May 3, 2012
commented on Savage Love
If we let people engage in boxing, MMA, playing football, and all other risky behavior (like jumping out of perfectly good airplanes with a backpacks full of material that SHOULD break our falls) then why not just let this guy get his rocks off a few times a year. I love the suggestion of finding a woman with fetishes, too.
I think that if this guy leads a double life, THEN the snooping would happen because it would be something that would take his time and attention away from his unsuspecting partner. She would likely "know" that "something" was up, and THEN it would be (in my eyes) quite justified snooping.
When my husband started acting squirrely, I found out he had a strong cuckold fetish. I found out by snooping, and it took a while, as he was pretty good about covering his tracks. When I asked him about it, I said, honey, I know you're embarrassed, but can I help you somehow? I was happy to help him, and it has opened our life up immeasurably. (especially when he switches and punishes me for my "transgressions"!)