commented on Don't Think Of Them As YOUR Boobs, Think Of Them As OUR Boobs
So basically they're legislating what many people here shame socially mothers for not doing?
It's such a weird tension ... shaming women for doing something entirely natural and fine (you're a disgusting deviant for exposing your boobs in public) and then shaming them also for not doing it because they can't or don't want to (you're a negligent mother who doesn't care about the health of her child). Is the best of both worlds co-oercing women into how they use their bodies, but you know, at home? Thanks.
(Formula-fed here. Not given the "best start possible." Might as well have been left in the woods, exposed to wolves.)
Nov 20, 2013
commented on Good-Bye, Seattle
You'll be missed, Megan :( I still remember reading that amazing story you wrote about Martha Stewart cookies. Best wishes!
Nov 20, 2013
commented on SL Letters of the Day: More On Gym Oglers
While I totally get the feeling of "I wish people paid attention to me and found me attractive", I don't get why we have to convince other people that they should be grateful for attention.
If they really, really don't like being ogled or looked at or hit on, who cares? How does it make your life better? How does it make you feel better about being unattractive? It doesn't! You just want to crap on someone pretty so it makes you feel momentarily superior.
I know! Because I do that!
Aug 28, 2013
commented on Starbucks Fires Employee on Food Stamps for Eating a Sandwich from the Garbage
@94: Uh, nope. My dad was in a union and they gave him jacksquat. They told him there were 4-5 cases just like his, weird accusations of theft of meaningless items, and they weren't going to take any of the cases to arbitration because theft doesn't go well in arbitration.
They went through the process and washed their hands of the matter. Process didn't work for him, or the 4-5 other people who got fucked in the same way.
Aug 26, 2013
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Assorted Qs
7: Dan covered the litmus idea, and others have advised you to get to know what feminism means to you.
As a late 20s feminist myself, I'll say that you should be prepared to continue to refine your ideas and feelings for a long while (probably forever!). Go out and find places, blogs, and communities that expose you to lots of variations and perspectives on feminism. You'll find out what you feel really strongly about, what you're not sure about, and what you've never thought about, and hearing from more and more people will help you define your own thoughts. You'll be challenged in lots of ways and also gain more confidence.
The great thing about doing this online is that it'll be easier to learn without getting into a lot of confrontation (unless you want to). It'll also be easier to hear what other people say without having to insert yourself into a conversation you're not informed enough to take on yet. Lurk!
Another side benefit is that this will also help you in the many inevitable situations when you will have to defend yourself.
Jul 18, 2013
commented on McDonald's Employees Actually Fill Out the McDonald's Proposed Budget
@6: You mean the category in this particular man's budget exercise that includes prescription drugs and childcare and FOOD? He's paying $100 a month for drugs, $100 for childcare (which is pretty damn low), and paying for groceries that include himself and two kids, one of which he notes is growing really fast.