6:46 PM yesterday DRF commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: She Needs Help! NOW!.
@2 Because if you're a woman in your forties and are of average appearance, you have the whole media telling you that no one's ever going to love you romantically, so when even a below-average guy shows up and pays attention, you think you got a rare, lucky thing that is not likely to happen again. This LW probably thinks it's either her current boyfriend or never having a boyfriend ever again.
6:42 PM yesterday DRF commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: She Needs Help! NOW!.
He lost his job so what exactly was his reason not to move closer to this woman and kids who adore him? If he wasn't cheating on her, he was probably cheating on someone else with her as the piece on the side. Or maybe a relationship in which the other party makes all the effort just suits him.

It's so easy for us to tell someone else to DTMFA. It's a bit like telling someone to quit their job because their boss sucks. Well, you are getting something out of your job: a paycheck and validation and there's no telling how long it'll take to get a new job.

Still, DTMFA. He's made his priorities clear.
Nov 30, 2016 DRF commented on Savage Love.
Could FTWTF's boyfriend have a rash or uncomfortable undergarments? Perhaps a trip to the doctor would sort this out. Better do it before they repeal Obamacare!
Nov 22, 2016 DRF commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Dear Old—Really Old—Mom and Dad.
Another great answer. "Let's not talk about politics, religion or sex in situations in which people cannot easily get up and walk away" used to be standard etiquette.

People are allowed to love their parents, their friends, their spouses even if those people did something bad. They're allowed to think that the bad thing is no big deal, even if it affects a whole lot of other people. They're allowed to think it is a big deal and be angry and happy and disappointed and admiring all at the same time.
Nov 16, 2016 DRF commented on Savage Love.
KHH should marry his boyfriend and feel no guilt about the timing. Countless straight couples have gotten married earlier than they would have due to a surprise event (usually a pregnancy but legal issues too), and many of them have stayed married.

So get married, and if anyone asks say "We were worried Trump would repeal gay marriage." It is true. If it doesn't work out, get a divorce after your BF has his green card in hand and part ways knowing you both did the right thing.
May 23, 2016 DRF commented on Your Donald Trump Reader.
@18 Al Gore lost for several reasons, but the margin was so small, that if any one of them had been removed, the butterfly ballot or claiming to have served in Vietnam or inventing the Internet, he'd have won.
May 23, 2016 DRF commented on Your Donald Trump Reader.
What I like in this post is that Mr. Savage distinguishes between Donald Trump and normal Republicans (even what's been normal post-Bush). I have friends who are Rep and conservative and they deserved better than this.

What they should take away? "Trump will owe the party nothing." That's key. The conventional Republicans are rallying because they're hoping to buy some voice in any future administration, and they're not going to get one.
May 18, 2016 DRF commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: How Can I Be a Good Ally to My Abusive Trans Ex?.
I ordinarily use the most recent expressed pronoun even when referring to events that took place before the person's transition, but if LW is at, say, a support group and talking about her experiences, then the fact that M is trans is an afterthought. She should go ahead and say "she" and explain that M was a then-pre-transition trans man if it is ever relevant.
May 3, 2016 DRF commented on Savage Love.
Fichu and Philiphile both offered good advice, I think. Some middle ground would probably leave WWWM better off. Probably her dates too.
May 3, 2016 DRF commented on Savage Love.
Been thinking about WWWM. Maybe she'd do well in a situation in which she could get to know guys for long periods outside of a romantic relationship before suggesting they enter one (meet guys at a volunteer organization or join some kind of athletic group that's mostly guys), but that makes me wonder about a female version of Nice Guy syndrome. She'd basically be pretending to be just a friend (or actually being a friend and pretending not to be anything else) while surreptitiously evaluating guys for Mr. Right-ness.

Thoughts on whether it'd work? Thoughts on the ethics of it?