commented on Brian Brown Suggests Terry and I Stole Our Son from His Biological Parents
As Dan suggests, memory is a funny thing, and one of the things that can affect it is cognitive dissonance. When asked by a person whose family he would tear apart, Brian lacked the courage to answer the question directly. What his answer would have been is clear, but he could not say the words: Yes, I think your son should be taken from you. He lacked the courage of his convictions.
Because he chickened out, in his memory Terry has to be intimidating: irrational, hateful. Otherwise, he has to ask himself why he wouldn't answer the question, and the answer to THAT question might be: because he no longer feels confident that tearing this family apart would be the right thing to do. Which flies in the face of his deeply held beliefs, resulting in MORE questions.
Cognitive dissonance can be very uncomfortable. It can also be a learning moment, or a cowardly one. Brian went with Option B.
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: What Should the Duggars Have Done?
Milkshake - 9 and 11, and neither child being coerced - that's more like playing doctor. A fifteen year old and a five-year-old - that is abuse. Fourteen and fifteen year-old brains are not fully developed, adolescent impulse control is not all there and so on, so the adult Josh Duggar is not necessarily a pedophile; but it is not in any way normal for a 15-yr-old boy to want to fondle his five-year-old sister's genitals.
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Nothing against the comic, but Slog really ain't what it used to be. I used to come here for interesting takes on what's happening in the world. Now I wonder why I come here at all.