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T commented on The Song I Listened to Over and Over Again After I Had My Heart Broken for the First Time.
T commented on The Song I Listened to Over and Over Again After I Had My Heart Broken for the First Time.
Jun 12
T commented on What Are You Going to Do the Next Time You See Someone Being Harassed on the Street?.
T commented on What Are You Going to Do the Next Time You See Someone Being Harassed on the Street?.
Being alone may be a common thread in street harrassment, but it's not absolute. My girlfriend has been harrassed several times with me standing right next to her or walking alongside her. It catches me off guard everytime, though when I'm with her she feels more comfortable in loudly telling the guy to fuck off.
As much as I'd love to say I would intervene each and every time I saw some mouth breather harrassing a woman, it's more likely to be a case-by-case basis. But if I see even the slightest bit of unwanted physical contact, I'm calling the cops.
As much as I'd love to say I would intervene each and every time I saw some mouth breather harrassing a woman, it's more likely to be a case-by-case basis. But if I see even the slightest bit of unwanted physical contact, I'm calling the cops.
Jun 10
T commented on Dan Harmon Is Returning to Community: What Do You Think?.
T commented on Dan Harmon Is Returning to Community: What Do You Think?.
Oh, season four was fine. Yeah, the repeated callbacks to the alternate timelines were tired and anything/everything Chang-related was dumb (like always), but I still laughed quite a bit and was pleasantly surprised that it wasn't terrible.
That said, I'm excited for Harmon's return and a 5th season, no matter how abbreviated.
That said, I'm excited for Harmon's return and a 5th season, no matter how abbreviated.
Jun 6
T commented on Album Review: RVIVR's The Beauty Between.
T commented on Album Review: RVIVR's The Beauty Between.
This album is so fucking good. As much as I miss Latterman, I love that their breakup paved the way for RVIVR and Iron Chic.
Jun 5
T commented on Street Harassment.
T commented on Street Harassment.
@75 Ugh, this is like talking to a wall. A stupid, inconsiderate, narcissistic, self-centered wall. The world does not start and stop at your convenience. You might enjoy being reduced to a body part (you are quite the ass, after all), but you're a sociopath if you think that others desire that kind of attention simply because you do.
Jun 5
T commented on Street Harassment.
T commented on Street Harassment.
@70 You're the one making it into a battle of the sexes and taking it as an affront to your manhood. I read the article and had no problem whatsoever separating myself from the types of "men" who willingly harrass random women. If there's any division being created by this article, it's between feminists and those who refuse to see this kind of harrassment as problematic. Based on your butthurt attitude, I think I know which side of the debate you're on.
Jun 5
T commented on Street Harassment.
T commented on Street Harassment.
@49 The sad thing is, I can't tell if you're trolling or you really are just clueless. Try to get this through your skull: The privilege you experience as a single (shocker!) straight male does not translate to everyone else. You can take cat-calling as a compliment without fearing for your safety or feeling reduced to little more than a cum dumpster.
The vast majority of women are not afforded this privilege, and indeed you may be harrassing a woman who was sexually assaulted in the past, which can be triggering. You're choosing to double down on the "she wants it" mindset rather than consider even the possibility that your harrassment is unwanted, like a rapist but with words. Yes, they're two very different things, harrassment and assault. No matter how you cut it they're both unwanted, even if you choose to believe otherwise. You're contributing to a culture that makes women feel unsafe and that condones harrassment against women.
The vast majority of women are not afforded this privilege, and indeed you may be harrassing a woman who was sexually assaulted in the past, which can be triggering. You're choosing to double down on the "she wants it" mindset rather than consider even the possibility that your harrassment is unwanted, like a rapist but with words. Yes, they're two very different things, harrassment and assault. No matter how you cut it they're both unwanted, even if you choose to believe otherwise. You're contributing to a culture that makes women feel unsafe and that condones harrassment against women.
Jun 5
T commented on Street Harassment.
T commented on Street Harassment.
@25 So rather than assume that this brand of negative, belittling attention is unwanted, you take the "she's asking for it" approach? Fuck you. As for it your assertion of it not being "repetitive," you may not be repeatedly harrassing the same random woman on the street, but she absolutely IS being repeatedly harrassed. And you're contributing to it. You're part of the problem.
@32 Agreed. I was recently walking home with my girlfriend after a night out and some meathead said "you have really nice tits" to her. No shame. It caught me so off guard, it wasn't until 2 blocks later that I realized I should have said "right back at ya" to the fuck. Thankfully, my much more articulate lady screamed at him "that's fucking harrassment, you asshole!" She said if I wasn't with her, she wouldn't have said anything and would have walked much faster. This shit happens to her all the time. It's also happened to both of her daughters, ages 18 and 14. Gross.
Bottom line, if all you sad little boys out there want women to not assume you're a rapist, then stop acting like one. The attention isn't unwanted because you're not attractive enough. Your looks have nothing to do with it, so get over yourself. It's your behavior that makes you unattractive. You're not complimenting a woman on her looks, you're telling her that you're prone to random hormone-driven outbursts, you can't control yourself in public, and you objectify women and inherently have zero respect for them. It's these characteristics that make you unsuitable as a mate. No "happily ever after" has ever started with "nice ass." Next time, maybe open with "hi." Or better yet, just leave her alone.
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@32 Agreed. I was recently walking home with my girlfriend after a night out and some meathead said "you have really nice tits" to her. No shame. It caught me so off guard, it wasn't until 2 blocks later that I realized I should have said "right back at ya" to the fuck. Thankfully, my much more articulate lady screamed at him "that's fucking harrassment, you asshole!" She said if I wasn't with her, she wouldn't have said anything and would have walked much faster. This shit happens to her all the time. It's also happened to both of her daughters, ages 18 and 14. Gross.
Bottom line, if all you sad little boys out there want women to not assume you're a rapist, then stop acting like one. The attention isn't unwanted because you're not attractive enough. Your looks have nothing to do with it, so get over yourself. It's your behavior that makes you unattractive. You're not complimenting a woman on her looks, you're telling her that you're prone to random hormone-driven outbursts, you can't control yourself in public, and you objectify women and inherently have zero respect for them. It's these characteristics that make you unsuitable as a mate. No "happily ever after" has ever started with "nice ass." Next time, maybe open with "hi." Or better yet, just leave her alone.
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When I ended my first "real" relationship a couple years ago, I fell for someone else pretty quickly and got my heart broken hard, not by her as much as our circumstances at the time. I listened to Frank Turner's "Substitute" countless times during that period (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GzZBEj1g4…). All I could think everytime I started that song over was "that's totally me!" But happy ending, I fought for what I wanted and won; we're moving in together in a couple of weeks. =)