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Jun 13
mtnlion commented on I, Anonymous.
mtnlion commented on I, Anonymous.
@17, in *A* woman's mind, not the minds of all women. Don't be scared. The ratio of sane to crazy is in your favor.
@16, Anon's wistful imagining of what would have been is why this is such a delicious secret for her. She's aware that it could've gone very badly (which is why she did not actually go through with it.) Sometimes, reflecting on our lives and thinking of what would've been simply serves as a cathartic way to make sense of where we are now. Thinking of how your life might be different--and comparing that unrealistic vision favorably to where we are now--is natural.
No need to be so harsh.
@16, Anon's wistful imagining of what would have been is why this is such a delicious secret for her. She's aware that it could've gone very badly (which is why she did not actually go through with it.) Sometimes, reflecting on our lives and thinking of what would've been simply serves as a cathartic way to make sense of where we are now. Thinking of how your life might be different--and comparing that unrealistic vision favorably to where we are now--is natural.
No need to be so harsh.
Jun 12
mtnlion commented on I, Anonymous.
mtnlion commented on I, Anonymous.
@8, I thought the same thing as you. Is it that bad? She's admitting to having a horrible desire which she acknowledges as skanky and awful.
Doesn't everyone have thoughts or "wish I would have"s that are not representative of who they are? What makes us who we are is what choices we actually *do* make, not the dark fantasizing we rightfully decide to leave in our heads. And Anon knows that "rationally" this was the right thing to do.
You made the right choice, although you may lament it, Anon. Why'd you marry a fellow with a vasectomy though? That was a decision you probably should've considered more thoroughly.
Doesn't everyone have thoughts or "wish I would have"s that are not representative of who they are? What makes us who we are is what choices we actually *do* make, not the dark fantasizing we rightfully decide to leave in our heads. And Anon knows that "rationally" this was the right thing to do.
You made the right choice, although you may lament it, Anon. Why'd you marry a fellow with a vasectomy though? That was a decision you probably should've considered more thoroughly.
Jun 11
mtnlion commented on For Just $69 (Each), You Can Attend a Daddy/Daughter Purity Ball in Bellevue This Weekend!.
mtnlion commented on For Just $69 (Each), You Can Attend a Daddy/Daughter Purity Ball in Bellevue This Weekend!.
this shit is so weird. $69. daddy. daughter. purity. "... other things to delight both father and daughter."
Jun 11
mtnlion commented on Why Street Harassment Matters.
mtnlion commented on Why Street Harassment Matters.
@46, No life is without its uncomfortable moments, offenses, pain, and insults. Regardless of gender, we can't escape it, and it would be nice if we could somehow eliminate it.
And there will always be assholes that people can objectively recognize as such (or crazy people, who, you know, just need better everything).
But I think Anna's point here is that the people who participate in thoughtless comments don't think there's anything wrong with them, other people apologize for them, and as Anna illustrates, it's usually for a completely different reason. And lots of men think we should like it! Also, women face it with some regularity. I mean, if you thought you were going to be harassed by a methhead almost every day would you feel that great about taking a walk downtown?
Not that your shit isn't real. That isn't what I'm saying. Also, Spirit of the Forest?
And there will always be assholes that people can objectively recognize as such (or crazy people, who, you know, just need better everything).
But I think Anna's point here is that the people who participate in thoughtless comments don't think there's anything wrong with them, other people apologize for them, and as Anna illustrates, it's usually for a completely different reason. And lots of men think we should like it! Also, women face it with some regularity. I mean, if you thought you were going to be harassed by a methhead almost every day would you feel that great about taking a walk downtown?
Not that your shit isn't real. That isn't what I'm saying. Also, Spirit of the Forest?
Jun 11
mtnlion commented on Why Street Harassment Matters.
mtnlion commented on Why Street Harassment Matters.
Anna, this was very well written. You very succinctly explain why street harassment is a bigger deal than some would think.
At first when I read these pieces, I was like "I don't get harassed on the street," but then I realized it's because I *very rarely* spend time alone in populated areas.
And then I realized that the times I am in that situation, it does happen! And it happens nearly every time! And even if it isn't overt, I find myself purposely ignoring the faces of men at the gym because I can feel their staring, not because I'm so hot but because it's alllllways about evaluating women's sexual appeal for better or worse. And it makes me feel weird. 'Cause I almost always smile at other women out of friendliness.
It gets so old trying to fight back or beat them at their own game that unless I'm pretty drunk, I ignore that shit as best I can. And then I unleash my feelings on my male friends if we happen to start talking about it. Trying to spread awareness, or some bullshit. Anyway, way to go Anna.
At first when I read these pieces, I was like "I don't get harassed on the street," but then I realized it's because I *very rarely* spend time alone in populated areas.
And then I realized that the times I am in that situation, it does happen! And it happens nearly every time! And even if it isn't overt, I find myself purposely ignoring the faces of men at the gym because I can feel their staring, not because I'm so hot but because it's alllllways about evaluating women's sexual appeal for better or worse. And it makes me feel weird. 'Cause I almost always smile at other women out of friendliness.
It gets so old trying to fight back or beat them at their own game that unless I'm pretty drunk, I ignore that shit as best I can. And then I unleash my feelings on my male friends if we happen to start talking about it. Trying to spread awareness, or some bullshit. Anyway, way to go Anna.
