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Aug 23 saxfanatic commented on Savage Love.
Re TC: "When does one just become blatantly ungrateful?"

Honestly? I think humans are born that way.
Aug 17 saxfanatic commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Blown Opportunities.
Since HU(N)GER is only 30 it's a less likely though still possible that her guy had hip surgery (labral repair, hip resurfacing or total hip replacement - take your pick).

However, a simpler, plausible explanation might be some self-consciousness due to the requisite pre-op deforestation that goes with even simplest of pelvic operations. If that's the case the good news is that it's temporary.
Aug 9 saxfanatic commented on Savage Love.
Hey, Orlando Dan! Keep up the good work!
Aug 9 saxfanatic commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Rest of the Story.
@21: Precisely - brevity being the soul of wit and all.
Aug 8 saxfanatic commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Rest of the Story.
@4: This whole exchange cries out for English subtitles.
Aug 5 saxfanatic commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Punting.
It may be that this err was a last-ditch effort to undo the commitment he just made, or it may have been a pre-cohabitation blowout. Thinking w-a-a-a-y back I can remember that for me my marriage was no big deal. I thought of it as a nice ceremony but my world hadn't changed substantially. For me, the big change came when we moved in together, about a year earlier.

I was about to write that at least I didn't fuck up like WGHA's boyfriend did. Then I remembered: "Oh right. I did."
Aug 3 saxfanatic commented on Savage Love.
@9, BiDanFan: I take your point.
Aug 2 saxfanatic commented on Savage Love.
Re: Flags "I saw a sex worker for a legit sensual massage." I believe that, by definition, anything qualified with the word "legit" isn't. Thanks though, Dan, for not conflating body-work with sex-work. Much appreciated.

Re: USA! USA!, Dan, I like your reply but admire your restraint. I feel compelled to note that among the many classic porn tropes at play in that scenario, the facial of all things turned out to be the deal-breaker! Wow, I didn't see that, uh, coming.
Jul 26 saxfanatic commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: What Would You Do About My Awful Mum?.
@8: Yeah, I was afraid that I might be portraying my own mother as a monster. She wasn't, of course. She was a devoted parent. Like my father, she worked very hard to raise me and my siblings. Like my father, she was thoughtful and reasonable and had a lot of insight into human nature. And, like my father, all that wisdom and reason which served her well in the world at large went out the fucking window when it came to dealing with her own children. Neither of my parents were mean. They just couldn't be detached in the way they related to their kids. All communication came from a very emotional place. The more fraught the parenting issue, the more heated the communication.

Now, add to that the fact that - especially when upset - my Mom lacked a filter. Regardless of how much she loved us, she was fully capable of uttering some truly regrettable, thoughtless things.

When I read CWL's letter it all looks pretty stark. I'm willing to believe that there's a deeper, nuanced story in there.