kitschnsync
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Nov 30 kitschnsync commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: We Will Never Get Closure On CLOSURE.
Also, I would like more letters about butt sex.
Nov 30 kitschnsync commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: We Will Never Get Closure On CLOSURE.
we should all be kind and compassionate when dumping someone, if at all possible, and an explanation that helps the dumpee get themselves to closure counts as compassionate and considerate

is 180 degrees from

if getting dumped—which is always a risk—is impacting your mental health this severely, your issues may be bigger than "my ex didn't dump me juuuuust right."

Dan's advice on the original letter essentially amounted to "man up, and if you are so fragile you can't handle being dumped, get your head examined."

There are certainly advantages to stoicism ( a trait which men are socially conditioned to adopt), but the poor guy wrote in asking for advice and got gaslighted about being a potential abuser and a bit of a basket case instead.

I can't help wondering if Dan's original response would have been different if CLOSURE was a woman.
Nov 7 kitschnsync commented on Gameshow of Thrones.
I find it hard to believe that this essay isn't satire, but it's for real.

It's still a fucking joke, though.
Nov 3 kitschnsync commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: WOES Gets It, JABBER Doesn't Get It (But Doesn't Mind).
@12: There's no way I'd do four years like this

Yeah, you and the vast majority of people, including married couples with children.

I know that other people don't see it as such a big deal

There are very few people that would see a four-year bout of abstinence with their spouse as no big deal. Maybe this couple is a statistical anomaly, or maybe there is something else going on here that's not discussed in the letter. The former seems less likely than than the latter, but who knows?

I don't want to speculate any further, given this guy probably reads Savage Love. I would be intrigued to see him or his wife join the comments.
Nov 3 kitschnsync commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: WOES Gets It, JABBER Doesn't Get It (But Doesn't Mind).
@9, I don't think he is lying, but I do think he might be a bit delusional. He says "we'd like to have more sex than no sex," but then goes to lengths to explain why that hasn't happened.

For four years. And possibly four more.

If he is lying to anyone, it's to himself.
Nov 3 kitschnsync commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: WOES Gets It, JABBER Doesn't Get It (But Doesn't Mind).
Re: LW2, for most people four years of no sex means the marriage is already fucked. Add another four years to that, and they will have gone the better part of decade. It appears the only reason they are together is for their daughter. Busy people all over the world find time to have sex... if they actually want to have sex.

They are in a companionate marriage. Good for them for as long as it works, but I suspect once their daughter flies the nest, they will have no reason to be together.
Nov 2 kitschnsync commented on Queer Science! The Structures of Our Cells Live Inside the Stars.
What is queer abut this column, exactly?

I mean, besides the title that doesn't match the content.
Nov 1 kitschnsync commented on The Morning News: Men Are Babies About Birth Control, Cynthia Whitlatch Trial Begins.
@5, "contraceptive method" can mean anything from using condoms to tracking menstrual cycles. We're talking about hormonal birth control.
Nov 1 kitschnsync commented on The Morning News: Men Are Babies About Birth Control, Cynthia Whitlatch Trial Begins.
Yeah, about that first item... An external panel stopped the study, probably because of an irregular heartbeat caused by the shot. 75% of men in the study said they would continue the shots despite side effects. What percentage of women use hormonal birth control?

Sydney's reporting is lacking, and the numbers in the Buzzfeed article are wrong. You can read some actual science reporting at on this at New Scientist.