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Feb 17, 2015 SifuMark commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Can He Dump His Girlfriend Now?.
Flee on foot: good company or no company is my policy, I settled for no girlfriend for a few years, in my prime, and it was good, though I really did leave the prior household carrying a cardboard box that didn't contain a beloved one of a kind vest, it was worth it to escape another day of emotional abuse. Crazy is crazy, run.
Feb 11, 2015 SifuMark commented on SL Letter of the Day: Be PrEPared.
I'm with the folks who say that the bottom is just being an asshole (ahem); folks who like unsafe practices practice unsafely any time, anywhere, in my experience: run, run fast.

In other news I seem to see a different interface today, probably meaning that the tech savvy youth are getting some practice, but it doesn't seem like an improvement to me: one of the rules of thumb in web design is the fewer clicks to see what you want, the better. It wasn't broken, why fix it.
Sep 26, 2014 SifuMark commented on SL Letter of the Day: Down the Road.
I've spent years alone when I was your age, and I was lonely, sometimes it was painful, but I don't regret it, though I am a strong believer in the inevitability of regret.

Most of us monogamous folks wind up doing serial monogamy, and then feeling settled at some point, with a like minded partner.
Good company or no company.
Sep 21, 2014 SifuMark commented on Wanna Cuddle with Strangers?.
I'm informed, by sources I have considered reliable, that cuddle parties are held around here (North Bay of SF). They came up regularly on a forum I used to hang out on: I think that it was the Bay Area Rider's Forum (It's for motorcycle people). They have a strong set of rules to make sure that it's clothes on, no making out only holding.
It sounds to me like a fine thing for lonely or poly curious folk who want to try being in a real pile with very little risk.
Aug 30, 2014 SifuMark commented on SL Letter of the Day: Shelfies.
I once spotted a self-help book on a GF's shelf called "The Fifty Mile Rule". She lived more than fifty miles away. I asked "What's that?" and she said that she didn't know what it was or how it got there. That was over with pretty quick.

Also avoid partners whose favourite book is a self-help volume called "The Dance Of Anger" and only have "The Prince" (not the little one) on her bedside shelf. That one didn't last long, either (surprise).

So, yeah, look at the actual bookshelves.
Aug 25, 2014 SifuMark commented on Terrifying Headline of the Day.
If she had gone the route of Cher I would be so disappointed.

Kate Bush rocks top to bottom, and back.
I can't say that I have a favourite musician because a lot of them rate 100%.
Aug 23, 2014 SifuMark commented on Terrifying Headline of the Day.
I think that she has moved music forward. She is a true progressive artist and wonderful in every way.

Of course I only put on Hounds Of Love when I'm ready for a shattering emotional experience, but there are safer Bush albums on my shelves.
Aug 18, 2014 SifuMark commented on SL Letter of the Day: Judgement Daze.
I have heard so may tales of regret from the married and several times married, and many of the parents I've known as well.

Good company or no company I say.
Aug 8, 2014 SifuMark commented on Headline of the Day.
I think that Robert Anton Wilson coined the phrase "As quick and sneaky as a preacher's dick in a cow's ass."

Also @15 brings to mind this old one: Why do you have to wrap hamsters in duct tape?
So they don't explode when you fuck them.
Jul 4, 2014 SifuMark commented on SL Letter of the Day: Smoke Her Out.
When I was 19-23 I thought that since an occasional heated "disagreement" can be an acceptable norm in some relationships, that I should tolerate what it took me four years to figure out was simply emotional abuse. I required two and a half years of celibacy and then one very kind hippie twice my age to begin to recover.

That last part was extremely pleasant, but GET OUT before you become a walking wounded misogynist fixer-upper; it can happen to the best of us; let me just quote the Amityville house again: GET OUT!

tl/dr: good company or no company.