Aug 30 hilah commented on Shut Up About Trigger Warnings....
@12 Chris Kyle is in no way a trained mental health professional.
Aug 30 hilah commented on Shut Up About Trigger Warnings....
I personally appreciate trigger warnings as someone with a very mild PTSD. Generally I don't need them, but there are some days when I see one and know it isn't something I can handle that day. It's nice to be able to take that moment and be able to say "no thank you" instead of having your entire day ruined.

That said, I know I have some triggers that are absurd to expect people to make warnings for. One example is a fairly well known but not super popular song. I recently went to a wedding and it was played. I spent the length of the song focusing on my breathing and zoning out. It wasn't an enjoyable moment for me but I got through it. Then the other day, I heard a terrible cover of it on the radio and it didn't bother me. To me, it actually would have been more upsetting in that moment to have attention drawn to the song as a possible trigger than hearing the actual song was. (On a side note, Darius Rucker should go back to doing 90's alt pop instead of country.)
Nov 17, 2015 hilah commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: An Easy Call for a Former Call Girl.
Guess what LW. It seems you have gotten yourself into another abusive relationship. Moving in after being together a few months and he verbally berates you daily? At best you have to deal with verbal and emotional abuse daily. But more likely this will escalate to physical sooner or later. DTMF NOW
Mar 27, 2013 hilah commented on Savage Love.
@ 32 & 33 - I think she's using Asbergers in a vernacular sense to explain what his disability is like in a way that people are slightly more familiar with
Nov 28, 2012 hilah commented on Savage Love.
My favorite thing to do when people ask me when i'm getting married is to ask "to whom?" and then list all the prospective partners (normally identifying them by their glaring issues) and then cock my head to the side and wait for their response.
Nov 28, 2012 hilah commented on Savage Love.
My favorite response to when people ask me when i'm getting married is "And who do you think I should get married to?" Then point out the prospective people (mainly by piling on their flaws) and cock my head to the side and stare at them.