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Feb 19 MiscKitty commented on Mayor Calls Kshama Sawant's Suggestion that Seattle Police Block ICE "Irresponsible and Dangerous".
@ 37 - Your data is wrong. Receptive vaginal intercourse is more risky than insertive anal intercourse. And there is no data to support your claim about the relative risks of insertive and receptive oral. You can read more here:

Feb 11 MiscKitty commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Straight Guy Can't Win.
@ Fichu - That would work really well. "These things are within the realm of healthy human sexuality. These things are not. These things are a sign that you should seek medical attention. These things are not."

And the "when to seek medical attention" discussion could be part of a more involved discussion about biology. I grew up during the 90's when schools were freaking out about HIV and before the "abstinence only" monster really got its teeth into our educational system, but I still learned about the clitoris from the South Park movie. That is profoundly messed up. If we taught sexual biology rather than just reproductive biology plus microbiology-is-scary, we would be able to introduce sexual pleasure into the discussion without being creepy: "this is a bundle of nerves" vs "here's what you can do with this bundle of nerves."
Feb 11 MiscKitty commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Straight Guy Can't Win.
@ 29 - Mutual pleasure deserves a mention, too. Way too many of the girls I knew when I was a teenager were enduring sex that was painful because they didn't know that it was supposed to feel good for them, too.
Feb 6 MiscKitty commented on And Now for the Annual Seattleites Can't Drive in Snow Film Festival.
@ 4 - The reason folks back east aren't driving on an ice rink is that the roads are made using pervious concrete, at least in our part of New York. The slush created by cars never gets the chance to freeze into a solid sheet of ice because it just drains away. It's really cool.

Also, yes. Ice is much more difficult to drive on than snow. And icy hills are the worst.

Stay safe out there, you guys!
Feb 4 MiscKitty commented on Donald Trump Is a Nightmare for Women.
I just want to mention a couple of other options: implants and diaphragms.

Implants offer most of the benefits of IUDs without the painful insertion. And they are effective for roughly the duration of your average fascist presidency (four years).

Diaphragms are safe, painless, and easy to use. They are less effective than some other forms of birth control (with correct use, the failure rate is ~5% with spermicide and ~20% without spermicide) but a diaphragm can be paired with other methods of birth control for added protection against unwanted pregnancy.
Feb 2 MiscKitty commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Reader Advice Round-up.
@ 1 - From the letter: "...I can't handle the physical and emotional trauma of [painful sex with him]. I've discussed these feelings with my partner many times, but things haven't gotten any better."
Jan 5 MiscKitty commented on I, Anonymous.
Anon should Google "hantavirus."
Dec 19, 2016 MiscKitty commented on I, Anonymous.
Oh my goodness. I'm glad you're okay, Anon. Take care of yourself and feel better soon.
Nov 18, 2016 MiscKitty commented on Savage Love.
@ Lava - The EC needs to go. But it'll take a Constitutional amendment to get rid of it, and the Republicans already have a bullshit line about how "only the voters cities will matter!!1!1" if we kill it. To fully understand what that line means, you need to keep in mind that Republicans have spent quite some time dog whistling that "real Americans" don't live in "inner cities," "real Americans" live in "real America."

In short, getting rid of the EC will be a herculean task. It's worth the effort and we should absolutely move in that direction, but in the meantime, we need to pursue other avenues for change as well. Eliminating gerrymandering comes to mind.

Also, if you want an idea of just how bad education in this country is, consider this: Texas has a great deal of control over what information is included in textbooks that are used nationwide. And they are pushing for textbooks that "promote Christian fundamentalism, boost conservative political figures, and force-feed American 'exceptionalism,' while downplaying the historical contributions of minorities."* California is pushing back, but the results are still pretty grim. Just one example: the 2015 textbooks present slavery as “a side issue to the Civil War."

Houston Press goes into more detail here: