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Aug 27, 2015 laurelgardner commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Forgiveness and Ashley Madison's Innocent Victims.
Eudamonic - I hear MRA - types making the "women are WAY more violent!" claim all the freaking time, and it's never backed up with solid statistics. It's always backed up with links to mammoth .PDF files that you have to comb through for hours to finally discover that no, in fact, they don't support the claims made. You're right on track with this.
Aug 27, 2015 laurelgardner commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Forgiveness and Ashley Madison's Innocent Victims.
Do NOT insist that your parents see a couple's counselor. Dan is dangerously wrong in this advice. Insist that your father see an abuse counselor or enter a domestic abuser program. Couple's counselor's are not equipped to handle situations of domestic violence. They are far too prone to draw false equivalencies, be unable to spot red flags for further abuse, and insist that abused partners give up essential freedoms for the sake of domestic peace. This will be especially true if your dad is the primary breadwinner and thus, footing the bill.
Oct 5, 2013 laurelgardner commented on SLLOTD: Fully-Clothed Fantasy.
Oh crap, this is old. Damnit.
Oct 5, 2013 laurelgardner commented on SLLOTD: Fully-Clothed Fantasy.
DUDE. I'm a clothed female in Minneapolis and that sounds awesome! Message me?
Jun 7, 2013 laurelgardner commented on They Shoot Hookers, Don't They?.
@42

"But to take offense with the jury or the justice system is wrong headed and against the rule of law, which is THE greatest thing ever invented by America. "

a) Juries have the option of ruling against the law itself. That's one of the reasons we have juries.

b) This woman was an escort. The money paid to her was for her time, not for prostitution, which is illegal in Texas. He shot her for refusing to commit a crime. It's a miscarriage of justice even with such a fucked-up law.
Jun 7, 2013 laurelgardner commented on Devout Group Sex.
@16 - How MUCH time will tell, exactly? This is the problem my husband and I run into with disapproving friends; they NEVER stop waiting for the other shoe to drop with us. Seriously, guys...you don't have to wait for one of us to DIE to be able to admit that the relationships outside our marriage aren't causing us any strain.

Especially since, at the same time, we've got single friends who say that they're jealous of what we have or look to us as role models for a marriage...you know, except for that open relationship thing.
Jun 7, 2013 laurelgardner commented on They Shoot Hookers, Don't They?.
Guys? SHE WAS AN ESCORT. You pay an escort for TIME, not for sex.
Jun 6, 2013 laurelgardner commented on SL Letter of the Day: Of All the Outrageously Untrue Things People Have Said About Me on Twitter....
Ah, western society...lose touch with all the wisdom traditions and emotional connections that human beings have ever developed to help them deal well with the realities of suffering, loss, aging, hardship, replace them with a cheap substitute in the form of technology, then point and mock each other for being reliant on technology. Oy.
Jun 5, 2013 laurelgardner commented on For Anyone Freaking Out About Cunnilingus-Induced Oral Cancers in the Wake of Michael Douglas's Interview With the Guardian.
"Besides, can you imagine what's it been like for him to be eating Catherine Zeta-Jones' bipolar hair pie all these years?"

Interesting fact: bipolar disorder is not, in fact, a disorder of the genitals.
May 31, 2013 laurelgardner commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wee Weenies.
Ah, bringing up racial privilege to win an argument where it's not relevant to the points at hand...it's kinda like having your waiter go off on a tirade about starving people in Africa when you tell him that you think this order he brought is supposed to go to table #2.