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Apr 10 ManxsomeFoe commented on Savage Love.

BIB: You don’t say that you love your boyfriend; you say “He's a great guy, we live well together, and I could easily round him up to ‘the one.’” Love is what makes you round someone up to “the one,” not a list of reasons-not-to-flee that your mother might have come up with when guilt-tripping you into getting married and giving her grandkids. If you don’t feel excited and happy about the prospect of spending the rest of your life with him, and if you’re bored with the day-to-day togetherness, and you’re 22 years old, WHY ARE YOU STILL IN THIS RELATIONSHIP, except that you’re following the scripts that say it’s time to get married and that unless you have a Good Reason to break up with a nice guy, you’re a jerk if you do so.

It’s true: the people in your life will act like you’re a jerk if you don’t marry the guy you’ve been with for four years (and your only sex partner!). He will be mad at you, his parents will be mad at you, and his friends will be mad at you. But imagine a graph with your ever-increasing boredom and restlessness, growing a little bit each year, until it reaches a point beyond which you CANNOT stay in the relationship. If that happens ten years from now, after a wedding and a couple of kids, the shit you will take from him and his people now is NOTHING compared to the fiery storm of umbrage and outrage that you will deal with then. DTNGA (dump the nice guy already).

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Feb 27 ManxsomeFoe commented on Savage Love.

Here's a Twitter pic Helvetica Bold posted in 2010: https://twitter.com/fakedansavage/status…

Also, I have a slightly unbelievable IUD story -- I had the Mirena inserted when I was in a prolonged period of single-dom (to decrease bleeding). Shortly after I started dating my fiance, 18 months later, the Mirena started coming out. My doctor said she had never seen such a thing (it had moved from being high up in the uterus to near the cervix, and the string was *long* outside the cervix), and I had to get it removed. My theory is that my orgasms were so incredible (seriously amazing, lifetime best, and I've had a few) that I was experiencing unusually strong uterine contractions, leading to expulsion. Just a theory, and one that I didn't share with my doctor ;-)

I second the caveat about hormonal BC affecting women with mood disorders, but from my experience, a 1-month trial of a BCP would have no bearing on what effects the 5-year Mirena would have on your mood -- I've had different impacts on my mood from various hormonal methods, at various times. I'm leery enough that I've stopped using hormonal BC, but TIMELY should experiment now to find out how her body interacts with these.

Also, @24, what else is there to say to CLOD beyond what Dan already said? Wouldn't any clear-thinking person have come to the interpretation that Dan offers without having to write to a sex columnist? CLOD, offer to go with your friend to a drag show -- that can be the first step to letting him know that you're done cock-blocking him.

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Feb 25 ManxsomeFoe commented on SL Letter of the Day: Catholic Schooled.

@18 and @24: And in addition to money and power, don't forget the benefit to the church patriarchy caused by diverting the time and talents of the most pious women (other than the very small number who become nuns) to pregnancy, birth, and child-rearing on a massive scale (compared to the average American family size). I've known many of these very pious women, women so in love with the Catholic Church that, if they weren't fucking exhausted from rearing families of six, seven, eight children, they might have the energy to foment for changes to the antiquated, foolish, and ultimately corrupting rules regarding who can become a priest.