Nov 20, 2014
commented on The Co-Founder of the Human Rights Campaign—Terry Bean—Has Been Arrested for Allegedly Fucking a 15-Year-Old Boy
So this is kind of an extreme example of a variety of gay relationship that's always bothered me.
Bean is 66 years old. His ex is 25. The victim here is 15. Doesn't anyone see a problem with someone getting into an intimate relationship with multiple people young enough to be his grandchildren? Isn't there something innately creepy, or at the very least very imbalanced and unhealthy about such an age disparity?
It's fairly common to see gay men advertising for sexual relationships based on fantasy incest between fathers and sons. Is that healthy? Does that reflect a desire for a mature relationship?
Obviously, this is a pattern that's ingrained in human nature; ancient Greek male sexual relationships were explicitly structured around the love of older men for younger youths. But that was also explicitly an unequal relationship (and not just sexually). Is that kind of inequality acceptable to us? Would we accept that sort of inequality between a husband and wife?
Oct 16, 2014
commented on Black Man Doing Time Is Now as Natural as Sunshine
Interesting post, but perhaps your assumptions are a bit skewed.
I happen to hang out with a lot of people who are working class white men. Many of them are either addicts/alcoholics or in recovery. The overwhelming majority of them have had similar experiences with the criminal justice system. They will discuss their prison or jail time with you in exactly the same matter-of-fact way.
Now, I have no idea what kind of economic background this guy has (although if he was working for the Navy, it's more than possible that he's working class too). And you don't mention if he ever got deeply involved with drugs or alcohol, although the implication of talking about your wild days and hanging with a band suggest that it's at least a reasonable possibility.
So why are we leaping to race as the Rosetta Stone for all that is wrong with the criminal justice system? Is it not just as likely that this situation is a result of discrimination on the basis of economic class? Or a result of the misguided War on Drugs? Aren't either (or both) of those scenarios at least a reasonable alternative explanation?
Aug 4, 2014
commented on There Has to Be a Better Way to Say "Really, Really Gay"
@11 Your point is well taken, but there's another, more basic reason for have gay resorts (and gayborhoods too for that matter): I like being around other gay guys.
Which isn't to say I don't like hanging out with my straight friends. But it's really really cool having a space to ourselves (one reason I'm not typically drawn to gay bars the attract a lot of straight women).
Jul 5, 2014
commented on The Saturday Morning News
Re: the NSA
At this point, I'm convinced that we all have a positive patriotic duty to take the steps necessary to protect our privacy as well as we can.
As I reasonably well-informed layman who's not qualified to do the actual legwork of coming up with the code to do this sort of thing, I still think there are good, prudent and simple steps everyone can take.
Installing and using TOR is one such step. I'd also suggest looking into more secure email services (remember, if you're getting it for free on the Internet, then YOU are the product). Consider other steps available here: https://pack.resetthenet.org/
To help even more, consider running a Tor relay (more info here: https://www.eff.org/torchallenge/
And if you can donate money, the EFF is a good candidate. https://supporters.eff.org/donate
Jul 1, 2014
commented on The Kind of Paper Grocery Bag Safeway Offers Black People Is Not the Same as the Kind it Offers White People?
Is this posting an elaborate internet troll designed to provoke a response? Surely this cannot be what it appears to be. But on the off-chance that it is:
1) For as long as I can remember, paper grocery bags have never had handles. Of course, I haven't seen many paper bags at all over the last several years. But back into the '70s and '80s, the default paper bag was the top one. Somehow, we managed to get everything home.
2) Before immediately jumping to "OMG RACISM!!!!!!", let's consider a few other options. Maybe the first store had a larger stock of handle-less paper bags to run through before restocking with the newer ones. Maybe the store manager is just making a different decision for his or her store, saving a little bit on bags and putting that money towards something else. Or maybe it's their aesthetic choice. They do have some latitude.
The one thing that really seems highly unlikely to me is that the EVIL Safeway executives are sitting around a highly polished round table, in their black hoods and masks in a darkened room, rubbing their hands and stroking their Persian cats and saying, "How can we stick it to the black man today? I know! Let's give them handleless paper bags! Mwah-ha-ha-ha-ha!"
Nov 28, 2013
commented on Where Will the Gay Marriage Fight Go Next?
@4 Western conservatives tend to be more libertarian than the southern variety. Obviously the LDS Church would be active there in a pretty big way, but they've been kind of keeping their head down since Prop. 8.
And Salt Lake City itself is actually a fairly progressive place.
I don't expect them to be on board by 2016, but I don't expect them to be one of the last holdouts either like Mississippi or Alabama.
Nov 19, 2013
commented on Rob Ford, Stripped
This guy is an inspiration to crackheads everywhere! Really shows how anybody* can grow up to be mayor!
*As long as you come from a wealthy enough background.
Nov 17, 2013
commented on Slog Bible Study: Zephaniah 1:2
I note there's no time limit on the prophecy. Over the stretch of cosmological time, everything on the Earth, even the Earth itself will be destroyed.
If we view destruction in terms of the survival of the human race, that's likely to happen considerably sooner.
Which is kind of a cop-out, yes, but strictly speaking that part of the prophecy is quite true. Whether the true-believers survive (as laid out in the rest of Zephaniah) is the really debatable point.
Nov 5, 2013
commented on Chris Christie Wins Big in New Jersey
The GOP faithful will never nominate Christie. All of those nice things he said about Obama in the wake of Sandy will stick in their craw. That, in and of itself, makes him a "RINO".
Besides, the true believers will say they held their nose and went for the "electable" establishment candidate in both 2008 and 2012 and lost both times.
Besides, Christie's likely to start yelling at some working stiff thus alienating a big part of the electorate and/or giving himself a heart attack.
Nov 4, 2013
commented on John Boehner Will Oppose ENDA
But ENDA will pass eventually. I went and saw Ender's Game this weekend—it was fun—and didn't give a shit about Orson Scott Card's storied record of homophobia. Card, Boehner, and the rest of those jackals have already lost.
This is almost certainly the correct attitude to have, and precisely why I can't really be bothered to get on board with things like the Barilla boycott.
We're winning. We don't need
boycotts that give our opponents the ammunition of claiming that we oppose their right to free speech. Better by far to let our opponents like Boehner expose themselves by speaking openly instead of anything that may intimidate them into a resentful silence.