May 16
femwanderluster commented on It's Spring! Who's Ready for Street Harassment?.
femwanderluster commented on It's Spring! Who's Ready for Street Harassment?.
Firstly: HOLLABACK sistas! http://www.ihollaback.org/
"A non-profit and movement to end street harassment powered by local activists in 64 cities and 22 countries." Put those smart phones to good use: document your harasser and then post his picture along with the story of your experience. Don't engage, document! No clever retorts necessary.
Here, fellas, if you refuse to listen to women, maybe you'll get it from a man:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KTvSfeCR…
This is the link to Jackson Katz's TEDxTalk on why we think of rape and domestic violence as 'women's issues' when they're actually men's issues.
Any guys care to answer this question: why are men committing mass shootings and violence and sexual violence against women, children and other men on such an overwhelming scale?
But yeah, let me smile for you, what was I thinking? Walking around wearing my face, ahem, wait, my bitchface *hack*cough*sputter* oh, silly me, I meant to say my CUNTFACE. You'll have to excuse me, I am but a lowly member of the sex class, I mean, obviously my face and my body are not my own to control. However can I put your desires and needs above any and all of my own?
Puke.
Pathetic leaky fuckin' cocks.
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"A non-profit and movement to end street harassment powered by local activists in 64 cities and 22 countries." Put those smart phones to good use: document your harasser and then post his picture along with the story of your experience. Don't engage, document! No clever retorts necessary.
Here, fellas, if you refuse to listen to women, maybe you'll get it from a man:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KTvSfeCR…
This is the link to Jackson Katz's TEDxTalk on why we think of rape and domestic violence as 'women's issues' when they're actually men's issues.
Any guys care to answer this question: why are men committing mass shootings and violence and sexual violence against women, children and other men on such an overwhelming scale?
But yeah, let me smile for you, what was I thinking? Walking around wearing my face, ahem, wait, my bitchface *hack*cough*sputter* oh, silly me, I meant to say my CUNTFACE. You'll have to excuse me, I am but a lowly member of the sex class, I mean, obviously my face and my body are not my own to control. However can I put your desires and needs above any and all of my own?
Puke.
Pathetic leaky fuckin' cocks.
May 16
femwanderluster commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mind Control.
femwanderluster commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mind Control.
@33 Sure, whatever you say. You know this guy better than he does himself. Got it.
May 16
femwanderluster commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mind Control.
femwanderluster commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mind Control.
@31 "Probably not, but he's struggling with it, so he needs to be more honest with himself."
Says you. He sounds more with it than most SL LWs. I disagree.
I hope he manages to figure this out. I think he might just need a temporary break from these stories to let his own imagintion recharge; he should try to masturbate without porn or erotic stories, but with closed eyes. Stories can make one's imagination lazy until one can't remember how turn oneself on.
Basically, he has the thought/mind version of the overzealous habitual masurbator who then finds his physical/ body response to actual sexual partners dulled/can only get himself off in one particular, familiar way. I think this LW needs to change how he involves his brain in his masturbation. To step back from what he's always done so he can experience more variety and satisfaction from his sexlife.
Also, his fantasy isn't to fake rape someone. He wants the magical hypnotism, which he acknowledges is more impossible than it is possible. So for him, in real life, that's out. He also would want to hypnotize a straight man and make him do things against his will, which he is not willing to do because he doesn't actually want to force someone. Pretending, play-acting, is NOT this guy's fantasy which is why he wants to move beyond it. What can he fantasize about that he can do for real without faking it? THAT's what my reading comprehension left me with from his letter.
Again, what is difficult to understand about that? Man, I feel for this guy, people hear him but they don't listen.
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Says you. He sounds more with it than most SL LWs. I disagree.
I hope he manages to figure this out. I think he might just need a temporary break from these stories to let his own imagintion recharge; he should try to masturbate without porn or erotic stories, but with closed eyes. Stories can make one's imagination lazy until one can't remember how turn oneself on.
Basically, he has the thought/mind version of the overzealous habitual masurbator who then finds his physical/ body response to actual sexual partners dulled/can only get himself off in one particular, familiar way. I think this LW needs to change how he involves his brain in his masturbation. To step back from what he's always done so he can experience more variety and satisfaction from his sexlife.
Also, his fantasy isn't to fake rape someone. He wants the magical hypnotism, which he acknowledges is more impossible than it is possible. So for him, in real life, that's out. He also would want to hypnotize a straight man and make him do things against his will, which he is not willing to do because he doesn't actually want to force someone. Pretending, play-acting, is NOT this guy's fantasy which is why he wants to move beyond it. What can he fantasize about that he can do for real without faking it? THAT's what my reading comprehension left me with from his letter.
Again, what is difficult to understand about that? Man, I feel for this guy, people hear him but they don't listen.
May 14
femwanderluster commented on SL Letter of the Day: I'm Out.
femwanderluster commented on SL Letter of the Day: I'm Out.
@225
bitch, slut, whore, pussy, cunt--all limbs on the same patriarchal, misogynist tree, my privileged fellow commenter.
