commented on They Shoot Hookers, Don't They?
"But to take offense with the jury or the justice system is wrong headed and against the rule of law, which is THE greatest thing ever invented by America. "
a) Juries have the option of ruling against the law itself. That's one of the reasons we have juries.
b) This woman was an escort. The money paid to her was for her time, not for prostitution, which is illegal in Texas. He shot her for refusing to commit a crime. It's a miscarriage of justice even with such a fucked-up law.
commented on Devout Group Sex
@16 - How MUCH time will tell, exactly? This is the problem my husband and I run into with disapproving friends; they NEVER stop waiting for the other shoe to drop with us. Seriously, guys...you don't have to wait for one of us to DIE to be able to admit that the relationships outside our marriage aren't causing us any strain.
Especially since, at the same time, we've got single friends who say that they're jealous of what we have or look to us as role models for a marriage...you know, except for that open relationship thing.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wee Weenies
Ah, bringing up racial privilege to win an argument where it's not relevant to the points at hand...it's kinda like having your waiter go off on a tirade about starving people in Africa when you tell him that you think this order he brought is supposed to go to table #2.
commented on Savage Love
NARG - I would recommend you find out WHY he's so invested in the idea of the $1,000 ring set. If he gets a real and genuine pride from spending this much money on it, or if he just really LIKES that ring set, sure, I'd take Dan's advice. But if he's working from a deeply-ingrained insecurity about his need to prove himself as a provider, it might be worth poking at a bit. His feelings about wanting to give a big gift also don't trump your desire to show your love for HIM with a cheap ring. You should find a balance you both feel happy with, but address the issue with humor and humility.
My husband and I spent a lot of money (for us) on our wedding rings, but my engagement ring came from a bubble machine in a truck stop. I was comfortable with that because it was egalitarian. It was for US, not for ME.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: My Bi Guy
I always make sure to express from the get-go that I am interested in women as friends and potentially sex partners, not as romantic partners. It seems like this really should be common sense and empathy.
On the other hand...sometimes I wonder if it might not be a good idea to develop some kind of short hand to differentiate between those (rarer) bisexuals who are actually 50/50. I've been trying to coin the phrase "heteroqueer" to refer to people like myself and my husband, but it hasn't caught on, yet.