May 10
esperando commented on
SL Letter of the Day: I'm Out.
I'd say as someone (a man) who can't be the target of that word, it's really not my call to decide whether it's become acceptable, nor is it Priapism's. Maybe he should ask some of his "lady classmates," and guage their reactions, instead of spinning a lot of pretentious rationalizations for his behaviour.
Apr 18
esperando commented on
SL Letter of the Day: Stepdad Seeking.
You got this one wrong, Dan. I know that we gays are really terrified of passing judgment on any relationship, but I'm going to just come right out and say what we all want to: mixed-orientation marriages are morally WRONG*. Building a marriage on a lie cheapens and disrespects the institution, both parties to such a sham usually deserve better, and a gay person entering into one is complicit in perpetuating a system of mandatory heterosexuality that makes life much worse for every other gay person on earth. I also should mention that I grew up with a gay father who was married to my straight mother (he came out and they divorced when I was young, and it was the best thing that could have possibly happened to all of us), and I have to say that living in a family with a dishonest foundation is extremely stressful, painful, and alienating for a child. Children born into the kinds of marriages that religious conservatives insist gay people ought to be getting into pay a very high price for their vanity and prejudice; I wish for once that they would actually "think of the children."
*This obviously does not apply to bisexuals marrying a straight or gay person.
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Feb 26
esperando commented on
"Why does he have boobs?".
@1 Waaaaa, I'm an entitled ass who takes any acknowledgement that people not like me exist and face challenges I don't have to deal with as an affront to my privilege Waaaaaaa [sob]
Feb 26
esperando commented on
Frat Brothers Raise Money To Cover Trans Member's Top Surgery After Insurance Company Denies His Claim.
@9 Body Dysmorphic Disorder was not removed from the DSM V, but Trans folks were never diagnosed with that condition (right now it only applies to people who are compelled to amputate a body part - completely distinct from their gender identity). They used to be diagnosed with GID, Gender Identity Disorder, which diagnosed their desire to identify with the gender opposite of their assigned sex as a disorder. In the DSM V, this was replaced with Gender Dysphoria, which identifies the emotional and psychological stress of being assigned a sex that is the opposite of one's perceived/experienced gender identity as the disorder, which can only be corrected by medically assigning someone a sex that is congruent with their internal gender identity. It has moved the root of the disorder from identifying with the gender opposite to the sex assigned at birth to the distress caused by being assigned the wrong sex.
Feb 26
esperando commented on
This Is a Big Fucking Deal.
@13, actually, two of the Republicans are sitting members of congress. It's a pathetically low number, and it speaks volumes to the amoral spinelessness of the GOP, but at least it isn't zero.