May 14
gromm commented on Savage Love.
@2: Well, that may be the case *now*, but I'm pretty sure that it still carries a wee disclaimer on the front that says 'Not for sale to minors'. I don't know what the law is like in your country, but in mine giving kids porn (or in some cases, access to porn) is a jailable offense.
@Dan: "And you're going to spank me right now, with my consent, and it's going to be hot."
I think I met a girl once who might have been able to be almost that direct. Once.
Mind you, if we as a culture could actually start talking frankly and unashamedly about sex and the things we want out of sex, then a lot of the incidents where he thought she consented but she didn't, wouldn't happen. So encouraging this kind of thing is a good thing, I suppose, even if not very realistic at the moment.
@Dan: "And you're going to spank me right now, with my consent, and it's going to be hot."
I think I met a girl once who might have been able to be almost that direct. Once.
Mind you, if we as a culture could actually start talking frankly and unashamedly about sex and the things we want out of sex, then a lot of the incidents where he thought she consented but she didn't, wouldn't happen. So encouraging this kind of thing is a good thing, I suppose, even if not very realistic at the moment.
May 9
gromm commented on SL Letter of the Day: Bonus Advice for Too Soon To Quit.
"Or it may mean that this young man buckled under the pressure of the first real adult-world test of his (culturally defined) man-hood."
You're kidding, right? This isn't pressure. Assuming he's white (which... is probably a pretty lousy assumption on my part, but let's go with this for a moment), he also has a boatload of privilege to go along with that "first real test of his manhood". To be honest, all he really has to do is hold a job. *Any* job. That's it. That's the extent of his "great big responsibility."
Now, maybe it's really hard to hold a job operating the deep fryer at Wendy's with a broken foot and all, but his excuse for quitting is pretty flimsy, which sets off alarm bells for *any* case in his defense. While shitty jobs tend to also be high stress, to say that he's folded under the stress of such a minor life change does not bode well for any future with him. What happens when they have kids? A new baby is a 24 hour job with no breaks and little sleep thrown in for kicks, and if you thought *your* boss was demanding, wait until the little guy turns 2.
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You're kidding, right? This isn't pressure. Assuming he's white (which... is probably a pretty lousy assumption on my part, but let's go with this for a moment), he also has a boatload of privilege to go along with that "first real test of his manhood". To be honest, all he really has to do is hold a job. *Any* job. That's it. That's the extent of his "great big responsibility."
Now, maybe it's really hard to hold a job operating the deep fryer at Wendy's with a broken foot and all, but his excuse for quitting is pretty flimsy, which sets off alarm bells for *any* case in his defense. While shitty jobs tend to also be high stress, to say that he's folded under the stress of such a minor life change does not bode well for any future with him. What happens when they have kids? A new baby is a 24 hour job with no breaks and little sleep thrown in for kicks, and if you thought *your* boss was demanding, wait until the little guy turns 2.
May 8
gromm commented on Lead Singer of Christian Metal Band Arrested For Attempting to Hire a Hit Man.
Ugh. Christian rock. Always 20 years too late to be cool and about 20 shades too lame.
And then there's this.
And then there's this.
May 8
gromm commented on Every Child Deserves a Mother and a Father.
@4:
Sorry, I can't remember how that deal goes again. "I'll testify against the bigger bad guys" doesn't work in a case like this.
Sorry, I can't remember how that deal goes again. "I'll testify against the bigger bad guys" doesn't work in a case like this.
May 8
gromm commented on Coming Out In a Big Way.
This is another reason to come out of the closet. Noone will be able to blackmail you then.
May 8
gromm commented on North Carolina GOP Wants to Make It Harder for Teenagers to Get Tested for STIs and Seek Treatment.
That strategy wouldn't work on them. You know why.
It's because people are *supposed* to die of syphilis and gonorrhoea like the filthy sinners they are. They *deserve* what they get. It's a *punishment* handed down from *god*. It's the only way that people could possibly remain pure and chaste, is if some horrible end were the result of being anything else.
Oh, and black people.
It's because people are *supposed* to die of syphilis and gonorrhoea like the filthy sinners they are. They *deserve* what they get. It's a *punishment* handed down from *god*. It's the only way that people could possibly remain pure and chaste, is if some horrible end were the result of being anything else.
Oh, and black people.
May 8
gromm commented on It's Clitoris Awareness Week—Were You Aware of That?.
Ah yes, the Raelians. They try to champion causes that are tangentially related to their lunatic cult.
Which is really sad, because they also seem to have some heartfelt and rational interest in these causes. The crazy they bring just serves to delegitimize said causes. It's as if you went to a presentation on universal health care, only to find that at the end of the speech, the speaker then tried to promote the Hare Krishnas.
Which is really sad, because they also seem to have some heartfelt and rational interest in these causes. The crazy they bring just serves to delegitimize said causes. It's as if you went to a presentation on universal health care, only to find that at the end of the speech, the speaker then tried to promote the Hare Krishnas.
May 8
gromm commented on More Advice for Kids From the NRA.
Whereas *I* am increasingly convinced that the NRA is just trying to sell more guns.
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Which is where this is coming from. When you unite church and state, suddenly opposition to the state becomes a "sin", and every sermon becomes a form of government propaganda (although to be fair, Islam was designed this way from the start - why else would there be a requirement for attending mosque several times a day?). It has next to nothing to do with actual religion or theology.