."

Fair enough. But if exercise is his reaction to the situation, I suspect his mind set is one of frustration and possibly some anger rather than depression.
Apr 5 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: After 15 Years, Her Husband Still Looks Like A Child & She's Not Into It.
Sargon @17, "Why don't depressed people ever get buffed and in great shape?"

Because then they wouldn't be depressed. 6 weeks of regular exercise is as effective as 6 weeks of anti-depressants (and you're in better shape). Whether you're depressed or not, popping a pill is easier than hitting the gym/trail most days of the week.

So if you're still depressed, you (1) didn't do anything for it - likely because you're fucking depressed and it's really tough to do anything, (2) anti-depressant(s) didn't work for you or (3) you didn't exercise, or you did and it helped a bit, but not enough, easily enough and you backslid on the exercise and the depression deepened because now you failed at yet one more thing.
Apr 3 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Blow, Blowing, Blown.
I always ask Kenneth Starr for a definition of sex before I respond.
Apr 1 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Sl Letter of the Day: Safety Buddy App.
To increase your safety, the hook-up needs to know/believe that someone (1) knows where you are, (2) will be checking on you and ideally (3) has some info about the hook-up. Answering a robocall or placing a call to 767-1111 (while the time recording plays in the background) in the hook-ups presence and stating, "Yeah, he just arrived. Things look good. Call you back later." achieves that impression.

If you want someone to break down the door if you don't answer, a wake-up call won't accomplish that. A flesh-and-blood person will need to request a "welfare check" by the local police and have your info, hotel, and room number.
Mar 30 DAVIDinKENAI commented on This Is a Big Fucking Deal: Flynn Wants Immunity.
If I was Flynn, I'd try very hard to not accidentally throw myself out any windows. And to avoid any polonium-210 exposure. Just cause.
Mar 27 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Uninvited Touching from Strangers and Ghosts.
EmmaLiz: Agreed, she absolutely could have been drugged. Although it's gotta be easier drug someone who is a little tipsy than someone is completely sober and notices the odd movements around her glass, etc. But she could have been a teetotaler and had someone slyly spike her fruit juice. There is no risk-free travel, sex, or life in general. But when you're in the overlap of a multi-layer Venn diagram of:

a bit tipsy
in a foreign culture
using a foreign language
horny
lonely
without a wingman/woman,

some people are going to roll 4 or 5 of those dice at once, while I might only choose two or three at time. And to each their own. I only hope people make that risk-benefit calculation consciously, not that they choose the same path.
Mar 27 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Uninvited Touching from Strangers and Ghosts.
I got to "I can take my alcohol well" and already knew, "No, actually, you don't".

I read the whole letter thinking it was a guy and then Dan responds as if to a gal ("panties" instead of "underwear", "other female travelers"). And sure, Dan may have a name or email address or details we don't. Or maybe he made an wrong assumption.

So I got to observe a bit of sexism in myself because I found myself thinking, "Dude! Do not get shit-faced around strangers, in a strange town, with no friends around!" which is both (1) good safety advice and (2) victim blaming. And even as I'm thinking it, I'm wondering if I'd reprimand a woman as readily. I wouldn't reprimand a woman quite as readily, not that she isn't at risk (hell, she's at MORE risk: of pregnancy plus typically is smaller and less muscular), but I'd hesitate more to make that comment because victim-blaming is usually in the context of women victims.

Drunk dudes shouldn't be taken advantage of. Drunk gals shouldn't be taken advantage of. Nor drugged. And it's not his/her fault he/she was assaulted and robbed. Press charges. Get help to process those events.

But passing off events as supernatural? Thinking of themselves as "taking their alcohol well"? And "Instantly I felt like we were really good friends"? Knock that off. For your own safety.
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Mar 21 DAVIDinKENAI commented on More Traditional Republican Hypocrisy.
EmmaLiz @18:

From: http://www.chron.com/news/politics/artic…

"after police found him in a hotel room with a 17-year-old boy."

"The age of consent in Oklahoma is 16, but Oklahoma's prostitution statute applies to any person under 18 years old."

So the sex itself wasn't illegal. Just paying for it. And the marijuana.
Mar 21 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Why Is the Girl With the Blue Green Hair Walking Around Our Block 100 Times Today?.
Or an open-ended, "What do you do at the Pacific Science Center?"

When I live in the country, I walk around the countryside. When I live in the forest, like now, I walk in the forest. When I lived in Seattle and the SFBA, I walked around the city. I never walked around such a small area repeatedly, but that's a little easier when you're a woman versus a guy (and you have signs up!) - people are less likely to peg you as a stalker. Now I'm tempted, but maybe a dozen laps before moving on to the next block.