Apr 25
adam.smith commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wrong To Completion.
shorter Dan: no, it's not OK to cheat on your partner.
Jan 28
adam.smith commented on SL Letter of the Day: Be a Little Selfish.
I know 10 people already said so but - fuckit: we want that full report!
Jan 15
adam.smith commented on Savage Love.
See, at quality Universities you learn about things like fucksaws: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/03/02…
Oct 5, 2012
adam.smith commented on Head of Seattle Prep—"Seattle's Jesuit High School Since 1891"—Endorses Marriage Equality, Urges Voters to Approve R-74.
"Literalism in interpreting scripture is unique and endemic to anthropomorphic monotheism;"
I don't think that's correct. It's endemic to monotheistic fundamentalism - like evangelical Christianism, Islamism, and some strands of Jewish Orthodoxy.
The major strands in Christianity - Catholicism, mainstream Lutheranism - and Judaism - Conservative, Reform, Reconciliation - don't believe in literalism. In Islam literalism is unfortunately more widespread, I don't know much about that, though, beyond the fact that I guess it's connected to the story of how the Q'ran was dictated to Mohamed.
I don't think that's correct. It's endemic to monotheistic fundamentalism - like evangelical Christianism, Islamism, and some strands of Jewish Orthodoxy.
The major strands in Christianity - Catholicism, mainstream Lutheranism - and Judaism - Conservative, Reform, Reconciliation - don't believe in literalism. In Islam literalism is unfortunately more widespread, I don't know much about that, though, beyond the fact that I guess it's connected to the story of how the Q'ran was dictated to Mohamed.
Oct 4, 2012
adam.smith commented on Email of the Evening.
@14 - you're also wrong. The e-mail went to anyone on OfA's e-mail list regardless of prior contributions. (As a foreign citizen I can't donate, so I'd know...)
Sep 5, 2012
adam.smith commented on Score One for the Haters and Trolls.
to be honest, my main take home message (and I say that as an atheist and - I guess - skeptic) is that it confirms all of my worst conceptions of the atheist "movement" - they're splitting into factious groups and attacking each other with a vengeance and hostility that was last seen when the Judean People's Front fought the People's Front of Judea.
(For those who don't want to go through the trouble of crawling through some of the blogs: contrary to what I initially though, Jen wasn't bullied by crazy right-wingers and creationists, but by fellow "skeptics" and "atheists" who were part of one (or various?) splits within the "movement").
I'm sorry for Jen, though. My sense is that she was one of the good ones.
(For those who don't want to go through the trouble of crawling through some of the blogs: contrary to what I initially though, Jen wasn't bullied by crazy right-wingers and creationists, but by fellow "skeptics" and "atheists" who were part of one (or various?) splits within the "movement").
I'm sorry for Jen, though. My sense is that she was one of the good ones.
Apr 17, 2012
adam.smith commented on Savage Love.
what 6 says - how to get squeaky clean would seem like an important question...
Feb 9, 2012
adam.smith commented on SL Letter of the Day: Life Sentence.
I think Dan's advice is naive. As everyone who has ever been or met as romantic 20 year old in love knows, LIBIDO won't leave the girl. There will be the usual cycle of ups and downs and, with a very high likelihood, they're going to split up in the next couple of years - few couples that young make it, even fewer that are mostly long distance.
The best advice to give him is to provide him with the language and the framework to talk and think about the issue. Then let him make his mistakes and learn from them like we all do.
When I was younger (not quite that young) and in a relationship with mis-matched sex-drives, I found Dan's language tremendously helpful - I could frame it as an issue that was just as much hers as mine, I could articulate the need to compromise (e.g. "a handjob or blowjob cheerfully given") etc. That didn't solve all problems, but I think laying things out did the relationship good and it certainly helped me to feel less crappy about the situation.
The best advice to give him is to provide him with the language and the framework to talk and think about the issue. Then let him make his mistakes and learn from them like we all do.
When I was younger (not quite that young) and in a relationship with mis-matched sex-drives, I found Dan's language tremendously helpful - I could frame it as an issue that was just as much hers as mine, I could articulate the need to compromise (e.g. "a handjob or blowjob cheerfully given") etc. That didn't solve all problems, but I think laying things out did the relationship good and it certainly helped me to feel less crappy about the situation.
Feb 9, 2012
adam.smith commented on Washington State Got Marriage Equality This Week—But Anchorage Doesn't Even Have Basic Civil Rights Protections for LGBT People.
at least I get to imagine it's painful for bigot-mayor to have a name that's composed of probably the two most prominent gay rights activists in the US.
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Beyond that, Dan's advice is, of course, right - HIM needs to get out of that "relationship" and the sooner the better. But if it takes him another 6 months or so that's not going to be the end of the world, either.