commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Morality of a Dungeon
I agree with Dan.
As far as the rest of it goes, in the unlikely event that I found it necessary to judge, I'd want to know how much of the money went for basic remodeling of a basement and how much for specifically-dungeon-and-no-other-use stuff (especially stuff that can't move with them later.)
My guess is that a serious chunk of that change went more to things like walls and flooring, lighting and heating than to things like crosses and bondage tables. If they chose to include a bathroom (and who wouldn't, for that money?) and so on.
If resale is an issue, paint is pretty cheap.
We've got a playspace in our basement, and didn't remodel to do it, and spent next to nothing, since we didn't finish the walls or floor and get by with space heaters.
Honestly, a serious home dungeon makes FAR more sense to me than some of the "home theaters" I've seen.
@52, can't speak for anyone else, but we use ours all the time.
commented on SLLOTD: Call Me
"It's rare for a truly kinky person to meet someone with whom he's sexually and emotionally compatible. (Am I right, kinksters?)"
I don't know about rare, but certainly challenging.
You need pretty much all the compatibility factors of any other relationship, and all the challenges that finding a compatible partner involves, and then on top of that, you add whatever additional specifics that your particularly kinks require added compatibility for.
It's not dissimilar to two gay men finding each other but realizing that they are total bottoms, or two people finding that they have everything in common but an irreconcilable religious difference.
The kinkier you are, the more of those specific things need to link up - and even with something like "Dom/sub" there are so many different ways to play it that you have to find the right KIND of matching partner.
So, yeah, definitely don't throw it away just because it started as an internet booty call.
But seriously, Dan missed a huge opportunity to compare this to a gay bar hookup one-night-stand trick that sticks.
Far from being a reason to chuck it all, it's worth remembering that the very fact that the two of you were looking for potential playmates in the same place to start with means you START with that in common. Who cares if the story of how you met sounds funny to people at your golden wedding anniversary party?
commented on This Just In
I've seen those photos of Terry. There is NO conversion therapy that would pry Dan loose.
commented on Paula Deen
Let's not forget that, media coverage aside, this wasn't just about a single use of an unacceptable word. The whole issue arose in court in a lawsuit about a whole pattern of this sort of thing and systematic racial discrimination throughout a pretty large organization headed by Deen.
Whatever her personal views or her personal style, as a businesswoman in the 21st century, she (or her lawyers) had an obligation to behave appropriately and in accordance with state and federal law.
It's for the courts to decide whether there's any merit in the legal claims against her. But it's certainly valid for Food Network to decide not to renew her contract if doing so makes them appear to be complicit. As big a money-maker as she is for them, I doubt this is just a knee-jerk response to unsubstantiated allegations. It could be. People who should have known better have jumped the gun before this.
I suspect she will be rehabilitated by the PR machine and rise from the ashes in short order.
commented on Slog Bible Study: 1 Chronicles 1:25
Wasn't that from that Star Trek episode where the energy creature had been a serial killer in different bodies for millennia - like Jack the Ripper and so on?
commented on Less Than a Quarter of Americans Have Confidence in Newspapers
It's a bit scary to me that I went through the list going, "Nope. Nope. Nope."
I can't answer it without being able to be specific about just what it is that I have confidence in any of those particular groups to do, or in some cases, which subsets of them - I have more confidence in my local public schools than the ones in Texas or Kentucky, for example, and I trust organized labor to stand up for the workers, but a bit less when they get involved in some aspects of politics, and so on.
Similarly, I'm reasonably confident about "the military" - but only if I am allowed to separate out how they get the job done from who gets to decide just what that job is and how those decisions get made. I trust military people, but not so much the uses to which our military is often put. And they are still way behind the curve on how to treat their female members.
And so on.
There isn't a single group on that list that I would trust implicitly.