commented on Slog Bible Study: 2 Samuel 13:10-15
When I was a little girl, I heard a terrifying sermon with this as the text. The moral of the whole story, it turned out, was that girls should not put out, because if a guy fucks you without being married to you, he will then hate you. The fact that this was rape was apparently irrelevant; it was still Tamar's fault that he did it.
Years later, of course, after my father raped me, it was understood that he would hate my guts (and I his), and that the whole thing was somehow my fault. "For the Bible tells me so."
commented on Bloomberg the Social Engineer Goes After Teen Pregnancy
The actual problem is poverty. There are social programs available to help a teen with her infant, but those are not available to women in their twenties. For a poor woman who wants to have a child, it does make a certain amount of sense to have those children when they can get some social assistance to help bring them up. If the U.S. had better maternity assistance programs, including paid maternity leave, I think you would see birth rates among women in their twenties and thirties increase. Nobody really wants to have children in her forties. It's a sad comment on American society that a woman can't afford to have a baby until she's in her forties.
commented on "Why does he have boobs?"
Nobody was rude to her, nobody was even unkind. They acted out of ignorance, not malice. It's important to distinguish between offense intended and offense taken. While she took offense at what they did, nobody deliberately tried to offend her.
My own partner is a very butch woman. She is not infrequently mistaken for a man. She is invariably kind and goodnatured every time it happens. For us, her being mistaken for a man means that she is exactly the kind of woman I like, and exactly the kind of woman she is. It's a good thing, not a cause for distress.
commented on A Theory of White Native Americans
I don't think it's any more odd to note that I'm part Cherokee than that I'm part Swedish or Scottish. People who think you have to look a certain way in order to be considered Aboriginal don't know a lot about modern life among Aboriginal people.