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Jul 26 saxfanatic commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: What Would You Do About My Awful Mum?.
@8: Yeah, I was afraid that I might be portraying my own mother as a monster. She wasn't, of course. She was a devoted parent. Like my father, she worked very hard to raise me and my siblings. Like my father, she was thoughtful and reasonable and had a lot of insight into human nature. And, like my father, all that wisdom and reason which served her well in the world at large went out the fucking window when it came to dealing with her own children. Neither of my parents were mean. They just couldn't be detached in the way they related to their kids. All communication came from a very emotional place. The more fraught the parenting issue, the more heated the communication.

Now, add to that the fact that - especially when upset - my Mom lacked a filter. Regardless of how much she loved us, she was fully capable of uttering some truly regrettable, thoughtless things.

When I read CWL's letter it all looks pretty stark. I'm willing to believe that there's a deeper, nuanced story in there.
Jul 25 saxfanatic commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: What Would You Do About My Awful Mum?.
"She... will make hurtful comments without even knowing they're hurtful." i.e., she is a mother.

CWL, my sense is that you know that you have a strong case for excluding Mum but you're inhibited by your guilt. I would ask myself at least two questions here:

1. Despite your own feelings, would your kids appreciate her presence?

2. Which would bother you more, your feelings in Mum's presence or your conscience in Mum's absence?

Please trust me when I say that I'm not about to judge you, whatever you decide. Good luck.
Jul 22 saxfanatic commented on Hillary Clinton Announces Running Mate.
CBI Agent Kimball Cho? He'll kick ass!
Jul 20 saxfanatic commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: My 13-Year-Old Son Is Watching Gay Porn.
@38: "Porn is not sex any more than a monster truck rally is driving."

Great analogy!
Jul 19 saxfanatic commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: My 13-Year-Old Son Is Watching Gay Porn.
@11, Ms. V-DR: "Granted, I am... (not as old as Our Dear Dan)..." - which would therefore make you younger than 29. I am surprised, for it belies your wisdom.
Jul 13 saxfanatic commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Crazy Soon-To-Be-Ex-Girlfriend.
DTMFAWEP - "dump the motherfucker already with extreme prejudice.
Jul 8 saxfanatic commented on Dumbest Letter Ever.
"As with his Fox News counterparts, what he expresses is simply his opinion - one I'm more than willing to accept."

Oh fuck! I mean that I agree with Dan's opinions - not Fox News'. D'oh!
Jul 8 saxfanatic commented on Dumbest Letter Ever.
Unless I'm mistaken, Dan doesn't style himself a "journalist" but rather a "sex advice columnist". As such, the bar for his blog posts is set a little lower. As with his Fox News counterparts, what he expresses is simply his opinion - one I'm more than willing to accept.
Jul 8 saxfanatic commented on Mark Hughes, Gun Nut of Interest.
Sniper recognition checklist: 1. Camoflage? Check! 2. High-powered rifle? Check! Marching in a parade? Uh, not so much.
Jul 6 saxfanatic commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Taking a Break, Breaking a Heart, Casting a Ballot.

@7:
I told her the third time I met her I was looking for a best friend and to invest in and adventure through life with

this is classic head-over-heels crap. you weirded her out.


Maybe she is pulling the plug because she's weirded out, but if laying out his cards early (and perhaps pointlessly) were the problem they would never have lasted six months.