@23 She wrote Dan, an advice columnist, his advise on this matter (which I think is sound). His column has comments, he told her to avoid the comments. But if she didn't want people's opinion on it, she wouldn't have asked it.
Sometimes, when you have an experience, you tell other people -friends, strangers- about that experience to get their perspective. Some people on comment boards are callous, but honestly these comments aren't that callous.If
she didn't want advice/perspective, she wouldn't've asked Dan. If she doesn't want to see other people's perspective, she won't read the comments.
Personally, I really appreciate when LW read the comments and respond, cause despite the trolls, I think they're more helpful ultimately than harmful.
And I hope this woman gets the help she seeks and serves.