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I really do.

Sep 22 I Hate Screen Names commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Another Jealous Boyfriend.
@15: It's actually pretty likely you could have sex with someone in professional porn, were you inclined to pursue it. Many (by no means all) performers are available for... one-on-one video sessions.

You may or may not believe me, but may I suggest tilting toward the "believe" side when watching that porn? :)
Sep 21 I Hate Screen Names commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Another Jealous Boyfriend.
My sense is that CABO has already decided to DTMFA and is just looking to have his impulse confirmed. Perhaps I'm reading too much into verbiage, but describing one's partner as "my current boyfriend" screams "I'm planning on dumping his ass." It's like referring to him as "my boyfriend, for now."
Sep 20 I Hate Screen Names commented on Do Not Join a Fraternity/Sorority.
Feh. I pledged a fraternity back when, before fraternities were apologizing for housing rapists, before most folks were even aware that was a problem. My fraternity was only peripheral to my college activities, and is at best a minor part of my identity. So I actually agree that everything you're looking for in college you can just as easily find outside of the Greek system.

But things change once you leave college. Friendships fall off the radar with jobs and relocations and marriage and children. You can go a decade before realizing that you haven't spoken to someone you consider a friend, and that maybe they're not your friend anymore. But if you were in the same fraternity, they'll always be your fraternity brother.

Of my non-relative friends, I'd say about a third are members of my fraternity. That's a significantly larger percentage than when I was in college, and it will likely increase as we all move from middle age to old age. Because it's easier to maintain relationships with people in your fraternity. The fraternity holds regular events for alumni. You can invite yourself to any informal gatherings and be welcome. You know the same people. You have a shared history you can all discuss.

Just my $0.02.
Sep 15 I Hate Screen Names commented on Chris Hayes: Hacked Emails Are Just the Beginning.
I cover my laptop camera with a post-it note, and unplug my desktop webcam whenever I'm not using it. Really.

I don't know why laptops don't come with lens covers, like cameras used to. A simple slide should be industry standard.
Sep 13 I Hate Screen Names commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Skip That White Wedding.
It's the bride, groom, best man, and parents of the groom who I'm most concerned about wanting to fight with me, so these people who are central to the day.
Given the response from your non-shitty relatives, I'm assuming this will be a large wedding. And you mention attending the weddings of non-crazy relatives before, so you have a baseline for what family weddings look like. So I have to ask this question:

At these large weddings, how much time do you spend interacting with the wedding party?

Maybe your weddings are different than the dozens or so I've attended, but unless I'm in the wedding party myself, I pretty much spend NO time talking to them beyond a brief "congratulations." They got shit to do.

Now maybe they'll have some racist crap in the toasts/wedding montage/ceremony/etc. that you'll feel obligated to address. I don't know your family. But offhand, I'd say the chances of getting into a substantive discussion with the folks running the wedding are essentially nil.
Sep 13 I Hate Screen Names commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Bitter Pill.
Is this how 20-year-olds write now? Because it's a meandering pile of brain barf riddled with typos and grammatical errors. Got about a third of the way through before I quit out of boredom. Take it away, Steve Martin:

"And by the way, you know, when you're telling these little stories? Here's a good idea - have a POINT. It makes it SO much more interesting for the listener!"

Aug 29 I Hate Screen Names commented on Anthony Weiner Caught Doing What Weiner Does.
Is there an expectation of privacy in messages to strangers?

Forget about the dick pic. Suppose Weiner has said something unbelievably inappropriate to this random woman. Would we be irate if she shared this message with the media, along with a screen cap to show she wasn't making this up? I wouldn't. You don't expect random people to keep your confidences.

It's different in an established relationship, of course. One expects that messages to your spouse/partner/whatever won't be published, whether or not those messages contain photos. But messages to complete strangers?
Aug 25 I Hate Screen Names commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Blown Opportunities.
@58: I maintain that a guy who is not into blowjobs just hasn't found the right person.

And I count myself in that group. Thought I wasn't into blowjobs after over a decade of them not doing anything for me. Met my wife, experienced her technique. Now I'm totally into blowjobs. "Holy fuck, these are amazing!"
Aug 17 I Hate Screen Names commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Blown Opportunities.
Is this really a scenario that requires words? I'm thinking back to the blow jobs I've received, and I don't think any of them were prefaced with words. It's usually pretty fucking clear what she's doing after she pulls your cock out and drops her head.
Aug 10 I Hate Screen Names commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Worst Breakup Story Ever.
@40/45 get to the heart of it. There's a big difference between terminating a wanted pregnancy and terminating an unwanted one.

A friend of mine is a doctor who, among other things, performs abortions. She lives in one of those ridiculous states where the republican legislature forces doctors need to read an entire script about "it's a life, consider adoption, blah blah blah." This script is annoying and insulting for women terminating an unwanted pregnancy. But it's fucking traumatic for women terminating wanted but nonviable pregnancies. And speaking from my own (male) experience, things are very very different once you "attach" to the fetus.

DAC wanted the pregnancy and was planning a future where she and her husband would raise it. It's possible she attached. If so, this would not be an easy decision,