commented on You Get a Hymen! You Get a Hymen! Everybody Gets a Hymen!
There's a difference between wanting to use one of these for fun and NEEDING to use one of these because your life depends on it.
Child marriage happens in the US, too, usually among immigrant populations from the countries where, yes, most women are complicit in their own and their daughters' oppression because it can be dangerous NOT to flow with the status quo.
As to 'how it's being marketed'...notice anything about that video? Low/no budget? Hand vagina? ONLY hands (of a woman? of a man?) There is only the necessary info, demonstrated in a rudimentary way with absolutely NO EXTRAS of any kind. Yeah...marketed? On the ultra DL, maybe. Otherwise, instructional video at its most basic.
Taking issue with the characterization of this product as inherently supporting the patriarchy is the most obtuse, privilege-blind reaction one could have.
That's not to say that if indulging in faux virginity-taking is your thang, it can't also be purchased for that or any other reason.
But let's be real:
What came first, the virginity test or the fake-bleeding hymen? Hmm....chicken, egg, chicken, egg....
commented on The Monday Morning News
"But I guess anything to distract from the way the EU is raping the Greek economy."
Nothing can distract from the jarringly casual and unnecessarily misused analogy in the above statement. C'mon, Goldy.
commented on Fox News Goes Big
55" touch screens? At which one sits as though at a lovely-sized monitored computer, but without a frakkin' mouse?
My arms hurt just looking at that shit.
commented on Savage Love
Wow, this comment thread. Fist bump. Thanks for being the voice of reason and sense.
I think everyone else missed the info you stated about your friend having narrowly avoided being attacked herself one night, before this incident at the party.
The statistics show this out; chances are, the majority of the women you know and/or are dating have experienced some degree or form of sexual harassment or even sexual assault.
She has a right to defend her bodily autonomy.
Men should assume the women they are with have been infringed upon before and to proceed with respect, deferring to their partner's enthusiastic, unmistakable consent.
In the event of lolorhone's friend pulling a knife to emphasize just how seriously her boundary transgressing boyfriend was NOT taking her repeatedly, clearly-stated dissent to his groping, especially because she had been scared into hyper-vigilance from her previous encounter; though, that shouldn't matter, but it goes to context; she defended herself with what I see as a level-playing field tactic.
That this thread shows just how seriously gendered violence isn't taken doesn't surprise me in the least.
Fist bump, lolorhone. Your friend is badass; I would that more women and girls didn't have to break through our socially instilled fear of offending others who transgress our boundaries. Maybe then guys wouldn't have to assume some other guy has already harassed the women they interact with.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: POOP!
Yeah, I hated receiving oral until I came and came and came from someone who knew what he was doing. Fast. Like, not even 5 minutes.
Before being blessed by the clit-licking, finger-pumping Adonis, I just "preferred" not to get oral, but really, the ex had no clue (he assumed he should use his tongue as a phallic replacement and instead of drawing the ABCs on my clit, tried to do so in my vagina...yeah, not so nice, actually) and I didn't know what it SHOULD be like, he was my first BF, I was young, so it was just this weird, uncomfortable time-out during otherwise awesome sex--I'm an easy comer, multiples from PiV only, breast play only, so you'd think oral'd be cinch on me. Turns out, yep, yep it is, if you do it right.
This is weird because it's not a regular SLOTTD, so no LW, but, yo, maybe gay troll! You don't have to climb up her vagina! Just try playing with her clit, it's like a mini penis! Just like a guy, though, you gotta watch out; if you get it right, you might find you've an eruption on your hands, or even better, your face :P
Though, you should probably find a glory hole stat, if only for a concise diagnosis.
commented on The Experiences of a 17-Year-Old Feminist
Thanks to douchetroll and his kindly demonstration, we now all know why women-only spaces are sometimes necessary in order to further feminist discourse; sorry ally-fellas, a few bad apples ruin the whole bunch. We appreciate you, we really do, but rotten fruit has a way of propagating misogyny flies and limiting progress, which, of course, is their raison d'être.
commented on Interview with an Anti-Choice Woman
I don't ever want to get married. I still like to fuck. And I don't ever wanna limit myself to one sexual partner for forever.
Marriage as an institution does not (and especially historically did not) benefit women; rather it's purpose was to control and to consign women to the smaller sphere of the home rather than allow them to participate fully and equally in society. Hell no to that mess.
Lady, I can potentially get pregnant and I would have an abortion faster than you could say Jesus Christ. You have your beliefs, fine. Don't believe in abortion? Don't have one. But do not presume to inject yourself into another woman's life of which you know nothing.
"She made her decision when she decided to have sex."
Sure, so did the guy.
The point is that pregnancy should not be a consequence and children should not be a punishment.
Not to mention, God has no place in this discussion in regard to constitutional law.
The real issue is not when life begins (even the bible says it's not a baby until it breathes air and God spits a soul into the kid) but that people have huge problems with women being able to control their own bodies and to have recreational sex. STDs could be considered a consequence of sex, but reasonable people understand that STDs are a risk, just like pregnancy is. That's why we try to prevent both with birth control and barriers and regular testing. When those fail, we have the morning after pill, Plan B or abortion as well as treatment plans for STDs.
Who are you to punish me with my biology? Should we make STD treatment illegal? I mean, those diagnosed with STDs made the decision to have sex, they should live with the consequences forever, regardless of the cost to self and society. And, hey, at least that'd be equal opportunity for both sexes (although, really, women are more vulnerable to STDs due to anatomy, not to mention pregnancy, lolsob).