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Oct 21, 2014 UK_Nurse commented on Scottish Fish Invented Sex.
You should know that anything us Scottish folk think is important, we cover in batter and deep fry.
Aug 21, 2014 UK_Nurse commented on Everything Is Transphobic (But "Gay Men Draw Vaginas" Isn't).
I don't even. . ."front hole"?! Really?!

I do not understand what is transphobia or exclusionary about the term "vagina". A woman can have a vagina. A transman can have a vagina. Therefore, isn't "A Night of 1000 Vaginas" inclusionary by not specifically inferring that abortion provision is only for women? Or am I missing something?

As for Gay Men Draw Vaginas - I'm a gay man who works in works primarily in women's sexual and reproductive health. I have seen *a lot* of vaginas. . .
Mar 1, 2014 UK_Nurse commented on Imploring Bi People to Come Out is Biphobic.
@98 - I don't know how it was wherever you are based, but in the UK, the vast majority of media outlets did not label Tom Daley's sexuality. They simply stated he announced his relationship with a man but that he still fancied women. He can certainly be claimed as a member of the LGBTQ community, but he cannot be labelled as bisexual or gay - that's his choice to make not anyone else.

I think Harvey Milk would count as a celebrity these days, but in context of the time I doubt many people outside of of the gay community or California would know who he was. Talking about openly LGBT celebrities nowadays would mean individuals in the mainstream media who are recognisable to the population at large.

I agree that gay and lesbian people should be helping bisexual people come out (although it has also been stated on this thread that those of us who are not bisexual should not have any say in the matter, so I guess we're fucked in that respect) and I agree that more openly bisexual public figures would certainly help.

But I would hasten to add that I think knowing a relative, friend or loved one is bisexual has far more power in confronting an individual's attitudes about bisexuality than a public figure with no personal relation.
Mar 1, 2014 UK_Nurse commented on Imploring Bi People to Come Out is Biphobic.
@96 -"Nobody is saying that bisexuals shouldn't come out" - except the bisexual individuals on this thread that actually have said that don't see any reason to come out.

The impression I get is that within the bisexual community, never mind the LGBTQ community, there is a lot of disagreement on issues of disclosure and labelling, both of which are likely contributing to bisexual invisibility.

Which brings me to Tom Daly - he had never described himself as bisexual. He states that he has fallen in love with a man but still finds women attractive. Now that may a bisexual make, but I find it rather hypocritical to apply the bisexual label to him in the same way you find it unacceptable that Alan Cumming is labelled "gay" when he has stated he is bisexual. That is why no one does, or should, call Tom Daly bisexual. He may identify as heteroflexible, queer or prefer not to use any label at all.

Coming out certainly would be easier with role models and I agree that when someone comes out as bisexual, there identity should be respected. But remember, before Ellen and Neil Patrick Harris could feel safe enough in their careers to come out publicly, it was ordinary gay and lesbian folk with no high profile who led the way. Indeed, it was only though acceptance in the general public of lesbian and gay individuals that gay and lesbian celebrities can come out.

Maria Ospina is clearly no longer in the closet (unless she uses a pseudonym) but it is a fair comment that bisexual individuals should not be expecting celebrities to come out first to act as role models - that will only come with greater visibility in the general population.
Feb 26, 2014 UK_Nurse commented on SL Letter of the Day: Haters Gonna Hate.
@49 I certainly advise my patients that condoms will reduce but not eliminate the risk of bacterial infections like chlamydia and gonorrhoea. Effectiveness rates usually only refer to the prevention of transmission of HIV and pregnancy.

One theory is that an individual will end up with bacteria on their hands during foreplay, before putting the condom on, effectively inoculating the outside of the condom with bacteria. Oral sex will also play its part too.
Feb 24, 2013 UK_Nurse commented on SL Letter of the Day: Do It, Sissy.
This has only just occured to me - has the LW considered the anal plugs used to treat anal incontinence?

Peristeen anal plugs are essentially tampons for the anus, available as a method of managing faecal incontinence. They expand to create a plug at the top of the rectal cavity and can be left in for up to twelve hours. They are shaped differently so there would be less risk of it being lost inside the anus (although that's not no risk).

These are only available by prescription in the UK but I'd imagine there are similar products available in the USA.

It's an option but I still stand by my original opinion of not shoving things up one's ass that could potentially disappear. . .
Feb 24, 2013 UK_Nurse commented on SL Letter of the Day: Do It, Sissy.
Agree with Dr Barak and the other healthcare professionals in the comments - not a good idea.

As has already been mentioned by Shann - a vagina has the cervix to stop things from disappearing any further inside, a rectum is just the start of a long length of intestine.

As someone who has retrieved a few retained tampons from patients, I can tell you that those things not only retain lots of fluid, but also provide a perfect breeding ground for bacteria (any other healthcare professionals on here will know that a retained tampon produces a smell perhaps only beaten by fungating breast tumours). Losing a tampon inside the rectum risks developing a serious bowel obstruction, which can be fatal.

And it seems to fly in the face of the advice you regularly recommend ER doctors tell their patients, Dan - don't stick anything in your ass that doesn't have a flared base.
Feb 5, 2013 UK_Nurse commented on House of Commons Backs Same-Sex Marriage.
@gloomy_gus, Nadine Dorries is an utter joke of an MP (she spent three weeks of parliamentary time on a reality TV show last year). I too found her statement utterly insane.

I would not be surprised if she proposes an amendment that allows her to check every married woman's vagina to check that their hymens are good and broken. Because she is all about the act of consummation.
Feb 5, 2013 UK_Nurse commented on House of Commons Backs Same-Sex Marriage.
Still has to get through House of Lords, but it is really exciting news.

Plus, the rifts it has caused in the Conservative party mean that the Tories are very likely to be on their way out in 2015.

Two reasons to celebrate really!
Feb 2, 2013 UK_Nurse commented on Savage Love Episode 327.
Between listening to this podcast and finally getting round to watching Girls (I'm always last on the bandwagon) I have to say - Americans, seriously, calm the fuck down about HPV and Herpes.

Working in a clinic in the UK, we do not test for HPV or HSV routinely because there is no need to - unless you have symptoms, what is the point? I was glad to hear Dr Anna stress that point although I think Dan was still a little too hysterical with his point regarding disclosure.

I would be interested to know what tests Dr Anna would actually do in her clinic for someone who is asymptomatic but requests an HSV test. In my clinic, we do PCR testing if someone presents with visible sores, which would test for both HSV I and II, as well as syphilis. If there are no sores, there is nothing to sample - surely blood tests would only test for antibodies, which merely show if you've been exposed to an infection?