Feb 14 nanoboy commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Don't Worry, Dating's Hard for Everyone.
@2: Yes, she did. First sentence of the second paragraph: 'Most guys seem to only want to "try a black girl" in bed. (I absolutely hate when people say that. A vagina isn't different because of my skin color.)'
Jul 25, 2016 nanoboy commented on Required Reading: Republican Intellectual (Cough, Cough) Predicts Death of GOP.
This whole thing is unfortunate. When one political party runs the country without any real opposition-- and the Democratic Party may be in such a position within 10 years-- there is a recipe for corruption. You see it in places like South Africa, where the ANC so often misgoverns but has well-earned support stemming from its founders having dismantled Apartheid. We need a good opposition party, but the Republican Party seems to be unable to function as anything but an outlet for various white and Christian national grievances.
Jul 22, 2016 nanoboy commented on How Green Is Her Bullshit: An Uncharacteristically Brief Response to the Green Party Spokesperson's Dishonest Response to My Podcast Rant.
@16 That is not my argument at all. Third parties are pretty much locked out of leadership by existing fundamental rules, primarily the first-past-the-post electoral system. Yes, you can win a race now and then (and third parties do!) but a third party has virtually no chance of winning enough to matter in any legislature. My question to anyone voting for a third party is: what do you want to accomplish with your vote?

If your answer is that you want to elect that person to office, that can be fine so long as it's plausible that the person will be elected, and Jill Stein is not a plausible candidate. Your mileage may vary on local elections, of course.

If your answer is that you want to stick it to the party you would otherwise vote for, had you not had ideological purist grievances, then you are not accomplishing much at all, unless you think that allowing people to suffer under the greater of two evils can satisfy some craving.

If your answer is that you want to send a message to the leadership of the party you would otherwise prefer, then you will fail outright. The leadership of large parties ignores the fringes that slip off when they have to balance the demands of large and diverse constituencies. You won't matter, except as a nuisance.
Jul 22, 2016 nanoboy commented on How Green Is Her Bullshit: An Uncharacteristically Brief Response to the Green Party Spokesperson's Dishonest Response to My Podcast Rant.
The American system is simply not designed to accommodate third parties. Yes, third party candidates win small seats from time to time, but you will never see a third party garner enough support to even establish a real coalition like you see in parliamentary governments. To change things enough to allow for effective third parties, we would need a new Constitutional Convention, and the powers that be (you know, the two existing parties who do not want weakened grips on the reigns of power) are not going to allow that.

For the time being, if you want to effect change, you must work within one of the two existing parties. That means supporting nominees, even when they are far less than ideal. It means voting in primaries-- and not just presidential ones. You can also become a delegate or run for office yourself. Supporting a third-party candidate (especially for the big offices) does next to nothing. You only convince the leadership in the party nearest your own ideology that you do not support them and are probably not worth their time.
Jul 13, 2016 nanoboy commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Crazy Soon-To-Be-Ex-Girlfriend.
@1: It may be relevant. Some Asian-American families can put a lot of pressure on their kids to succeed academically in ways that are unhealthy for their kids. I think it's mostly an East-meets-West kind of thing in which aspects of Eastern cultures don't end up jiving well in a Western context. My wife is half Chinese, half Pennsylvania Dutch, and experiences at the family reunions of her Chinese family can be... interesting. The first questions asked of boyfriends/girlfriends dating a family member are along the lines of, "So, when are you attending graduate school?" At one reunion, there was a contest of who could put together the best business pitch for their tech product and another event getting people to guess whose patents were which. One-on-one, they're great, but they can be high-strung. My wife tells me that in the past it was worse, since the eldest family members (who came directly from China) would even pit cousins against each other to spur academic and professional competition. So, yeah, culture matters. In that atmosphere, some people are damaged, and others literally win Nobel Prizes.
Jun 29, 2016 nanoboy commented on Emails From Reasonable Bernie Supporters Pour Into My Inbox.
I'm trying to figure out how this is supposed to work in a long game. Say, Bernie runs a 3rd party ticket that spoils the race (a la 2000.) What happens next? People suffer from Trump's policies: minorities are persecuted, we get into new wars, the economy goes south, etc. Guess who gets blamed (besides Republicans.) Bernie does. Even if he doesn't, Trump gets to load up the Supreme Court, so if somehow, the left succeeds Trump, they're hamstrung every inch of the way by a recalcitrant judiciary. It just doesn't freakin' work.

You want the Democratic Party to take your voice seriously? You work with them to accomplish mutual goals. There is not another way in the American two-party system.
Apr 26, 2016 nanoboy commented on Savage Love.
@9: Oh, she's a character. If she was a Dungeons and Dragons character, she would have a chaotic good alignment. We got her an electric chainsaw for Christmas, and she's been delighted with it. She's a good mom.
Apr 26, 2016 nanoboy commented on Savage Love.
My mother used to use a device that turned off just about any television to shut down Fox News on televisions in waiting rooms, restaurants, etc. She said it was pretty amusing watching staff try to figure out what went wrong and then finding that it shut off again. She's a pretty stealthy woman with a good poker face, so it wasn't hard for her to surreptitiously shut down Fox News repeatedly until people gave up and left the TV off. It was something like this thing:
Jan 13, 2016 nanoboy commented on Savage Love.
I really just don't get the attitude of someone who excludes some races from their dating pool. That kind of stuff bothers me, whether it be racists who write dehumanizing pre-rejections on their dating profiles or even people who use a race-specific dating app. Granted, I'm completely out of the dating game, but shouldn't people be considering other aspects of someone besides which continent their ancestors came from? When I was single, I never thought to exclude women on a racial basis.
May 19, 2015 nanoboy commented on Savage Love.
I've never used a dating profile (I married the woman I met in college before online dating was much of a thing) but I'm trying to imagine a scenario in which someone has a problem with too many trans people responding to a dating profile. I wouldn't want to date a transwoman either (I'd only want to date ciswomen, and I only wish the best for trans people in their own searches for love) but it doesn't seem plausible that one person would have all that many trans people responding, given that they are a relatively small proportion of the population.

Yeah, don't put stuff that could be so easily construed as anti-trans, racist, homophobic, biphobic, or whatever into your profile. You will only attract bigots with that kind of stuff.