Jun 10
usagi commented on Much of What Is Wrong with This World Can Be Summed Up in the Below Headline.
Cool! Wait, they're not letting him come back, are they?
May 29
usagi commented on Savage Love.
@60, so the workers at Meteor Entertainment should have just looked elsewhere rather than creating the Bro-sie the Riveter poster? Or maybe they should have just quit? Or not been so sensitive about having under-boob hanging over their workspace?
And I refuse to believe that you can't differentiate between tying the shoes of a preschool age child and tying the shoes of an able-bodied adult in a gym while not working out yourself and wiping down the other adult's equipment for him.
And I refuse to believe that you can't differentiate between tying the shoes of a preschool age child and tying the shoes of an able-bodied adult in a gym while not working out yourself and wiping down the other adult's equipment for him.
May 29
usagi commented on Savage Love.
@58, the point that you @45 (Hex) and @38 (sadini) are either missing or willfully ignoring is that the context is not passing by someone expressing PDA on a street corner or in a cafe. This isn't about the shoe tying. The context is violating the standards of behavior in a shared space among people you share the space with on a consistent, ongoing basis.
I can also tell you from personal experience that if you ever want a crowd of kinksters to part like the Red Sea, get down and perform some boot worship. Power Exchange freaks people the hell out. Possibly because it does turn mundane tasks into highly sexually charged ones. That's why I only do it in kinky spaces where there's implied consent on the part of the observers. Doing it elsewhere is rude. SLAVE and his Sir are being rude to their gym mates. That's what I object to, not the PDA.
I can also tell you from personal experience that if you ever want a crowd of kinksters to part like the Red Sea, get down and perform some boot worship. Power Exchange freaks people the hell out. Possibly because it does turn mundane tasks into highly sexually charged ones. That's why I only do it in kinky spaces where there's implied consent on the part of the observers. Doing it elsewhere is rude. SLAVE and his Sir are being rude to their gym mates. That's what I object to, not the PDA.
May 29
usagi commented on Savage Love.
@38 Depends. If the vanilla girlfriend wasn't lifting or otherwise exercising but just wiping down his equipment and then he pointed to his untied shoe and she tied it, I'd certainly think it was odd. And if it were reversed, I'd assume he was paying for the privilege.
The context of the original letter was that they were regulars and that this was ongoing and disturbing the writer and other members of the gym. If that context is correct, and SLAVE seems to confirm it is, they're over the line (and I would say the same thing about a boy/girl couple--I've complained to my gym when we had a spate of people in street clothes hanging out not working out with other people, and action was taken).
SLAVE and his bf don't get to tell other people how to react to their interactions. And neither they nor you get to decide what other people are comfortable with.
The context of the original letter was that they were regulars and that this was ongoing and disturbing the writer and other members of the gym. If that context is correct, and SLAVE seems to confirm it is, they're over the line (and I would say the same thing about a boy/girl couple--I've complained to my gym when we had a spate of people in street clothes hanging out not working out with other people, and action was taken).
SLAVE and his bf don't get to tell other people how to react to their interactions. And neither they nor you get to decide what other people are comfortable with.
May 29
usagi commented on Savage Love.
It's completely accurate. you're living it 24/7 with your hot Dom. Good for you. The letter writer noticed and was freaked out enough to write to Savage Love to see if he was decoding it correctly. you've confirmed he was. The two of you have involved him in your scene without his consent. Technical foul at the very least.
@26 I think you're cutting too much slack. This isn't the equivalent of a peck on the cheek. It's more the equivalent of a tongue kiss (the hovering and cleaning up the equipment more than the shoe tying). That's not really appropriate in most circumstances or places.
You said we were doing some "not-nearly-subtle-enough, semipublic Dom/sub" scene, but that's not accurate.
It's completely accurate. you're living it 24/7 with your hot Dom. Good for you. The letter writer noticed and was freaked out enough to write to Savage Love to see if he was decoding it correctly. you've confirmed he was. The two of you have involved him in your scene without his consent. Technical foul at the very least.
@26 I think you're cutting too much slack. This isn't the equivalent of a peck on the cheek. It's more the equivalent of a tongue kiss (the hovering and cleaning up the equipment more than the shoe tying). That's not really appropriate in most circumstances or places.
May 21
usagi commented on Senate Democrats Fuck Over Bi-National Gay Couples....
Time to close the gAyTM again (if you were fool enough to open it for them and expect better last election).
May 17
usagi commented on Introducing Yahoomblr?.
Great. Then like everything Yahoo! touches, tumblr will turn to ash.
May 15
usagi commented on Savage Love.
MMK, proceed with extreme caution. You're in a better position to judge, but you could stumble into a major trigger if you force the issue with your bf. Light spanking falls generally into the category of GGG, but he's already expressed he has issues with it. You may be able to work past it or it may tank your relationship.
MEATGIF, Dan's not wrong. Public D/s play. There's a Dom with a very hot tumblr who writes about this a lot, but it's in the context of someone who's also working out (despite the scene happening, anyone looking at it would think they were workout buddies). If it is everyone who's freaked out, speak to the management. Doing a muscle worship scene at the gym is over the line if all of you didn't consent to participate in the scene.
MEATGIF, Dan's not wrong. Public D/s play. There's a Dom with a very hot tumblr who writes about this a lot, but it's in the context of someone who's also working out (despite the scene happening, anyone looking at it would think they were workout buddies). If it is everyone who's freaked out, speak to the management. Doing a muscle worship scene at the gym is over the line if all of you didn't consent to participate in the scene.
May 10
usagi commented on Is Lifelogging Stupid?.
Actually, if you were doing something specific for a finite period of time (for instance, "I want to lose 15 pounds before that reunion in September," or "I need to be saving at least 10% of my gross income--where is my money currently going?"), doing it for 30-90 days seems like it would be a great tool. If you're planning to do it for the rest of your life (or worse felt compelled to do it for the rest of your life), that's just sort of--sad.
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