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6:37 PM yesterday nocutename commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Reader Advice Round-up.
One of the reasons I dislike the term "Judeo-Christian" so much is that it sets up what I think is a very inaccurate equivalency between Judaism and Christianity, which in my opinion have virtually nothing in common besides being "Abrahamic," for what that's worth.
6:05 PM yesterday nocutename commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Reader Advice Round-up.
I'm so glad you included that warning about the man who is planning to go to Russia to meet potential mail-order brides. When I heard that I thought there is a great chance that that man will not return from Russia. A very real possibility is that he'll be kidnapped and held for ransom, or kidnapped and have his accounts entirely drained. And then who knows? Dan, if you have a call-back number for the woman I think you should call her, because it's possible that she listens to the podcast but doesn't read the daily blog. At the very least, you should address the issue and offer corrected advice at the top of your next podcast. She may be unable to convince her dad not to go to Russia, but she should try hard. Rather than simply suggest he avail himself of paid sex workers in America, she might suggest that he limit himself to "meeting" the bride via the internet and sending for her. It sounds like dad wants a wife, not a regular session with a paid sex worker. He might still be taken financially, but there's a greater likelihood that his safety won't be at risk, and perhaps he'll get something, too.
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4:10 PM yesterday nocutename commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Why Is My Friend With Benefits Being An Asshole?.
@17: aftertheafter, I'm not against thinking, but my hamster on its wheel is a description of what happens when someone sends me mixed signals: What does it mean that he said xxx and then said yyy? Why did he say ttt on Wednesday and then do fff on Friday? He said rrr, but then he also said ppp. WHAT DOES IS IT ALL MEAN?

Essentially, it all boils down to "does he like me? I can't tell. I like him and want him to like me and I'm trying to figure out if he does."

That makes me crazy. It's not a good thing. It took me many years to decide that mixed signals are always bad and that if someone sends me both I should only pay attention to the ones that tell me what I don't want to hear.
If I feel my hamster starting up, I know that no matter how many good messages are being given to me, I need to walk away. Because if someone really likes you, you shouldn't have to try to figure that out from clues.
8:12 AM yesterday nocutename commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Why Is My Friend With Benefits Being An Asshole?.
I, too, took the sign-off name to suggest that the lw was a man, but gender and orientation really makes no difference whatsoever in this letter.
The way I see it, the FWB has caused the hamster in SIGH's head to wake up, get on its wheel and start running. When I feel my hamster wake up and head to its wheel, I have learned to respond by stopping. I have come to realize that anyone who sets my hamster on its wheel is bad for me, and that I prefer to live with my hamster at rest.
Mar 22 nocutename commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Why Is My Friend With Benefits Being An Asshole?.
Goddamn, Dan, you are slaying these days!
Mar 22 nocutename commented on Texas Teacher Smiles For Mugshot.
Selfie culture; always take a flattering photo. Especially when you know it's going to end up on the Internet. See comments @1 and @3; it's working.
Mar 21 nocutename commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Tale of Two Colleagues (She's Humping).
I'm stone-cold sober and I can't follow this. Or understand why it matters.
Lw, date who you want. I would think that there would be more than 2 people in the world for you to toggle between (Dan's point, I think), and I would think that it should be obvious that dating a bunch of your co-workers, some seriously where bad breakups can happen and others who can be malicious but are casual, is a blinking neon sign saying "Drama Ahead, plus some probable HR company policy violations," but hey, if that's your thing, go for it.
Mar 21 nocutename commented on Savage Love.
@4: dstar, I'm sorry to hear about your wife's cancer.
Mar 21 nocutename commented on Savage Love.
Why is being a woman a choice between multiple orgasms and horrible periods?
Some women have both; some have neither. Some women have horrible periods and no orgasms at all. Some have multiple wonderful orgasms and easy-peasy periods.

Some are defined by many other things entirely.
Mar 20 nocutename commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: You Heard It Here First, Cousin.
This has nothing--NOthing to do with the first cousin angle.