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Sep 28 Kevin_BGFH commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Too Good To Be True.
@1 - I interpreted the interpersonal skills bit coming from the LW saying he was fit but a virgin who had trouble meeting people. I don't think Dan has a thing against online dating. He probably give that advice for that LW comment even if it wasn't an online dating thing.
Awww, super sad! "SF" is on the ad, which I assume means San Francisco, but there aren't tour dates for our lovely sex-positive City. (And may I nominate St. James Infirmary if you do come and need a local sex worker group to donate to? They offer free, confidential, nonjudgmental medical and social services for sex workers (current or former) of all genders and sexual orientations. They say they are the first occupational safety and health clinic for sex workers run by and for sex workers.)
Sep 22 Kevin_BGFH commented on Hillary's Poll Numbers Are Improving (But There's No Improving the Electoral College).
I used to think that the national popular vote was the way to go. But here's my concern.

Remember how contentious the 2000 election was in Florida, with all of the fighting over every last hanging chad and butterfly ballot? The vote was so close and every vote counted, so both sides challenged every single ballot they could, hoping to toss out the ones against their side and get accepted the ones for them. And this was on top of the voter purging and vote suppressing that led up to election day.

That was all in one state with a lot of electoral votes that was expected to be close and was. But in a national election, that's going to happen in every reasonably close election in every precinct in every state of the country, even ones with a 90% registration favoring one party or the other, because it won't matter where they pick up a few votes here or there. They could lose San Francisco by 75% and still be fighting over contested ballots because it might make the difference nationwide.

I am all for perfecting our voting systems. But as things stand now, I think we'd be opening a Pandora's Box if we dove into a national popular vote election and then had to fight over 200 million hanging chads.
Sep 11 Kevin_BGFH commented on BenDeLaCreme Talks About Going to Hell and Why He’s Not on RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars.
BenDeLaCreme remains one of my all time favorites in RPDR history. And except for Katya, none of my other favorites are back, either. One thing they all have in common is they're BUSY! Working!

Maybe DeLa will bring her show to San Francisco next? Maybe Club Oasis?
Sep 10 Kevin_BGFH commented on The Election Is Tightening—Don't Waste Your Vote.
Jill Stein doesn't fit my values, though she's closer than some of the others except Clinton, and Gary Johnson certainly doesn't. There are just WAY too many issues that I disagree with Dr. Stein on. And that's before we get to whether or not she remotely experienced enough to be president. Even if she were a viable candidate, she fails me both on her issues and her abilities.
Sep 3 Kevin_BGFH commented on Savage Love.

Slinky is absolutely right that florists, hairdressers, etc. became known as "gay professions" because they were independent contractors where, because you were self-employed, you couldn't be fired if you were gay.

Plenty of closeted gay men who could pass went into other professions -- teaching, corporate jobs, everything else. Those who were naturally too effeminate to pass wouldn't get hired in those jobs and needed other alternatives. Now, why not become an independent, self-employed accountant or attorney or auto mechanic? Because the other flip side of not being fireable is also needing clientele. And the people willing to hire someone who was more flamboyant were typically women. Back in the 50s, women did the hiring for florists, hairstylists, and interior decorating. If a family needed to hire an accountant or an attorney or auto mechanic, usually it was the male head of the household who made that decision, and he'd be less likely to hire a poofter.

This isn't to say that these things never happened. But stereotypes are born from what was more likely to happen and what was more noticeable. Gays who could pass weren't noticed, and did all sorts of things. Gays who were flamboyant and effeminate couldn't pass, and ended up locked in self-employed professions with mostly female clientele. And because they were more noticeable, that's where the stereotypes were born.
Aug 15 Kevin_BGFH commented on What Do You Know: Millennial Voters Flocking to Clinton.
@43 - It's also because we have a plurality system that allows the winner to be the person who gets the most votes rather than a majority. Some places require run-offs for races that get less than 50% but in most Congressional and Senate races you just have to come in first. I actually like Jill Stein's ranked choice voting plan, which we have for local races in SF. But it would not work unless it happened everywhere, and that can't happen without a Constitutional Amendment which the two parties won't less happen, of course.
Jul 29 Kevin_BGFH commented on SL Letter of the Day: Unicorn Hunters.
@2 - Oh God, I never even read it as Fun Gal. All I could think of was that she picked an icky acronym to emphasize she wasn't going down on the other woman or something.
Jul 28 Kevin_BGFH commented on A Conversation With a #BernieOrBuster About Dinner.
@77 - As a Clinton supporter, I also got annoyed with the media when they started lumping in super delegates with pledged delegates. I sensed immediately that it would just fuel resentment and if Clinton took the lead in pledged delegates (as she did the ole race except for right after New Hampshire), people would either be confused and say she only had the lead by adding it super delegates, or that voters were only voting for her because of the bandwagon effect thinking she was already winning. A lot of people claim the media was in the tank for Clinton but I don't think that's the case -- they're more interested in a horse race than a run-away victory, which this alleged collusion was supposedly conspiring to do. But yeah, while the issue of the very existence of super delegates is more complex than people realize (and I can go on for paragraphs on how minority representation and improved because of them, which is a big part of by the Congresional Black Caucus opposes eliminating them), the way they were reported this cycle wasn't helpful to Sanders OR Clinton.