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5:24 PM yesterday I Hate Screen Names commented on Texas Defunds Planned Parenthood, Birth Rates Among Low-Income Women Rise.
This is why anti-abortionists are completely full of shit. If your goal were to reduce the number of abortions, you would make damn sure that contraception was readily available. It would be like fucking water: dispensed in every home at low government-regulated prices. Schoolkids would have to pass a thorough and scientific test on contraception to advance to the next grade.

But of course, anti-abortions aren't trying to prevent abortions. They're trying to increase births and thus keep the wimmins in the kitchen. That's why they cut funding for contraception, and insist kids learn entirely ineffective "abstinence only" education. The resultant increase in pregnancies is the entire fucking point.
Feb 3 I Hate Screen Names commented on Ted Cruz Attempts to Force His Daughter to Hug and Kiss Him.
What @3 and @8 said.

My three-year-old sometimes doesn't want to give me hugs. When that happens, I laugh and ask if she'll give me a hug later, which she usually agrees to. Or I exaggerate being mopey and dejected, which sometimes causes her giggle and run over to give me a hug.

What I never do is force her to hug me, because it's creepy as fuck. Because I hated it when relatives did that to me when I was a kid. And because I want her to learn, as early as fucking possible, that she doesn't have to touch anyone if she doesn't want to.

Cruz, on the other hand, has zero (0) sense of his daughter's autonomy. She's a prop in the "loving dad" role he wants to project to the world. And if that script isn't being followed, then by gawd he's going to push it along.

So the problem isn't her rejecting him. It's how he responded to that rejection.
Feb 2 I Hate Screen Names commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Crying Game.
@96: Except he's not threatening to break up their marriage because he's afraid she'll walk back the biweekly fetish parties. He's threatening to break up their marriage because he wants more than those parties: he also wants to fuck other women.

I further note that this is not a demand he's previously made, even when they were unmarried and childless. So I'm highly suspicious of him bringing it up now, when she's three kids deep. Particularly since he's constructed a scenario where even if she were a willing participant, that still wouldn't be enough for him:
He also says he doesn't want to do it with me because there's a nine-month-old baby in the house and he doesn't want to do it with me until our new baby is out of diapers.
Sounds like a load of horseshit to me. If your wife wants to fuck you and you don't want to fuck your wife, that doesn't give you license to fuck other people.

I don't think this relationship can be salvaged, because the guy is an asshole. Only question remaining is how best to do the uncoupling.
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Feb 2 I Hate Screen Names commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Crying Game.
@87: Your alternative history is belied by her attending five (5!) fetish parties with him in the last two months. I think that's about the amount of sexual activity I've gotten-- total-- in that time period. Which is a completely reasonable amount when you're raising small children.

This is a woman trying to care for his needs, while he plainly doesn't give a flying fuck about hers. Or the kids.
Feb 2 I Hate Screen Names commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Crying Game.
Let me add my voice to the chorus: fuck this fucking asshole. This whiny piece of shit wants to be treated like a baby because he is a fucking baby.

We only have two kids, a toddler and an infant, and we're fucking exhausted. Forget fetishes-- we barely have the time or energy for any sex, at all. Now I could be upset about that, but 1) my children will always come first, because I'm not a complete asshole, and 2) I'm also too wrapped up in child-care to devote much energy to thinking about the sex I'm not getting. I bet you all the money in my pocket that this selfish piece of shit is doing fuck-all to take care of the kids, which is how he's found the time to locate and attend five (5!) fetish parties in two months. FUCK HIM.

All that said, I'm not sure DTMFA is a practical solution, as that will leave LW caring for three children on her own. And yes, it will be on her own. Any douchebag proposing separation with three small children is not remotely concerned with the logistics of childcare. Hmm.
Jan 29 I Hate Screen Names commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Debt and the Maiden.
Dump her.

The two things couples fight most about are 1) how to raise the kids and 2) money. You are obviously not on the same page regarding how to structure your finances, so save yourself time/ future pain and get out now while the getting is good. Chalk this up as a life incompatibility, one your were fortunate enough to discover before you started sharing children and long-term debt.

Dump her.
Jan 26 I Hate Screen Names commented on Savage Love.
@2: No no no, we're absolutely not sending used dildos and sex toys to
Bundy Militia
c/o Malheur National Wildlife Refuge
36391 Sodhouse Lane
Princeton, OR, 97721
Dan was pretty emphatic about us not sending used dildos and sex toys to
Bundy Militia
c/o Malheur National Wildlife Refuge
36391 Sodhouse Lane
Princeton, OR, 97721
, so we should respect his wishes in his column.
Jan 21 I Hate Screen Names commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Dildos and Dildon'ts.
So just to clarify, we absolutely should not send dildos to
Bundy Militia, c/o Malheur National Wildlife Refuge
36391 Sodhouse Lane
Princeton, OR, 97721
, right? Got it.
Jan 15 I Hate Screen Names commented on New York Daily News to Ted Cruz: Go Back to Canada.
Doesn't Ted's Cruz's wife work for Goldman Sachs, the New York-iest of New York firms? Didn't Ted Cruz take a loan from Goldman when he was running for office? And wasn't this in the news, like, this week?

Ted Cruz: against New York, except that his wife is working for New York and he's taking their money.
Jan 13 I Hate Screen Names commented on Guns Do Not Make Us Safer.
@35: Seriously? What do you think lobbyists do? The NRA is hardly alone in "directly telling people how to vote"; they're just more effective at it than other interest groups.