@ 11 - I think lying about interactive porn is pretty iffy if the interactive porn takes the form of an MMO. And I understand where the wife is coming from: women who cheat are less likely to be happy in their marriage than men (34% vs 56%). Additionally, women who cheat are often looking for an emotional connection rather than just sexual gratification:
http://women.webmd.com/features/why-do-w…
So if his wife was extrapolating that his feelings about cheating are the same as hers, it makes sense that she wouldn't want his jerk-off fodder to come in the form of a person he could potentially form an emotional attachment with.
It seems to me, though, that the answer to LW's problem is to include his wife (he did mention group sex, after all). If he rolls it out as a hot, sexy, fun idea that totally turns his crank and that he wants to do with her she'll probably be a lot more receptive. And once she has the chance to see what his version of sex in SL looks like, she's likely to be a lot less spooked by it and she might give him permission to go solo. If she doesn't, well, compromise is part of marriage and surely playing with his wife is better than playing on the sly and feeling guilty or not playing at all.
http://women.webmd.com/features/why-do-w…
So if his wife was extrapolating that his feelings about cheating are the same as hers, it makes sense that she wouldn't want his jerk-off fodder to come in the form of a person he could potentially form an emotional attachment with.
It seems to me, though, that the answer to LW's problem is to include his wife (he did mention group sex, after all). If he rolls it out as a hot, sexy, fun idea that totally turns his crank and that he wants to do with her she'll probably be a lot more receptive. And once she has the chance to see what his version of sex in SL looks like, she's likely to be a lot less spooked by it and she might give him permission to go solo. If she doesn't, well, compromise is part of marriage and surely playing with his wife is better than playing on the sly and feeling guilty or not playing at all.