Jun 11
mtnlion commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Grateful Cuckold.
mtnlion commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Grateful Cuckold.
@55, again, the wife has been made out to be a victim and I don't see that.
I imagine it gets old to listen to this guy talk about cuckolding often, but I hardly feel as though she's being abused.
And I will reiterate what I said before: how are we clear that her pleasure isn't happening before or after his? The thing is, indulging in this kink is what reliably gets him off. And not indulging in any kinks is what reliably gets her off. I don't think it's unbelievable to think that he makes her come before/after in the "conventional" ways, but then she still has to listen to the cuckolding chat while he gets his because that's what does it for him.
In that case he *does* indulge her regularly, but then feels the need to indulge himself as well. Without any kink talk at all, it is difficult for one of them to get there. With it, they both get there if at different times.
I get the feeling this is an annoyance for her but she doesn't feel terrorized. Marriages are full of things that we merely deal with to preserve an otherwise happy and stable union. I just feel like people are reading too far into this.
We need to hear from the wife or at least figure out if he makes makes her come with any regularity. And I don't think that'll happen.
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I imagine it gets old to listen to this guy talk about cuckolding often, but I hardly feel as though she's being abused.
And I will reiterate what I said before: how are we clear that her pleasure isn't happening before or after his? The thing is, indulging in this kink is what reliably gets him off. And not indulging in any kinks is what reliably gets her off. I don't think it's unbelievable to think that he makes her come before/after in the "conventional" ways, but then she still has to listen to the cuckolding chat while he gets his because that's what does it for him.
In that case he *does* indulge her regularly, but then feels the need to indulge himself as well. Without any kink talk at all, it is difficult for one of them to get there. With it, they both get there if at different times.
I get the feeling this is an annoyance for her but she doesn't feel terrorized. Marriages are full of things that we merely deal with to preserve an otherwise happy and stable union. I just feel like people are reading too far into this.
We need to hear from the wife or at least figure out if he makes makes her come with any regularity. And I don't think that'll happen.
Jun 10
mtnlion commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Grateful Cuckold.
mtnlion commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Grateful Cuckold.
@54, you may be correct, but no one is making more guesses and assumptions than the Sloggers ready to talk about how much of an asshole this guy is.
If he does indeed only pleasure her once in a while, and she is accommodating him often, that is certainly something they should communicate about. He should maybe ask more questions, but I will reiterate that it has been 26 years and I'm willing to bet this guy knows a bit more about how his wife feels than we do. And I know it may be hard, but if it is devastating to her, ball's in her court to bring it up. He may be blissfully ignorant, but if that is the case she is making it easy.
We also have no reason to believe that he doesn't make her come either before or after he does. It is quite possible to switch from kink to vanilla or vice-versa when the kink is largely dirty talk. Maybe most times during sex before *he* comes, there is cuckolding talk, but when *she* comes, things are largely vanilla. Maybe he doesn't mention this because vanilla is default, and it's not a kink like his to work at meeting. I've got that kind of sexual relationship with my near-husband, and it seems to work out pretty great.
But again, this is all speculation.
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If he does indeed only pleasure her once in a while, and she is accommodating him often, that is certainly something they should communicate about. He should maybe ask more questions, but I will reiterate that it has been 26 years and I'm willing to bet this guy knows a bit more about how his wife feels than we do. And I know it may be hard, but if it is devastating to her, ball's in her court to bring it up. He may be blissfully ignorant, but if that is the case she is making it easy.
We also have no reason to believe that he doesn't make her come either before or after he does. It is quite possible to switch from kink to vanilla or vice-versa when the kink is largely dirty talk. Maybe most times during sex before *he* comes, there is cuckolding talk, but when *she* comes, things are largely vanilla. Maybe he doesn't mention this because vanilla is default, and it's not a kink like his to work at meeting. I've got that kind of sexual relationship with my near-husband, and it seems to work out pretty great.
But again, this is all speculation.
Jun 10
mtnlion commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Grateful Cuckold.
mtnlion commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Grateful Cuckold.
I see the point you are making, and don't fully disagree, but I do believe that after 26 years of marriage you do understand what you're a part of. After 10 years of marriage you should know what you're a part of, because people are not likely to change much, especially with their sexual tastes.
I don't think it's necessarily about tears being the breaking point. She could sit him down and say "hey, this really bothers me, you have to tone it down." I believe (based on how he boasts about her) he would make an effort. And any time he started with the dirty talk that left her so hurt, she could speak up and say "we discussed this, and I don't like it, so please keep it in your head this time."
I think the wife is being made out to be kind of a victim, but we haven't heard her side here.
I don't think it's necessarily about tears being the breaking point. She could sit him down and say "hey, this really bothers me, you have to tone it down." I believe (based on how he boasts about her) he would make an effort. And any time he started with the dirty talk that left her so hurt, she could speak up and say "we discussed this, and I don't like it, so please keep it in your head this time."
I think the wife is being made out to be kind of a victim, but we haven't heard her side here.
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You just blamed divorce court and family court and overrun orphanages on the fact that women want to trap men into having kids, and I don't even know where to begin with that. So many wrong things.