commented on SL Letter of the Day: Geezerdom
There is an assumption in this thread that the wife has cut the dude off from sex, but all I see in the letter on this point is "After 45 years of marriage to the same woman the sex has fallen off to zero."
That *could* mean nothing more than he's lost all attraction to her; can't get it up for her. I.e. he may have some or all of the culpability for the sexlessness of his marriage. There is nothing in the letter to indicate one way or the other.
Personally, I trust my partner's judgement in lying to me. That if he chooses to lie or omit certain things, he is still fundamentally trustworthy and a true partner; that it's coming from a place of love and respect. There is a place for this in healthy relationships.
But I do think DS over-indexed a wee bit on the "it's all good" message here.
commented on You, Too, Can Be Smober
Funny. I quit smoking about ten years ago, never looked back and didn't have too rough a time with it. I have the exact same recurring dreams every so often, and also experience waking up agitated by the prospect of starting over. I've had that dream maybe 15 times or so.
In my case, to quit, I knotted a hemp string around my wrist and played with it every time I wanted to smoke. By the time it frayed and fell of, I was over the habit.
Nov 9, 2013
commented on "Roar" and the Search for Meaning
Katy Perry songs are the fucking WORST. Bah! Tired cliches belted out and computerated over computer generated music-ish algorithms. Zero depth. Zero musicality. Awful stuff