@96: Except he's not threatening to break up their marriage because he's afraid she'll walk back the biweekly fetish parties. He's threatening to break up their marriage because he wants more
than those parties: he also wants to fuck other women.
I further note that this is not a demand he's previously made, even when they were unmarried and childless. So I'm highly
suspicious of him bringing it up now, when she's three kids deep. Particularly since he's constructed a scenario where even if she were a willing participant, that still
wouldn't be enough for him:
He also says he doesn't want to do it with me because there's a nine-month-old baby in the house and he doesn't want to do it with me until our new baby is out of diapers.
Sounds like a load of horseshit to me. If your wife wants to fuck you and you don't want to fuck your wife, that doesn't give you license to fuck other people.
I don't think this relationship can be salvaged, because the guy is an asshole. Only question remaining is how best to do the uncoupling.