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Apr 19 ferret commented on Ed Murray's Accuser Wants a New Judge for the Trial.
The amended complaint is quixotic.. It appears as more of a political document than a legal case..

https://www.documentcloud.org/documents/…
CORRECTED.html

I do think the case will be dismissed. They really don't give any evidence that Murray needs to pay up to Delvonn, other than the statutory rape allegation. However, there should be many more that should pay up for the statutory rape as well.

The case seems more of an extortion scheme that many gay males were terrified to face, when they were living in the closet in the decades past..
Apr 18 ferret commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Caught Between Her Man and His Hot Friend.
@25 No. A Fetish is an obsession. It pertains to a certain part of the body, an inanimate object, or an object of clothing, to get sexual gratification.

A Paraphilia is an extreme sexual behavior that is self destructive, which becomes a compulsion, no matter the dangerous consequences. A paraphilia is a mental health disorder, like pedophilia.

Exhibitionism and Voyeurism are paraphilias, and those who have it, go to great lengths to fulfill their pathologic disorders.

Flirting is fine, we are primates, we need social interaction. Isolating someone, than starting to masturbate in front of them, while telling them they are so hot, when the other person didn't ask for it, it is more in shock than aroused or it is not consensual, is not fine. I see "B" getting his jollies off by the shock of the LW. In some ways he showed "restraint" by stopping.

Whether the LW and her boyfriend are in an open relationship or not, it doesn't give "B" a right to act out his desires for the LW. Personally, I feel the second episode of driving "B" home was a way for "B" to talk dirty to the LW, sort of like a dirty phone call.

I don't have enough info or make a judgment that "B" has a paraphilia, but "B";s behavior are red flags to watch. I don't see "B" having a fetish, unless he has a mirror/Adonis fetish..
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Apr 17 ferret commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Caught Between Her Man and His Hot Friend.
There are two red flags that pop up in this SLLOD. Both Red Flags involved "B". He stated his is exhibitionist, and he actually acts out his exhibitionism to the letter writer, (Isolating her, masturbating in front of her)

If "B" is an exhibitionist, no matter that he has a hot body, and he is super hot, he may have a very serious mental health issue: paraphilia. As much as everyone has condemn Anthony Weiner, he pretty much has the same exhibitionist/paraphilia/mental health disorder. If "B" is really an exhibitionist, his gateway drug of shocking the letter writer, (which to me is his intent, her shock gets him aroused). has to stop. It will only go down the same path as someone like Anthony Weiner, where "B" will have problems maintaining, jobs, relationship and being on the right side of the law. Basically "B" may have some pretty self destructive behavior, no matter if he is hot, he turns on other people, it is consensual.. for now, I just see more of a stronger pathology, to shock and get more and more shocking to get a thrill. "B"'s actions with the letter writer, are enough risqué to wreck his friendship with the letter writer's boyfriend..

"B" needs help..
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Apr 14 ferret commented on Guest Editorial: The Motivation Is Political.
@9, as much as I have defended Murray, and I had given him reasonable doubt, I think he did a bad job in denying the allegations.

Murray, doesn't address the allegations head on. He should had stated that he never had sexual relationship with underage teens, or abuse his relationship as a legal guardian. Instead, he rambled on about the press and extortion, and he had to announce he doesn't have weird moles on his genitalia. He needed an editor for his piece. Also attacking the Seattle Times seemed to be deflection.. The best way to address this is head on with a succinct piece, solely focused on the lawsuit, and a brief dismissal of the previous allegations..
Apr 14 ferret commented on "I'm Not Lying": One of Mayor Murray's Alleged Victims Tells His Story.
You are going places Sydney. This is very good reporting, a really good piece..
Apr 13 ferret commented on The Attorney for Ed Murray's Accuser Wants to Depose Murray On The Mayor's Birthday.
@19 There was either a criminal complaint or an investigation was undertaken on Simpson's accusation in the 1980s. It is not about proving or disproving the accuser, it is about evidence to take a complaint forward whether for criminal prosecution or a civil lawsuit. Both legal avenues show that the evidence is mainly just allegations, whether they are true or not, they have to be proven.

If D.H is solely thinking that his lawsuit will go forward with what is publicly available or what file another brief with specific detail of sexual abuse by Murray. There has to be some strong evidence that Murray had sex/statutory rape with D.H when he was underage, the case will probably be dismissed.
Apr 13 ferret commented on The Attorney for Ed Murray's Accuser Wants to Depose Murray On The Mayor's Birthday.
@17 https://www.documentcloud.org/documents/…

To me, the case boils down to Section II, Number 7 on page 3. D.H's lawyers want to depose Murray without revealing his name, or reveal too much of the allegations are revealed.

Whether the assignations happened when D.H was 15 years old or not, there has to be some strong evidence that Murray had a sexual relationship with D.H /and or Murray statutory raped D.H.. Right now, they are allegations, sensational allegations, but allegations no less.

I also feel that if D.H were not doing this for political reasons, he would be suing all his clients, plus his drug dealers from this time period.

