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Dec 9 avast2006 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Hand Jive.
While she says this: "our sex life now goes like this: intercourse for 5 minutes, 8 if I'm lucky" she also says this: "While he is incredibly giving sexually and makes sure I get off every time,"

So, Letter Writer, how exactly does that work? Are you saying that he gets you off every single time with a mere 5 - 8 minutes of intercourse? And nothing else?

If there is nothing else but the 5-8 minutes of dicking, then based purely on number of orgasms produced, the two of you are basically even. He gives you one, then you give him one. I'm assuming that one is all he gets per night. Are you feeling cheated because you used to get several, and now only get one? But he only ever gets one.

Going only on what you put in the letter, he can make you come in 5-8 minutes. How long does it take you to make him come with a handjob? Do you have to put in half an hour to make him come once, compared to the 5-8 minutes he spends on you? Maybe he should be willing to put in as much time on you as you spend on him.
Nov 14 avast2006 commented on This Moment: Richard Rorty Called It.
I'm not looking at moral fiber, I am looking at self-interest. Progressives seem to think they can get people to do their bidding by persuading them that they are intrinsically horrible people and need to redeem themselves. Then some other guy comes along and says, "Nah, you guys are okay. We're gonna take care of this." I'm not debating the correctness of whether whites are in fact privileged -- of course we are -- but which offer sounds more attractive to the average, emotionally-driven, self-interested primate? For gods' sake, offer a guy a good deal if you want him to buy it. How many pairs of shoes would you expect to sell by telling your prospective customer that he sucks but that buying your shoes will make him slightly less evil?

There's also the 49% of the eligible voting public who have given up and stayed home. Almost twice as many as either Repubs OR Dems. If those folks are not flocking to your camp, then your value proposition sucks.

The other big thing was that the public was clearly in the mood for an outsider to come in and clean house, and the Democrats spent the entire year putting on the Party Bosses' Choice Primary. The message was hammered over and over and over again, that Bernie couldn't possibly win, because Superdelegates. An Ipsos exit poll found that 68% of respondents agreed with the proposition that "traditional parties don't care about people like me." The Democratic Party spent an entire year doing an extremely public job of confirming that fear. And then they stand there trying to pick their jaw off the floor while the public goes wild over the guy who runs rings around his own party leaders.

Don't get me wrong, I am liberal myself. Registered Democrat for decades. I see the coming harm and and it terrifies me and breaks my heart. It just frustrates the hell out of me to see liberals fall on their faces for stupid reasons. If you can't beat a racist, sexist, xenophobic, tax evading, contractor cheating, know-nothing, billions-losing, multiple-bankruptcy, pussy-grabbing, child molester for president, how shit must your program be?

The Democratic party machinery got a stunning rebuke this year. Hopefully they are not too stupid and arrogant to reevaluate why they can't attract enough support to succeed. It would be smart to hand the entire upper echelon, starting with Debbie Wassermann Schultz, their walking papers.
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Nov 13 avast2006 commented on This Moment: Richard Rorty Called It.
And before you jump down my throat as a Trump supporter, I voted Clinton.
Nov 13 avast2006 commented on This Moment: Richard Rorty Called It.
And then there's Bernie:

Bernie to EVERYONE in the 99%: "ALL of you people have been getting screwed over by the rich elite, and we are going to fix that." Democrats to Bernie: "Go away, you're not even a Democrat."

Is it even faintly dawning on Democrats just how hopeless they are at salesmanship?
Nov 13 avast2006 commented on This Moment: Richard Rorty Called It.
"Around the same time, they will realize that suburban white-collar workers -- themselves desperately afraid of being downsized -- are not going to let themselves be taxed to provide social benefits for anyone else."

Suburban white-collar workers are generally pro-health-care, pro-Social-Security, pro-progressive-taxation (and higher brackets at the top), and pro-social-safety-net. The people who oppose all of the above are those who live in rural, low-density, low-salary areas. That, and the 1%. The quote is complete bullshit.

But it would be fair to say that Republicans have gotten their constituency to BELIEVE that about city folk. And frankly, radical progressives provide enough bullshit, self-parodying, rhetorical stupidity to confirm every teaspoonful of poison that the Hannitys of the world have been pouring in their ears of their listeners.

If you want to examine the reason white working class males deserted the Democratic Party this year, it's that progressive messaging relentlessly demonizes white males as inescapably compromised by their skin color and their Y chromosome, and everything that comes with it. Democrats/progressives made the fatal mistake of trying to treat the election as a social justice battleground, when they should have declared a temporary truce and concentrated on pulling in voters. Look at the fucking messaging.
Democrats to Blacks: "You people have gotten screwed over, and we are going to fix that."
Democrats to Women: "You people have gotten screwed over, and we are going to fix that."
Democrats to Latinx: "You people have gotten screwed over, and we are going to fix that."
Democrats to Muslims: "You people have gotten screwed over, and we are going to fix that."
Democrats to LGBTQ: "You people have gotten screwed over, and we are going to fix that."

Democrats to white males: "You people are structurally racist, structurally sexist, and have to start working harder to acknowledge how much better you have it than anyone else."

Trump to white males: "You people have been getting screwed over and Only I Can Fix That."

The fuck did you expect?
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Nov 8 avast2006 commented on Can a Cake Have an Internal Monologue?.
"You want a piece of me? C'mon!! You wanna piece of me?!"
Nov 7 avast2006 commented on Savage Love Letters of the Day: What's In a Name?.
One last thought and I will shut up on this topic: You have no idea how much contempt can be made to drip from even the simplest, one-syllable, common, WASP name. I do. You may think you are sparing him from being tortured by erasing your mistake, but you clearly have no idea. I can tell you from experience that the little shit-throwing troglodytes will seize on anything, and the difference between Benvolio and Scott isn't even going to slow them up.

And in the meantime, as I mentioned earlier, you are unintentionally being a name-bully yourself.
Nov 7 avast2006 commented on Savage Love Letters of the Day: What's In a Name?.
And this little toss-off line: "I let go this opportunity, agreed to the one other name we both thought was okay, and I have regretted it ever since."

Let's see that again in super-slo-mo: "I let go this opportunity, agreed to the one other name WE BOTH THOUGHT WAS OKAY, and I have regretted it ever since."

So, your husband hated the things YOU thought were super cool, and you hated the things HE thought were super cool. But naturally we are to just accept that you are the one with better taste, and therefore HE's the one who let your son down, even though the name the two of you settled on is actually in the middle, "the one other name we both thought was okay."
Nov 7 avast2006 commented on Savage Love Letters of the Day: What's In a Name?.
"You can call me that, but it's not my name."

I'll translate that for you: "My name is my name, and you seem to be the only one here invalidating it. You're the one telling me my name sucks and is wrong and I should be called something else. Thanks for siding with the bullies, bitch - I mean, "Mom." I'll call you that... "Mom" ... but you should be called something else."
Nov 4 avast2006 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: WOES Gets It, JABBER Doesn't Get It (But Doesn't Mind).
@JABBER: "On the other hand, if your only (or primary) marriage goal is "sex three times a week," then your marriage might be fucked in the long run."

A diet that is nutritionally perfect with the single glaring exception of being completely lacking in Vitamin C will still result in swollen, bleeding gums, loose or lost teeth, easy bruising, slow healing, shortness of breath, spots on the skin, joint pain, edema, and eventually, death. All from the lack of this one thing. Even though absolutely everything else is perfect.