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Jul 23 Corydon commented on That Seattle University Humanities Dean Who Students Wanted Out? She's Resigning..
Incidentally, if I worked in HR, I'd make darn sure to put every single one of these crybabies on a do not hire list. You just know they'll try to pull the same BS in the real world. Employers do not have the time to deal with crap like this. Of course, when they get fired, it'll be the fault of "the culture" and "racism" and have absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with their own personal failure to understand what it means to be an employee.
Jul 23 Corydon commented on That Seattle University Humanities Dean Who Students Wanted Out? She's Resigning..
The whole point of the student-teacher relationship is that students do not know, cannot know what is important. That's why they're students.

If you're uncomfortable at university, then you're getting what you paid for. Profit from it.

But not this bunch of whiners. Pampered ignoramuses the lot of 'em. And to think that the Society of Jesus caved to this mob of tantrum-throwing kindergarteners. Saint Ignatius must be spinning in his grave.
Jul 23 Corydon commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Not Another DTMFA?!? Yes! Another DTMFA!.
@9 the most widely accepted definition is someone who thinks they might have a problem. DRUNKS articulated that pretty well. Doesn't matter how much or how often he drinks. If it's problematic, he's an alcoholic.
Jul 23 Corydon commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Not Another DTMFA?!? Yes! Another DTMFA!.
6 knows what he's talking about.

She won't change until she recognizes the problem. Probably (alas, the statistics bear this out) not even then.

You cannot be around people who drink. Period. Full stop. No exceptions. Not for your wife, your family, co-workers, your best friend. If they are not going to support your decisions by not drinking around you, you need them gone. You need people in your life pronto who will support you.

Lots of people have already suggested AA. That's a good place to start, although be aware that many AA groups are fairly Christian (some may close with the Lord's Prayer, for instance). Groups vary considerably so shop around.

Consider NA as well. Most people there will be recovering drug users, but they make a point of being substance agnostic. Both their groups and their literature are much further removed from Christianity (although ultimately the 12 steps are derived from a form of Protestantism).

Or you can make your own support group from friends you can talk openly with. I suggest that you actively seek out at least a few recovering alcoholics (or addicts) to get close to. This is a bit more of a risky strategy, but it works for some people. One main common denominator in successful recovery is surrounding yourself with a supportive community and giving yourself commitments. Hell, even a good p&p RPG group is helpful.

If you need a place to stay, consider a sober living house. Yes, they can be a little on the crappy side. Yes, you'll be living with roommates again. Yes, there will be rules to follow. That's OK. Cultivating a little humility is a good thing to do.

And seriously, unless she starts making a real honest-to-Dog effort to clean herself up (and not just to manipulate you into staying) you need to dump her, lose her number, change your own, cut off all social media links and get her completely out of your life.
Jul 23 Corydon commented on Hillary Clinton Announces Running Mate.
@25 and @28, you can't be a pro-choice Catholic. There's a fundamental break between the two that cannot be bridged. It's like saying, "I'm a pro-free market Soviet Communist". There's no such animal.

Biden and Kaine might be culturally Catholic; they might have been raised that way. They might even attend Mass now. But they believe something that is fundamentally at odds with Church teaching. Technically, they are heretics.

Remember, Catholicism isn't like Protestantism. Your private conscience is not the ultimate arbiter for Catholics. Active membership demands submission to certain teachings. You can (and should) question them, struggle with them, strive to understand the spirit behind them, but ultimately, you are called to submit to them. Even then, mistakes happen; that's what confession and penance are for. But to deny that a sin is a sin, to refuse to repent, that separates you from God.

That's the teaching anyways. And it's why many practicing Catholics really have trouble with the Democrats (where they might line up with them on many other issues; immigration springs to mind), who more or less demand pro-choice beliefs as their own article of faith.
Jul 22 Corydon commented on Hillary Clinton Announces Running Mate.
I'd point out that both headliners are in their 70s. It's within the realm of possibility that whoever is elected will die in office. So VP does matter.

Typical Clinton decision here. Safe, conservative, middle of the road, boring. Wall Street will love him. Basically, if you like the status quo (including the deadlock in Congress), vote Clinton. More of the same.

Trump is the gamble, bit only if your really desperate. Could be great, could be a disaster, but most likely the rumors of him not wanting the office itself, just the glory, are true. So most likely it would be president Pence.
Jul 22 Corydon commented on How Green Is Her Bullshit: An Uncharacteristically Brief Response to the Green Party Spokesperson's Dishonest Response to My Podcast Rant.
"Sexist shitbag" seems like kind of a stretch. Stein maladroitly tried to criticize Clinton's war record (which is a completely legitimate criticism, btw...Clinton's record suggests that she'd be far more inclined towards interventionism than President Obama, and, to the extent one can discern any thought process behind Trump's foreign policy, he actually seems like the less bellicose of the two) by linking motherhood with peacemaking (I guess).

The "anti-vaxxer" thing seems a bit off too. Here's a link to her remarks (quoted by a hostile source I might add). She seems to be bringing up the point about regulatory capture, which is a valid one.

Again, both of these issues point to her being a really bad politician (in the sense of being able to get a clear and coherent point across). "Sexist shitbag" and "anti-vaxxer" seems rather over-the-top.

If you're going to accuse someone of lying, it's probably best if you get your own facts straight first. The last thing we need is another Donald Trump.
Jul 20 Corydon commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Different Day, Different Couple, Same Issues, Same Advice.
"I am the man here."

Someone doesn't understand how same-sex relationships work.

If he tried pulling that BS on me, he'd get his ass beat. And he'd deserve it. Then we could discuss manhood.
Jul 20 Corydon commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Boyfriend Experience.
So, can I point something out that should be blindingly clear in hindsight?

LW already knew her husband had issues around her being sexual with other men from the first experience with the co-worker.

So on what freaking planet does it make sense to add (a) swinging and (b) escorting to this marriage? LW should have known darn well she was playing with fire by doing that. It really makes me question the veracity of her entire letter, because the whole thing (right down to appealing to a columnist and set of commenters who are predisposed to endorse swinging and escorting, i.e. forum shopping) strikes me as an manipulative attempt to enlist others into co-signing her BS.

This isn't an attempt to let LW's husband off the hook. The behavior LW described is also manipulative and controlling. The two of them obviously should not be together.

But by LW's own admission, we know her husband suffers from depression. It would take very little to talk someone in that condition into accepting renegotiations of the marriage he did not want. His actions actually seem like the classic passive-aggressive BS someone with depression employs in response to the kind of manipulation I suspect LW has been engaging in.

I highly suspect we're not getting the full story here. LW strikes me as the kind of person who is going to do whatever the heck she wants to do come what may—very selfish and self-centered. I'm not at all sure she is the one who should be raising the kids.
Jul 19 Corydon commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: My 13-Year-Old Son Is Watching Gay Porn.
@8 Said parents must recognize that orientation isn't chosen, and their preferences in the matter should remain unspoken.

Having said that, there are places to find gay role models to vet. If they are a churchgoing family and belong to a liberal denomination, the pastor can probably help find someone good. If there's a gay-straight alliance at school, the sponsoring teacher might be a good resource. You might also look out at some of the more distant branches of your family tree. Chances are reasonably good there's a homo uncle or cousin or something out there (although if they are of the long-lost variety, some careful vetting might be in order)