This is hardly libel. It is a lawsuit that was filed in County Court, Ed Murray is a public official who's position gives him little protection for a defamation tort.
Apr 12 ferret commented on The Attorney for Ed Murray's Accuser Wants to Depose Murray On The Mayor's Birthday.
@9 "There are multiple accusers. The accounts of Simpson and Anderson or even DH cannot be discounted"

There are three accusers, two of the accusers have had their lawsuits dismissed, or their case fell apart before filing their lawsuit. Simpsons accusations were investigated in the mid 1980s in Portland, and no charges were filed.

The accounts can be discounted. If you read the complaint filed by D.H and his attorneys, it seems like a weak case. The details are Murray's former phone number, his apartment and an alleged mole on his genitalia. There is nothing about detailed abuse, or something that Murray did to keep D.H on drugs or continue to be a prostitute.

The lawsuits kind of leans that the purpose is to get to depose Murray, so it can asked a wide array of questions about his sexual history. There is really not much about Murray abusing D.H, except if Murray knew D.H was underage for consensual sex, which could be the only merits of the case..

If D.H were doing to right past wrongs and not doing this for political reasons, (or most likely the law firm is pretty much using him), he should be suing all his clients, and demanding some sort of punitive damages. It is vague what is exactly D.H is asking for, or what specific abuse that Ed Murray did to him.

A possible reason what the Seattle Times is asking Murray to leave the race, is that they have some other stuff they haven't published yet. From the stuff that is out there, Murray shouldn't be too worried, this lawsuit is weak. The accusations are sensational, but the details and what exactly the damage that Murray caused to D.H is weak. D.H needs to show letters, receipts and strong corroborating witnesses to have his case to move forward in legal proceedings..
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Apr 7 ferret commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: After 15 Years, Her Husband Still Looks Like A Child & She's Not Into It.
@125 "Obviously no one bothered to click on the link"

https://mobile.nytimes.com/2012/01/01/ma…

Yes, I did read it, and this is the quote that stuck..

"Wing ( Dr.Rena Wing,) says that she agrees that physiological changes probably do occur that make permanent weight loss difficult, but she says the larger problem is environmental, and that people struggle to keep weight off because they are surrounded by food, inundated with food messages and constantly presented with opportunities to eat. "

People can lose weight if they are having only 500 calorie Opti fast diets. Much like Contestants at the "Biggest Loser" tend to lose weight by exercising constantly and eating asparagus and jello..

The key is eating a healthy well balance diet. People like to look at the French, with their diet with lots of cream, eggs and cheese, and why 34% of the population is not obese like in the US. Do they have different genetics? No. One reason is that Americans are renown snackers, besides very large portion sizes at meals. The French are not known as snackers and their meals may have rich and fattening dishes, they are not as large portion size..

I just read a book called "Eggs or Anarchy" about rationing in the UK during Second World War, and the key was nutritional requirements with Britain under blockade, especially for children and pregnant and lactating women. One doesn't see obesity epidemics popping up during this time.

There is a difference between overweight and obese, both are unhealthy, but those who are obese have to confront their problem, without throwing in the towel, or feel attacked if people and especially medical professionals are stating they need to lose weight. Anyone who is obese, has to make an effort to try to lose weight.. That is 34-35% of all Americans..

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Apr 7 ferret commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: After 15 Years, Her Husband Still Looks Like A Child & She's Not Into It.
@121 "saying that 99% of the people who are fat could be cured if they wanted to be"..

First, there is overweight, and then there is obese to morbidly obese. There is no cure as much as there is perseverance. The big problem is maintaining healthy eating habits and maintaining one's weight..

Anyone who is obese to morbidly obese, and I will put out some explosive in this mix, someone like Lindy West, should seriously work on losing that weight. It is not good for a person to run out of breath by walking up a flight of stairs, nor they are limited in what activities they want to do, because of their obesity to morbid obesity.

It is a medical problem if someone is obese to morbidly obese, they are running the risk of numerous health problems, like hypertension which begets other health problems like renal failure. It is not the same as sexual identity..

I understand that obese to morbidly obese people are discriminated, and those who are obese to morbidly obese are stereotype as lazy slobs. However, they have a serious medical problem, they have to address. They can't do what Fat Acceptance activists like Kate Harding and Lindy West have done, be in complete denial that obesity can cause serious health problems..

One can argue that long term cigarette smokers don't have a choice, they are addicted to very powerful drug: nicotine. It is very difficult to stop this addiction, and in many ways it isn't a choice given the strength and withdrawal symptoms of nicotine..

However, for obesity and morbid obesity, one has to change one's lifestyle to lose weight. It can be done. The most important part is change of diet, and eating properly. Going to a dietician helps.

My interest is people maintaining healthy eating habits. If a person maintains healthy eating habits, exercises regularly, they stop being obese and morbidly obese. Whether it is a choice or not, we are all homo sapiens who have pretty similar physiology, that uses ADP and ATP for cell metabolism.. Obese to morbid obese people are not a different sub species of homo sapiens, that somehow can't metabolize nutrients..

People can make a choice in losing weight. The difficult part is perseverance, and it is not a short term project, but a lifetime project..
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