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Nov 18 MiscKitty commented on Savage Love.
@ Lava - The EC needs to go. But it'll take a Constitutional amendment to get rid of it, and the Republicans already have a bullshit line about how "only the voters cities will matter!!1!1" if we kill it. To fully understand what that line means, you need to keep in mind that Republicans have spent quite some time dog whistling that "real Americans" don't live in "inner cities," "real Americans" live in "real America."

In short, getting rid of the EC will be a herculean task. It's worth the effort and we should absolutely move in that direction, but in the meantime, we need to pursue other avenues for change as well. Eliminating gerrymandering comes to mind.

Also, if you want an idea of just how bad education in this country is, consider this: Texas has a great deal of control over what information is included in textbooks that are used nationwide. And they are pushing for textbooks that "promote Christian fundamentalism, boost conservative political figures, and force-feed American 'exceptionalism,' while downplaying the historical contributions of minorities."* California is pushing back, but the results are still pretty grim. Just one example: the 2015 textbooks present slavery as “a side issue to the Civil War."

Houston Press goes into more detail here:

http://www.houstonpress.com/news/5-reaso…

*http://www.nea.org/home/39060.htm

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Nov 17 MiscKitty commented on Savage Love.
@ auntie griz -

I'm from Oklahoma, so the racism and misogyny Trump showcased in this election wasn't a departure from the typical deplorable background radiation I'm used to.

And that's the thing about Republican awfulness: yes, you really do get used to it.

Living in a red state is a lot like living with a debilitating chronic illness: everything is fucked but your perception becomes so warped that the degree of awful doesn't really register except when you mention a symptom to someone on the outside and they are horrified.

For example: Our schools had to shut down early because they didn't have enough money to keep the lights on. To cut costs, they're hiring people to teach who are not certified to teach. That keeps the first grade class sizes down to about 30 six year olds per classroom. No, no teaching aids. Just one adult teaching 30 six year olds to read.
Or: My husband got a raise and it knocked us into a higher taxes bracket. So our state taxes went down.

Or: Our state has been having earthquakes that are serious enough to cause major property damage. They are the direct result of wastewater disposable from fracking, so insurance companies refuse to cover the damages. The cities started banning fracking. Our city council blocked fracking under our water supply . The state responded by banning cities from banning fracking.

Or: We have a combined 9% sales tax. On food.

This is all what passes for "normal" in states controlled by Republicans. It's a neat trick: Republicans break the government, then the voters are disgusted by the dysfunction so they hate government, so they vote for people who run on how much they hate government. Then those people get elected and they break the government.

And when government is broken, the quality of life deteriorates. Which drives people to the prosperity gospel churches. (That’s a-whole-nother can of worms.) And that, of course, just makes things worse. Meanwhile, women and minorities become convenient targets. It makes them feel better about their own shitty lives to have someone to be "better than."

We got the fuck out a few months before the election and I can't tell you how glad I am that we did.
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Nov 17 MiscKitty commented on Savage Love.
@ 20 - Exactly. Moving to a swing state or a blue state will be taking a small step towards either turning a swing state solidly blue or redistributing electoral college votes and House Reps to a state that is already blue.

And as an added bonus, you'll be happier. (I'm speaking from personal experience.)
Nov 16 MiscKitty commented on Savage Love.
Reminder for liberals living in red states: in 2020, we'll have our next census. That means your warm body will award your awful state more Representatives to the House and more votes in the electoral college.

If you've ever wanted to move someplace less shitty, get on the ball and get the fuck out before 2020.
Nov 5 MiscKitty commented on Savage Love Letters of the Day: Screwing Trump Supporters.
@ 30

tolerate: accept or endure (someone or something unpleasant or disliked) with forbearance

Note that it doesn't say anything about fucking deplorable people.
Oct 5 MiscKitty commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Counterpoint to Last Week's Tweet Storm of Advice for Straight Men.
@ 23 nailed it.

"'Nice guys' aren't actually nice."

I have never been treated kindly by a guy who identifies as "nice" and claims that women are attracted to assholes.
Sep 19 MiscKitty commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: She Wants To Want Her Husband Again.
@ LW - I was thinking more or less the same thing as LavaGirl: your kink seems like a pretty low bar to clear. Has your husband said why he won't give it a try?
Aug 16 MiscKitty commented on Savage Love.
TOP - Planned Parenthood! Give your local Planned Parenthood a call about that HPV vaccine. They'll give you the information you need and get you squared away. Good luck!
Jun 28 MiscKitty commented on Savage Love.
@ Fichu

This is why some women try to spare men's feelings and don't "just say no" when we turn them down:

http://abc7chicago.com/news/woman-stabbe…

http://www.theroot.com/articles/news/201…

http://jezebel.com/girl-stabbed-to-death…

These aren't isolated incidents. It's depressingly common for men to react to rejection with violence or threats of violence:

http://whenwomenrefuse.tumblr.com

Here's an article that unpacks it fairly well:

http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/9329138.h…
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May 12 MiscKitty commented on Donald Trump's Ban On Muslims Entering US Just a "Suggestion".
@ 3 - No, she's the mayor of Paris, not London. The mayor of London is the man with her.