@223
"Cunt' is not a pejorative synonym for women in the way 'nigger' is a pejorative synonym for black people or 'faggot' is a pejorative synonym for gay men."
Yeah, no. Because this:
"Some words are taboo and frowned upon because they are pejorative put-downs of minorities or oppressed groups; 'nigger' and 'faggot' are examples of this."
is bullshit.
Women aren't an oppressed group? Or considered a minority despite making up a little more than half the world's population? What planet are you living on? Or did Australia succeed from Earth?
fucking cocks
bitch, slut, whore, pussy, cunt--all limbs on the same patriarchal, misogynist tree, my privileged fellow commenter.
@223
"Cunt' is not a pejorative synonym for women in the way 'nigger' is a pejorative synonym for black people or 'faggot' is a pejorative synonym for gay men."
Yeah, no. Because this:
"Some words are taboo and frowned upon because they are pejorative put-downs of minorities or oppressed groups; 'nigger' and 'faggot' are examples of this."
is bullshit.
Women aren't an oppressed group? Or considered a minority despite making up a little more than half the world's population? What planet are you living on? Or did Australia succeed from Earth?
fucking cocks
May 14
femwanderluster commented on SL Letter of the Day: Insane Demands.
femwanderluster commented on SL Letter of the Day: Insane Demands.
@7 Pussies are strong, (limp) dicks are weak and prominantly vulnerable.
Ugh.
Ugh.
May 14
femwanderluster commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mind Control.
femwanderluster commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mind Control.
@26 but he does not come off as shameful or as an unselfaware person:
"I'm not beating myself up for being a "bad person," because my desire to try this in real life is nil for reasons of its impossibility (true hypnosis is something different and I am effectively fantasizing about magic) and immorality (sex without consent is rape). For the latter reason especially, I'm rather uncomfortable with my "addiction" to this fantasy."
He wants to fantasize about something he can potentially really do in real life:
1. the "magic" kind of hypnosis is not feasible
2. even if it were, he is not a rapist and would not want to become one
So everyone saying, 'just pretend, man, you can't change!' (paraphrasing for brevity) are not offering real solutions to his issue. If it is some kind of guilt, it's not due to sexual repression or religion etc, nor would that guilt be "misplaced"; it's because this guy is a good guy, a moral one in the most basic sense, and he doesn't want to 'get over' the hurdle of his morality.
Nor should he want to; who encourages someone to become a rapist, even a pretend one, when that person is obviously not cool with that idea?:
"This is not something I'm interested in "accepting"."
Why does no one else want to take the LW at his word?
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"I'm not beating myself up for being a "bad person," because my desire to try this in real life is nil for reasons of its impossibility (true hypnosis is something different and I am effectively fantasizing about magic) and immorality (sex without consent is rape). For the latter reason especially, I'm rather uncomfortable with my "addiction" to this fantasy."
He wants to fantasize about something he can potentially really do in real life:
1. the "magic" kind of hypnosis is not feasible
2. even if it were, he is not a rapist and would not want to become one
So everyone saying, 'just pretend, man, you can't change!' (paraphrasing for brevity) are not offering real solutions to his issue. If it is some kind of guilt, it's not due to sexual repression or religion etc, nor would that guilt be "misplaced"; it's because this guy is a good guy, a moral one in the most basic sense, and he doesn't want to 'get over' the hurdle of his morality.
Nor should he want to; who encourages someone to become a rapist, even a pretend one, when that person is obviously not cool with that idea?:
"This is not something I'm interested in "accepting"."
Why does no one else want to take the LW at his word?
May 14
femwanderluster commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mind Control.
femwanderluster commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mind Control.
@17 why does his discomfort have to be caused by "guilt"? He doesn't say he feels guilty, just that he has no interest in accepting this particular fantastical tangent.
May 13
femwanderluster commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mind Control.
femwanderluster commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mind Control.
I disagree. I think a person can find themselves aroused by situations or fantasies that really do not mesh with their personal standards or principles or philosophies. It sounds like this guy is hip to the whole power dynamic thing re:consent and he is clearly uncomfortable that his body responds to something that his mind is not cool with. I don't think it's necessarily a hard-wired thing to like a specific kink/fantasy--to be clear I do not think this is true of everyone or every kink/fantasy; just that this particular person does not like the direction his has taken and wants to change it. Why is this a hard thing to get? He can't change his orientation (not that he'd want to or should), but he can certainly change his sexual behaviors, especially if he is affected by that behavior in his daily life beyond his mastaburtory sessions. People can get into porn ruts, just like couples, wherein each session is the same and can follow the same routine/ritual--he is unhappy that this is now his selflove habit and I trust the guy to know himself enough to know that this doesn't feel like a healthy expression of his sexuality. Not everyone enjoys historically typical heterosexual power dynamics.
We are all affected by traditional cultural mores, particularly messages about sex and gender roles. I say good on this guy for his intropection and recognizing a pattern of behavior he's unhappy with and taking steps to change that.
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We are all affected by traditional cultural mores, particularly messages about sex and gender roles. I say good on this guy for his intropection and recognizing a pattern of behavior he's unhappy with and taking steps to change that.
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