May 18
mother of two commented on Slog Overnight.
What's with the bestiality on SLOG this week?
The kitten was trying to suckle. Must have been disappointed.
The kitten was trying to suckle. Must have been disappointed.
May 17
mother of two commented on Remember This Guy?.
There's a really important factual question there: was he actually raped, or is he making that up? Because if he was drugged and raped, I'm kinda sympathetic. But if some good samaritan put him up for the night and he freaked out and murdered him, that's a very different story.
And I suppose we will never know what really happened.
And I suppose we will never know what really happened.
May 11
mother of two commented on Your Dog Sucks.
@163, my sister used to have that problem. People can be really dumb.
To all you people who are worried about grabbing the collar because it's dangerous: The dog was a BEAGLE. Beagles are used in nasty medical experiments because they are so unlikely to bite people. And Dan didn't describe it doing anything aggressive, just trying to steal food, which is a very beagle-like (or dog-like, really) thing for it to do. And Dan is a dog owner, and the odds are really good he knows how to grab a dog by the collar.
I've collected 3 stray dogs by grabbing the collar. None of them was acting aggressive, or I wouldn't have done it, of course. All were lost. Two of the owners were super grateful, and the other was super weird.
Also, where I live, the cops respond to animal control complaints if the animal control officer isn't available, and they respond quickly. That's certainly worth a try, especially if the animal might be dangerous. I have no problem with slapping away a nuisance dog, except that it doesn't solve the problem, it just pushes it to the next picnicking family over.
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To all you people who are worried about grabbing the collar because it's dangerous: The dog was a BEAGLE. Beagles are used in nasty medical experiments because they are so unlikely to bite people. And Dan didn't describe it doing anything aggressive, just trying to steal food, which is a very beagle-like (or dog-like, really) thing for it to do. And Dan is a dog owner, and the odds are really good he knows how to grab a dog by the collar.
I've collected 3 stray dogs by grabbing the collar. None of them was acting aggressive, or I wouldn't have done it, of course. All were lost. Two of the owners were super grateful, and the other was super weird.
Also, where I live, the cops respond to animal control complaints if the animal control officer isn't available, and they respond quickly. That's certainly worth a try, especially if the animal might be dangerous. I have no problem with slapping away a nuisance dog, except that it doesn't solve the problem, it just pushes it to the next picnicking family over.
May 10
mother of two commented on Your Dog Sucks.
Dan, if you are still reading this: If something like that happens again, grab the dog by the collar and look for the owner's phone number. Then call it. The dog may have gotten away and be lost. Or the owner may be nearby, oblivious to the problems his dog is causing. Either way, you should call the owner and have them collect their dog. You may reach a VERY grateful person who has been worried sick about their lost animal. Or you may interrupt the conversation of an asshole who can't be bothered to keep track of his dog. Either way, it's a win.
No phone number on the collar? Call animal control. If you are in an area where dogs aren't allowed to be loose, then the dog shouldn't be loose. If you slap it away from your picnic, if will just go and try to eat someone else's picnic.
No phone number on the collar? Call animal control. If you are in an area where dogs aren't allowed to be loose, then the dog shouldn't be loose. If you slap it away from your picnic, if will just go and try to eat someone else's picnic.
May 9
mother of two commented on Savage Love.
@90, my husband was a house husband for several years, and I have to disagree. He was tremendously helpful as a house husband. He kept the place clean, looked after the kids, made sure supper was on the table, paid the bills, and basically contributed to our overall well-being. I did not "come home to a filthy house every day". And I did respect him. (and still do, now that he is no longer a house husband.)
May 8
mother of two commented on Savage Love.
TSTQ, if you don't want to divorce him, consider seeking an annulment. It sounds like there may well have been an element of fraud in the marriage. And you certainly didn't marry the man you thought you were marrying.
Yes, legally separate your finances. Yes, encourage him to see a shrink -- he may be clinically depressed, and he might be treatable. But you hanging around and enabling him won't help him get better if that is the case. And you need to protect yourself.
Yes, legally separate your finances. Yes, encourage him to see a shrink -- he may be clinically depressed, and he might be treatable. But you hanging around and enabling him won't help him get better if that is the case. And you need to protect yourself.
May 4
mother of two commented on Cutting Remarks.
@20, because an adult circumcision is a bfd, and entails weeks to months of crippling pain. Whereas infants don't get huge hard boners and heal completely really fast, like in a couple of days. Infants cry more from some vaccinations than from circumcision.
There's a window when you can have an easy, not-horribly-painful, completely non-crippling circumcision, and that window has closed by the time you are 18.
And I agree with all those people who say "how the hell wasn't this diagnosed earlier? Especially since his phimosis was so severe he couldn't pee properly. (Although maybe it wasn't so bad when he was an infant and his parents routinely saw his dick, and only got that bad after the series of childhood infections. In which case I guess he had a squeemish pediatrician.)
There's a window when you can have an easy, not-horribly-painful, completely non-crippling circumcision, and that window has closed by the time you are 18.
And I agree with all those people who say "how the hell wasn't this diagnosed earlier? Especially since his phimosis was so severe he couldn't pee properly. (Although maybe it wasn't so bad when he was an infant and his parents routinely saw his dick, and only got that bad after the series of childhood infections. In which case I guess he had a squeemish pediatrician.)
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If the rubbing was consensual, I think you have to forgive the boy. As Dan points out, teenage boys don't have a lot of control over their own bodies, and I bet he didn't realize what was happening until it was too late, either. That's sort of what "exploration" means.
If you contact him, and tell him how hurt you feel, he will probably apologize (unless he takes the advice of the person who points out that you could use that against him) but others are probably right that he doesn't remember the matter the same way you do. He probably remembers that he lost control, not that "he used you".
Now, if he was holding you down, and you were too scared and confused to push him off of you, and finally he came and then he freed you - then you were certainly violated. But in that case, the odds of him apologizing are very low. Because he's probably still a pos.
Either way, I don't think you gain anything by contacting him. I think you would do better to talk to a therapist, or overlay the memory with happier ones, or write a letter to yourself, or, I don't know, almost anything would be better than to drag him back into this at this late date. I just don't see much upside to that.
Good luck.