commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Boyfriend Slow-Walking His Divorce
"Whenever I ask him for an update on the process, we end up arguing and not speaking for an entire day."
"Given the amount of time this is taking, and given your boyfriend's angry response when you bring the subject up, it's possible ..."
If she's putting him on blast for being methodical, he might be angry because of how she's coming at him, not the questions in particular. Dude has all sorts of reasons to be methodical and do this in such a way so that his ex isn't angry at him. They have kids, so he's gonna be interacting with the ex at a minimum until they are all 18.
Homewrecker views the ex poorly ("she tries to play tricks on him, keep the kids from him,") but treating her that way is a recipe for years of strife. Why go through that unless the ex is already making it so shitty...