Feb 5
Hannah in Portland commented on
SL Letter of the Day: The Birthday Girl.
As soon as I saw "I get cold sores" I thought, Coward! She screwed up by pussyfooting around the issue and letting him fuck her bareback. He screwed up by fucking her bareback and not asking "what does cold sores mean?"
They both wanted to get laid and ignored what they should have done. I think they're both dumb as shit.
Dec 12, 2012
Hannah in Portland commented on
I, Anonymous.
You know, "I had the right of way" isn't going to be much comfort when it's your fucking epitaph.
Nov 26, 2012
Hannah in Portland commented on
Is Polyamory a Sexual Orientation?.
I was poly for a long time. It was wonderful, and taught me a lot about how to be honest with a partner and how to recognize my own feelings. Today I have one partner - my husband and I are in a monogamous marriage. I went into it knowing he wasn't capable of being other than monogamous, and I made the decision to be with him because I felt, and still feel, the benefits of being with him far outweigh the drawbacks of not being able to be poly any longer. I'm very happy in my mono marriage, and I don't believe I could be if "poly" were my orientation.
Some people can't be happy being monogamous, and I can see how those people would feel that their poly status is an unchangeable, innate part of their being. And so it might be. But I still don't think it qualifies as a sexual orientation.
Nov 5, 2012
Hannah in Portland commented on
The SECB Cheat Sheet.
I used it when I filled out my ballot last night. I only wish the Cheat Sheet covered elections in other areas of the state, so I could get info on my local races, too.
Oct 12, 2012
Hannah in Portland commented on
Savage Love.
My husband is anti-abortion, a fact I knew fairly early on in our relationship. His position is largely informed by his religious background. I've spent the last four years pointing out, whenever possible, how an always anti-abortion stance hurts real women and how effective family planning is the best way to eliminate the need for most abortions. And I told him in the early days of our relationship, in no uncertain terms, that if I got pregnant by him abortion would be my most likely option. Thankfully I did not get pregnant, because we are both vigilant about birth control - though once we did have to hit the pharmacy for EC and he could not have been more supportive about that.
He still thinks abortion is a bad thing. But he's THINKING, and realizing that black and white views on abortion, birth control, and family planning are bad in real life situations where the shades of grey are to numerous to count. He's not on my side of the fence yet, but he's looking at it with new perspective and respect.
And that's okay with me.